Reminder: May 10th.

The Worst Piece I've Wrote.

Disclaimer:

What I’m about to share with you is honestly pure evil. I want you to be very careful when applying what follows because if used wrongly, it might be of negative impact to your entourage.

Every time I post about how to protect yourself from Manipulation, I get comments asking to learn more about the opposite (how to manipulate).

I don’t like this. This is not the type of content I want to be sharing, but I believe everyone should know this manipulation technique because it prevents betrayal. The topic of today is complex so follow carefully.

Please keep in mind that while this is highly manipulative, it is still to protect yourself from betrayal and not to do harm around you. We’re going to be talking about using people’s insecurities against them here.

I’m sure some of you will use this for the wrong ends but that’s not my responsibility.

Enough, let’s start.

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Part 1: The Danger

Sometimes all a manipulator wants is validation.

The most dangerous type of people are validation seekers.

Because they are seemingly harmless, even pathetic to a certain extent.

But “seemingly” is a keyword here.

And it is the very fact that makes them pathetic that also makes them dangerous.

Let me explain.

This type of people crave attention and validation.

For that, they are ready to do anything.

Now, the problem is, if you’re someone that is compassionate and empathizing, you will put yourself at risk.

Because you will be tempted to give them the attention they crave, and you will befriend them just because they tried to get closer to you.

That’s where it gets dangerous.

When a validation seeker gets your attention and care, their game is over.

They will no longer be as pleasant as they are, they will show their true face.

After all, they already got what they wanted, so why keep putting in effort?

So, best scenario is as follows:

They become unpleasant very quickly, you unfriend them and take your distances.

They don’t get time to get too close to you.

Problem is, if as we just said, you’re someone who is too compassionate and feels for others, you will have a hard time realizing the change in character. You will think of excuses and rationalize their behavior. They’re your friend now, so you have to be understanding right?

And you couldn’t be more wrong.

Here comes the worst case scenario:

They don’t become unpleasant.

They keep a decent relationship with you without being as needy, kind nor are they seeking your validation as hard.

Now you might even start thinking that you fixed them.

And again, you couldn’t be more wrong.

I say this is the worst case scenario because the closest this type of person gets to you, the more dangerous it gets for you.

Problems arise when other people become involved.

As it’s in their nature, they will try and get the new people’s validation.

You guessed that right.

They will do so at your expense.

Remember that these people are borderline obsessed.

The minor problem is: This is in fact the case for MOST people.

The major problem is: None of them knows it.

(Refer to my thread on traits of manipulators)

In short, having such people around you puts you at risk of betrayal

Having given them your validation, you become expandable.

They might steal from you, lie to you, lie about you or expose your secrets.

Any type of trust that you put in them, any information they know about you might be used against you.

For the sole purpose of getting validation from someone else.

In a way, this unconsciously leverage your own compassion against you.

Understand that these people have no specific goal nor poor intentions.

All they want is the maximum possible attention and validation.

They live for it.

Their whole life revolves around being accepted.

As I said, they will do whatever it takes to get it. The problem is that it goes unnoticed, because this is not a palpable and reasonable goal.

As a logical and sane person, their motives will not be easy for you to determine.

All you will think of them is that they are pathetic, innocent and need help.

Now the question is:

How do you avoid falling in this trap?

Part 2: The Solution

The whole concept of validation seeking stems from an insecurity.

Which is either a self-esteem issue and/or what is commonly referred to as fear of abandonment.

Often both.

The one thing that can be leveraged is that latter.

Because if you try and fix their self-esteem you fall in their trap.

Their fear of abandonment is so strong, that they cope by betraying you first (worst case), or walking away as soon as you start caring about them (best case).

This is what you can leverage against them.

What do they want? Validation.

What shouldn’t you give them? Validation.

The thing here is to give them validation the least frequently possible.

I know, I know this is evil but I told you at the start.

You need to understand that once you recognize this type of person for what they are, it might be already too late to go back.

Your only way out is by removing your affection, attention and validation.

Your goal should not be to get them to crave it again; but to simply extract yourself from this situation.

Ok I lied. Your goal is to make them crave it again.

That is how they won’t betray your trust.

Because you will never give them enough of it.

By juggling between giving attention and indifference, you mess with their settings.

They don’t know what to do to get what they want.

In which case there are two possibilities:

- They stick around and do everything you want
- They walk away in despair and disappointment

If you’re evil, you will seek the first one.

If you’re a sane person that is not going to use this information negatively, you will push them to the second one.

Do with this whatever you want, I was nothing but a messenger and bear no responsibility for how you use this.

I'm not even sure I should have shared this but fuck it.

Dealing With People Who Talk Behind Your Back

Your first instinct might be to confront the person about the things you've heard they've been saying about you.

This is strategically incorrect. If a person speaks ill behind your back, it means they're afraid to say those things to your face/in your presence. In some cases they may be trying to tarnish your image with falsehoods so they go around poisoning people's minds concerning you.

The best approach is to make sure they know that you know the things they've been saying, without you confronting them.

A slight change of attitude that's almost undetectable (except for the guilty) is how you go about this.

When someone speaks ill of you, they wait to see if you've heard the things they said, maybe the wind blew it by happenstance word reached you. They are especially observant of any slight changes in how you relate with them.

Guilt eats them and they want to know if the judge is aware of their crimes.

Make sure you display this slight change in attitude, and when you notice them getting uncomfortable, act like that's strange; like you don't expect them to be icked out for no reason.

This sends a clear message to the perpetrator that you're not the type of person to react to things quickly, first of all, and secondly that they could fuck things up real good and not know that you've caught up with them except you wanted them to know.

Were it that you confronted them at first, they'd rightfully assume you're the reactive type and that were shit to occur they'd know quickly if you're aware or not.

Knowing someone could be aware of your bullshit and say nothing about it creates this air of terror about them. You never know what they know, about what you've said concerning them, about YOU, about your skeletons in the closet. You're left guessing.

This mystery worries people a lot. They'll try to make up for it, try to win you over, try to get on your good side.

When they think of you, they'll be unsettled. All the while you give a smile, a knowing smile. But a communicative smile that says "I know what you did!"

Seize Control E. R.

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Conversation Mastery: Canceling an argument without having an argument to counter it.

What I'm about to talk about is more applicable to arguments than regular conversations. Especially when you're trying to prove a point or oppositely cancel the argument of the person in front.

The main purpose being to ridiculise their argument (even tho they might be overall correct).

I mentioned it briefly in the "responding to provocation thread", but let's go a bit deeper (and provide an example that you can go check at the end).

Let's start.

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Two important aspect of mastering the art of conversation are the following:

-Asking questions
-Looking out for details

And if you're able to combine both you automatically gain points in arguing skills, since you can trap people into their own inconsistencies.

Remember, if you can prove their bad faith, you basically won the argument.

How to?

First, you need to acknowledge the approach your interlocutor is taking because that sets the tone for how easy it will be to counter them.

Given that we're talking about an argument here, the easiest people to trap are the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) ones as they will automatically involve their own emotions in the conversation and unconsciously use logical fallacies, exaggeration and ad hominem attacks to get their point across.

That's for the easy part.

As an example you can take Johnny Depp's trial.

More specifically the moment Amber heard's lawyer asks him if he "poured a Mega pinte of wine".

Depp's answer is iconic and illustrates well the process I'm trying to convey to you.

He completely disregards the question and focus on the use of the word "Mega"

He simply repeat "a Mega pinte", which causes the audience to start laughing.

With just three words (not even his own), he managed to highlight the underlying intentions of the lawyer who was trying to exaggerate the situation.

Truth is, I think Depp really did pour himself a huge glass of wine.

But the fact he highlighted the poorly intentioned jab of the lawyer makes it so whether the fact is true or not, it becomes completely irrelevant in the face of the lawyer's poor intentions.

Depp didn't even need to say that the lawyer is implying anything.

He just used his own words against him and completely dodged the initial question.

However, this becomes harder to apply with someone who masters the art of wordplays and who's overall a good conversationalist.

It becomes harder because they make sure not to make their intentions obvious while still making sure they're felt.

But be careful:

You should never directly ask about their intentions behind their words.

They can simply deny and use the same thing against you.

Instead, you should look for specific words or sentences that betray your interloctor's intention.

What if you can't?

I got you.

Remember, the first needed skill I mentioned was asking questions.

In fact, you can keep acting like you're not understanding what they are saying until they slip and use words that you can use against them.

Your goal is to highlight the poor intentions and bad faith.

Your goal is not to be right.

It's to shake your interloctor and unveiling their poor intentions.

As you do this, their credibility goes down and down and their own confidence will decrease.

As you will keep using their own words against them and making them repeat themselves until they slip up, you make sure to destabilize them and increase the chances of them not being able to formulate their ideas properly.

Stop fixing yourself. Become stronger instead.

The world and your experiences will break you. Our first instinct is to pick up the pieces and try to fix ourselves. This is wrong and stupid.

The version of you that broke was insufficient to overcome what pushed you past breakdow.

So why would you recreate the exact same thing again?

Instead, you should learn from the japanese.

In Japan when a vase falls and breaks they don’t throw it away nor do they fix it.

The pieces get reassembled. And how do they get the pieces back on the vase without fixing?

The old vase died. By improving it.

Instead of gluing the pieces together they use gold.

The places where the vase cracked now got stronger. Plus they got a beautiful spark.

So instead of trying to fix yourself because you got traumatized. Strengthen the parts of yourself that were too weak in the past.

Namaste 🙏🏽

We're postponing the launch by one week to make the audios even better.

How to say no to a guilt-tripping manipulator:

To counter most manipulations, you have to know how to say no to get rid of them.

Unfortunately, some manipulators still manage to get what they want from us by playing on our feelings of guilt.

In this case, saying no is not enough.

Here is a non-exhaustive series of guilt-inducing phrases used by a manipulator:

+ Look, I'm your friend, you can't deny me that!

+After all I have done for you, this is how you reward me?

+I've never refused you anything and you have the nerve to say no to me...

+You only think of yourself, and I don't give a damn!

+ How dare you do such a thing to me?

+ It's always the same thing, as soon as I ask for something, I'm refused.

The main thing is to understand that the guilt-tripper is trying to make us feel bad about ourselves. to make us feel bad about ourselves.

In this way, they try to make us regret our refusal and to make us regret our refusal and thus hope to make us change our minds.

See how some beggars know how to play this game to make it easier for the passer-by to open his wallet more easily.

To resist a guilt-inducing manipulator, the question to ask yourself is:

Am I guilty of what I am being accused of?

The answer is not the easiest and it is not a question of disguising oneself as a judge of peace to determine who is right and who is wrong.

Knowing how to evaluate, even approximately, the reality of a guilt-inducing manipulation counts.

To do this, it is sufficient to ask ourselves:

Is there a balance between what he is asking of me and what he says he has given me?

When you realize that you are in the presence of a guilt-tripping manipulator, you realize that there was no reason to feel guilty.

You can then serenely oppose and say no without needing to justify yourself.

Despite what they tell you, you owe them nothing.

Don't get involved in endless explanations either.

Shorten the conversation without complexes, avoiding aggression, devaluation, and irony.

👆🏻 That's a tiny part of one of the new scripts for Mental Warfare Strategies 2.0

Thought we'd share more about what we've been working on

Quick lesson on Body Language: The Middle Finger

You all know what it means.

The thing is, sometimes people will scratch their face, fix their glasses or point at something using the middle finger.

Let me tell you.

Its ALMOST never innocent.

Especially if their Index is free and can be used instead (the finger between the thumb and the middle one, for those who don't know it).

But.

Because there is always a but.

Its not because they use it while talking to you that it's against you.

It just shows an internal discomfort and it could be completely unrelated to the situation they're in.

You can however be sure that they most likely have something on their mind.

Something that makes them uncomfortable..

Watch out for when you do this yourself, it's a sign you have things to deal with.

Another Quick note: Honesty can be used as manipulation.

Be careful.

Its not because someone seemingly owns up for all their mistakes and flaws that they're genuine.

Sometimes, manipulative people will overshare and make sure to sound genuine as an attempt to gain trust.

What they're really doing by telling you the wrong things they do, is making you too accept their imperfections and poor behavior.

The goal is to make you say:

"Yea it's okay he's that way, he doesn't hide it, he just doesn't know any better"

If you find yourself finding excuses for other people's behavior...

Let me tell you.

You either love them or they are manipulating you.

In the worst scenario, it's both.

Stay vigilant but don't become paranoid.

WE MADE IT HALFWAY THROUGH FRENS LFG

Dropping a thread on this in a moment.