Forwarded from Atlas' Majliss (۞ Atlas ۞)
Building fruitful relationships:
Humans are creatures of habit.
When we find something that works, we repeat it until it becomes automatic.
When we have a problem, the brain will explore the options we already know and trust.
That's why no one does business with a stranger dming them out of the blue, but rather with someone they already know and trust.
If you want to forge new relationships, provide friendship without ulterior motives.
Don't expect anything in return.
Offer pure friendship and you'll win way more than you initially expected.
Humans are creatures of habit.
When we find something that works, we repeat it until it becomes automatic.
When we have a problem, the brain will explore the options we already know and trust.
That's why no one does business with a stranger dming them out of the blue, but rather with someone they already know and trust.
If you want to forge new relationships, provide friendship without ulterior motives.
Don't expect anything in return.
Offer pure friendship and you'll win way more than you initially expected.
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What does it take to achieve your goals?
3 things:
1- Belief
2- Method
3- Meaning
Belief that you can and will achieve your goals.
Believing that you have what it takes and are able to reach your goals is essential to make things happen.
Without it, you set yourself back by poisoning your own mind with negative thoughts that hinder your potential and slow down your progress.
How to fix?
Affirmations.
Replace automatic negative thoughts and doubt by positive affirmations.
Rewire your brain to think what you want it to think.
Now, for the method.
A method is the plan, tactics and tool you will have to use to reach your goals.
If all of those are not clear, sit your ass down and figure it out.
It might take time but as long as you check the belief box:
You WILL figure it out.
MEANING.
What is meant here is how meaningful would the rewards of achieving your goals be TO YOU.
Because if it's solely to impress someone, I got bad news:
You'll be disappointed.
Even if you do manage to impress them, you'll feel a void because it probably won't add anything meaningful to your life.
Instead, find your selfish reasons to achieve this goal.
Note them down.
Visualize yourself achieving your goal and feel what you expect to feel once you really do.
This image will stick in your mind and drive you forward.
3 things:
1- Belief
2- Method
3- Meaning
Belief that you can and will achieve your goals.
Believing that you have what it takes and are able to reach your goals is essential to make things happen.
Without it, you set yourself back by poisoning your own mind with negative thoughts that hinder your potential and slow down your progress.
How to fix?
Affirmations.
Replace automatic negative thoughts and doubt by positive affirmations.
Rewire your brain to think what you want it to think.
Now, for the method.
A method is the plan, tactics and tool you will have to use to reach your goals.
If all of those are not clear, sit your ass down and figure it out.
It might take time but as long as you check the belief box:
You WILL figure it out.
MEANING.
What is meant here is how meaningful would the rewards of achieving your goals be TO YOU.
Because if it's solely to impress someone, I got bad news:
You'll be disappointed.
Even if you do manage to impress them, you'll feel a void because it probably won't add anything meaningful to your life.
Instead, find your selfish reasons to achieve this goal.
Note them down.
Visualize yourself achieving your goal and feel what you expect to feel once you really do.
This image will stick in your mind and drive you forward.
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How to detach your ego from people's opinion and improve your self-sufficiency
Here is the thing, while developing a strong and healthy ego you will face one big resistance.
That resistance being the urge to please and/or impress others.
This is inevitable.
But don't worry.
Here is how you're gonna get past this stage, follow carefully.
In general, the need for social validation and acceptance is something most can't control.
However, there is often a cognitive dissonance and a feeling of regret that comes either right then or afterwards.
The trick:
Making the most of that negative feeling by using it as a moment of reflection.
Let that be a warning sign that you need to evaluate what you are doing/have done.
Now, ask yourself the following:
What do I want?
Do you want to impress/please or are you doing it for yourself?
Answering this question might seem complicated as you might be wrong in your answer.
So here is what you should ask yourself:
What do I value?
What is important to me?
This frames it different because many people just do not know what they want.
However, we all know what we value.
So, do you value someone else's satisfaction or do you value your own?
Who are you going to satisfy through your action, will it be you or the person in front?
There are subconscious issues in each one of us, when unresolved, they might make you do things that you will regret or that could affect your self-esteem negatively.
This is why it's important to ask yourself what is the most valuable thing you thrive for.
Constantly remind yourself of this.
If you're not getting anything out of it, don't do it.
There is no point in pleasing nor impressing others because they will forget about it anyway, but you won't.
Instead, please and impress yourself because you, a contrario to them, will always be grateful to yourself for doing so.
Here is the thing, while developing a strong and healthy ego you will face one big resistance.
That resistance being the urge to please and/or impress others.
This is inevitable.
But don't worry.
Here is how you're gonna get past this stage, follow carefully.
In general, the need for social validation and acceptance is something most can't control.
However, there is often a cognitive dissonance and a feeling of regret that comes either right then or afterwards.
The trick:
Making the most of that negative feeling by using it as a moment of reflection.
Let that be a warning sign that you need to evaluate what you are doing/have done.
Now, ask yourself the following:
What do I want?
Do you want to impress/please or are you doing it for yourself?
Answering this question might seem complicated as you might be wrong in your answer.
So here is what you should ask yourself:
What do I value?
What is important to me?
This frames it different because many people just do not know what they want.
However, we all know what we value.
So, do you value someone else's satisfaction or do you value your own?
Who are you going to satisfy through your action, will it be you or the person in front?
There are subconscious issues in each one of us, when unresolved, they might make you do things that you will regret or that could affect your self-esteem negatively.
This is why it's important to ask yourself what is the most valuable thing you thrive for.
Constantly remind yourself of this.
If you're not getting anything out of it, don't do it.
There is no point in pleasing nor impressing others because they will forget about it anyway, but you won't.
Instead, please and impress yourself because you, a contrario to them, will always be grateful to yourself for doing so.
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How to win an argument without having solid reasoning and proof
Disclaimer:
The following is not to be used to convince your interlocutor but rather convince the audience and showing them the person in front is wrong.
This is a technique used very often on political debates but seems to go unnoticed.
The reason I'm sharing this with you is to allow you to spot this rhetoric tactic and not fall for it.
I am not inviting you to use such deceptive conversation techniques.
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Stage 1: Triggering your interlocutor
If you're short on logical arguments, the safest way to still be right is by making the person in front of you sound wrong.
In order to do that, you have to drag the conversation towards emotions and completely disregard any sort of logic.
A few ways to do this is by responding to logical arguments by suggesting that your interlocutor lacks empathy by being too rational (emotional appeal). Or even directly criticizing the person in front instead of discussing their ideas.
This is all in order to destabilize the discussion and disturb your interlocutors thought process.
One this is done and a climate of animosity is installed, you can start phase 2.
Stage 2: Forcing the monologue through question bombing
While the tone of the conversation is getting more and more aggressive and emotional, you start framing the conversation by bombing your interlocutor with questions.
The goal here is not to get an answer from them but rather the opposite, what you are really doing is getting on their nerves.
This should be done in such way that you ask a question every time they start answering the previous one.
Very annoying but very effective.
You want to make them ask you to stop interrupting.
Once you get that, time to let them speak.
Stage 3: Letting your interlocutor speak
Here you want them to talk as long as possible, you have already been preparing them for this moment by disturbing them all along.
They should feel a relief as you completely shut up and start looking at them in the eye with interest and insistence. Intense eye contact to convey that you're not only listening but doing so willingly and with good faith.
But your disturbing act is not done yet.
As they start speaking, you should have a very expressive face and react with negative facial expressions to the point the person is making.
Not with anger but rather with disdain, a smirk, a smile or even a laugh now and then.
The idea is to make them more and more angry as they try to convey their message, while destabilizing their rational.
At the same time, you're also signaling to the audience that the points made by your interlocutor are not worthy of listening and that you have the answer to all of them.
Stage 4: Destroy the monologue
Yes, good old ad hominem.
You're not going to address any of the points made.
Instead you're going to attack the flaws of their rationale and the person.
Explain that they've monopolized the conversation and have been pretty aggressive all along.
Say that their ideas and speech are delusional and lack realism.
You don't need to explain, you just state.
The point here is to diminish the value of what was said.
The point is not to be right or propose better ideas.
You simply describe their monologue as dictatorial and delusional.
Make them look like they're evil and disconnected from reality.
Understand that in politics and mass influence and manipulation, the most important thing is not to be right but making the others wrong.
Again, the reason I'm sharing this with you is to warn you from poorly intentioned individuals who want to manipulate public opinion.
If you can spot someone doing this, don't vote for them and don't trust them. They have nothing to propose but they're good at show and rethoric.
Also understand this, the ones who express themselves the best are not necessarily the smartest.
Don't get fooled, learn this stuff.
Disclaimer:
The following is not to be used to convince your interlocutor but rather convince the audience and showing them the person in front is wrong.
This is a technique used very often on political debates but seems to go unnoticed.
The reason I'm sharing this with you is to allow you to spot this rhetoric tactic and not fall for it.
I am not inviting you to use such deceptive conversation techniques.
_
Stage 1: Triggering your interlocutor
If you're short on logical arguments, the safest way to still be right is by making the person in front of you sound wrong.
In order to do that, you have to drag the conversation towards emotions and completely disregard any sort of logic.
A few ways to do this is by responding to logical arguments by suggesting that your interlocutor lacks empathy by being too rational (emotional appeal). Or even directly criticizing the person in front instead of discussing their ideas.
This is all in order to destabilize the discussion and disturb your interlocutors thought process.
One this is done and a climate of animosity is installed, you can start phase 2.
Stage 2: Forcing the monologue through question bombing
While the tone of the conversation is getting more and more aggressive and emotional, you start framing the conversation by bombing your interlocutor with questions.
The goal here is not to get an answer from them but rather the opposite, what you are really doing is getting on their nerves.
This should be done in such way that you ask a question every time they start answering the previous one.
Very annoying but very effective.
You want to make them ask you to stop interrupting.
Once you get that, time to let them speak.
Stage 3: Letting your interlocutor speak
Here you want them to talk as long as possible, you have already been preparing them for this moment by disturbing them all along.
They should feel a relief as you completely shut up and start looking at them in the eye with interest and insistence. Intense eye contact to convey that you're not only listening but doing so willingly and with good faith.
But your disturbing act is not done yet.
As they start speaking, you should have a very expressive face and react with negative facial expressions to the point the person is making.
Not with anger but rather with disdain, a smirk, a smile or even a laugh now and then.
The idea is to make them more and more angry as they try to convey their message, while destabilizing their rational.
At the same time, you're also signaling to the audience that the points made by your interlocutor are not worthy of listening and that you have the answer to all of them.
Stage 4: Destroy the monologue
Yes, good old ad hominem.
You're not going to address any of the points made.
Instead you're going to attack the flaws of their rationale and the person.
Explain that they've monopolized the conversation and have been pretty aggressive all along.
Say that their ideas and speech are delusional and lack realism.
You don't need to explain, you just state.
The point here is to diminish the value of what was said.
The point is not to be right or propose better ideas.
You simply describe their monologue as dictatorial and delusional.
Make them look like they're evil and disconnected from reality.
Understand that in politics and mass influence and manipulation, the most important thing is not to be right but making the others wrong.
Again, the reason I'm sharing this with you is to warn you from poorly intentioned individuals who want to manipulate public opinion.
If you can spot someone doing this, don't vote for them and don't trust them. They have nothing to propose but they're good at show and rethoric.
Also understand this, the ones who express themselves the best are not necessarily the smartest.
Don't get fooled, learn this stuff.
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If you're suspecting that someone is lying, watch for these signs:
First of all, let's clear something out, a liar will behave in one of two ways, they will either be avoidant or confrontational. Which will depend on the nature of the lie, the person they're lying to and their own level of self-confidence.
We will call the avoidant behavior (A) and call the confrontational behavior (B) for simplicity.
This will apply to point 1 & 2.
1- Eye contact:
(A) Will find excuses to break eye contact like checking the time or phone, or even turning around whenever there is a sound in order to avoid the intensity of eye contact. They're subconsciously ashamed and a bit pressured to be in such position.
(B) Will maintain eye contact in an extremely intense and uncomfortable way, they will attempt to turn a normal conversational eye contact into a rapport of dominance where they will try to make YOU break eye contact as a way to prove to themselves that you believed them.
2- Defensiveness:
In both cases, this is a recurring pattern.
Someone who's lying deeply knows that they're exposed at the very moment they tell the lie.
They don't believe it themselves and try to convince both their interlocutor and themselves that what they said was the truth.
As such, they will get in a defensive position without even being attacked.
(A) will slide side notes or even swear in order to make themselves sound more credible.
Example: Saying 'I swear, this is exactly what happened' when nobody asked.
(B) will openly claim that their interlocutor doesn't believe them and react to clues that are not even there.
Example: 'What's that face you're making? You dont believe me?'
3- Physical Barriers:
They will turn around or put more distance between them and their interlocutor.
The point here is to signal through body language that there is nothing more to discuss, it's a subconscious attempt to cut the conversation short.
Which brings us to our next point.
4- Changing Subject:
An obvious one.
Someone who just told a lie will do their best to make you consider it factual and move to something else.
If they manage to make you discuss another point, they will think that you're not thinking about the lie they just told you.
5- Facial Body Language:
- Absence of emotions in their face besides their mouth as they cannot invent and feel the emotions involved in the story they're telling you (especially since it's not real, they don't have an emotional memory of the events)
- Touching their face: a cover up method and a subconscious way of protecting what comes out of their mouth. This is them feeling ashamed once again. Look out for this.
Disclaimer:
Don’t assume someone is lying based on body language, verbal signals, and eye movements ONLY.
Avoid assuming that someone is lying solely on isolated non-verbal clues or body language related signs.
Make sure the signs you are interpreting do not fit a pattern of behavior for said person; meaning that they usually do not do such things.
Something to take into consideration more importantly than the above mentioned is the inconsistencies and the lack of logic and rationale in the person's speech.
Bonus:
A trick to catch a liar is to ask them to tell you the story backwards.
If it's true, they will do it effortlessly.
If it's a lie, they will have a lot of trouble remembering the order correctly.
First of all, let's clear something out, a liar will behave in one of two ways, they will either be avoidant or confrontational. Which will depend on the nature of the lie, the person they're lying to and their own level of self-confidence.
We will call the avoidant behavior (A) and call the confrontational behavior (B) for simplicity.
This will apply to point 1 & 2.
1- Eye contact:
(A) Will find excuses to break eye contact like checking the time or phone, or even turning around whenever there is a sound in order to avoid the intensity of eye contact. They're subconsciously ashamed and a bit pressured to be in such position.
(B) Will maintain eye contact in an extremely intense and uncomfortable way, they will attempt to turn a normal conversational eye contact into a rapport of dominance where they will try to make YOU break eye contact as a way to prove to themselves that you believed them.
2- Defensiveness:
In both cases, this is a recurring pattern.
Someone who's lying deeply knows that they're exposed at the very moment they tell the lie.
They don't believe it themselves and try to convince both their interlocutor and themselves that what they said was the truth.
As such, they will get in a defensive position without even being attacked.
(A) will slide side notes or even swear in order to make themselves sound more credible.
Example: Saying 'I swear, this is exactly what happened' when nobody asked.
(B) will openly claim that their interlocutor doesn't believe them and react to clues that are not even there.
Example: 'What's that face you're making? You dont believe me?'
3- Physical Barriers:
They will turn around or put more distance between them and their interlocutor.
The point here is to signal through body language that there is nothing more to discuss, it's a subconscious attempt to cut the conversation short.
Which brings us to our next point.
4- Changing Subject:
An obvious one.
Someone who just told a lie will do their best to make you consider it factual and move to something else.
If they manage to make you discuss another point, they will think that you're not thinking about the lie they just told you.
5- Facial Body Language:
- Absence of emotions in their face besides their mouth as they cannot invent and feel the emotions involved in the story they're telling you (especially since it's not real, they don't have an emotional memory of the events)
- Touching their face: a cover up method and a subconscious way of protecting what comes out of their mouth. This is them feeling ashamed once again. Look out for this.
Disclaimer:
Don’t assume someone is lying based on body language, verbal signals, and eye movements ONLY.
Avoid assuming that someone is lying solely on isolated non-verbal clues or body language related signs.
Make sure the signs you are interpreting do not fit a pattern of behavior for said person; meaning that they usually do not do such things.
Something to take into consideration more importantly than the above mentioned is the inconsistencies and the lack of logic and rationale in the person's speech.
Bonus:
A trick to catch a liar is to ask them to tell you the story backwards.
If it's true, they will do it effortlessly.
If it's a lie, they will have a lot of trouble remembering the order correctly.
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I think we can all agree on this.
You've been reading me for a while, and you know.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1507449715880828934?s=19
You've been reading me for a while, and you know.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1507449715880828934?s=19
Twitter
E-go
Considering what I know, when I see "dark psychology" on Twitter, I laugh a lot.
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Forwarded from Verissimus
Be wary of who you choose to spend your time with.
There are people out there who would assume that you are in love with them or you like them simply because you choose to talk to them.
When you try to explain your position, they simply refuse to listen.
They instead place blame upon you for making them feel important or significant.
Understand, that such people are highly insecure human beings.
They desperately try to make themselves feel as if they are important in your eyes, even when they're not.
What is this behaviour if it's not insecurity?
They project their own views upon you so that they feel as if someone cares for them even when that is not the case.
They are afraid of confronting the absolute truth about their situation or circumstance.
They know within their heart, that they lie to themselves, but they don't have the sufficient courage to let it speak for itself.
Such people often live terrible life of endless projections.
They're constantly on search for someone who can fill the their inner void of their soul.
They don't realise that no one is coming to save them unless they try to save themselves and genuinely put an effort to seek the truth of their situation.
They don't realise that their external search for satisfying internal thirst is an endless chase.
They don't understand that they need to confront their innermost being in the mirror and ask it some of the toughest questions their soul is hiding.
There are people out there who would assume that you are in love with them or you like them simply because you choose to talk to them.
When you try to explain your position, they simply refuse to listen.
They instead place blame upon you for making them feel important or significant.
Understand, that such people are highly insecure human beings.
They desperately try to make themselves feel as if they are important in your eyes, even when they're not.
What is this behaviour if it's not insecurity?
They project their own views upon you so that they feel as if someone cares for them even when that is not the case.
They are afraid of confronting the absolute truth about their situation or circumstance.
They know within their heart, that they lie to themselves, but they don't have the sufficient courage to let it speak for itself.
Such people often live terrible life of endless projections.
They're constantly on search for someone who can fill the their inner void of their soul.
They don't realise that no one is coming to save them unless they try to save themselves and genuinely put an effort to seek the truth of their situation.
They don't realise that their external search for satisfying internal thirst is an endless chase.
They don't understand that they need to confront their innermost being in the mirror and ask it some of the toughest questions their soul is hiding.
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Tomorrow's post will be a story.
The story of a man who refused to fit in the system.
The story of a man who refused to fit in the system.
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One of tomorrow's posts*
The second one most probably. It'll take some time to write it properly.
The second one most probably. It'll take some time to write it properly.
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You struggle dealing with anxiety because you have a fixed mindset.
A growth mindset would allow you to approach such feelings as they are supposed to be felt:
Warning sign.
Rather than seeing anxiety as an end itself and as a problem itself, start viewing it from the perspective of potential growth.
Anxiety, as I've said in the past, is your subconscious reaction to new information and situation where it senses danger due to similarities with past experiences.
That's when you need to break the loop.
If you manage to turn this latest anxiety inducing situation into a lesson or memorable experience, you fix the triggers forever.
Next time, when faced with a similar situation you'll feel excitement instead because you'll have grown past the anxious feelings that are triggered by such setting.
Anxiety is an opportunity for growth and overcoming subconscious trauma.
The less you face your fears and the things that make you anxious the more you will become a victim of your own thoughts and anxiety.
One way to deal with anxiety is to try to point out the exact past event that got you to become anxious, remembering the choices you made that time and doing the exact opposite.
Most of the time, doing the exact opposite means taking action rather than staying still. Which, also most of the time, will make your anxiety disappear and make place for feelings of excitement as you start experiencing something new.
The real problem with anxiety isn't anxiety itself but rather giving up to feelings of anxiety and letting them take over control of your actions by paralyzing you.
Don't worry about worrying, make worrying a trigger to take action.
Anxiety solved.
A growth mindset would allow you to approach such feelings as they are supposed to be felt:
Warning sign.
Rather than seeing anxiety as an end itself and as a problem itself, start viewing it from the perspective of potential growth.
Anxiety, as I've said in the past, is your subconscious reaction to new information and situation where it senses danger due to similarities with past experiences.
That's when you need to break the loop.
If you manage to turn this latest anxiety inducing situation into a lesson or memorable experience, you fix the triggers forever.
Next time, when faced with a similar situation you'll feel excitement instead because you'll have grown past the anxious feelings that are triggered by such setting.
Anxiety is an opportunity for growth and overcoming subconscious trauma.
The less you face your fears and the things that make you anxious the more you will become a victim of your own thoughts and anxiety.
One way to deal with anxiety is to try to point out the exact past event that got you to become anxious, remembering the choices you made that time and doing the exact opposite.
Most of the time, doing the exact opposite means taking action rather than staying still. Which, also most of the time, will make your anxiety disappear and make place for feelings of excitement as you start experiencing something new.
The real problem with anxiety isn't anxiety itself but rather giving up to feelings of anxiety and letting them take over control of your actions by paralyzing you.
Don't worry about worrying, make worrying a trigger to take action.
Anxiety solved.
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If you're going to discuss a problem with someone who's close to you, the best way to deal with it is to start right away with a solution.
Then go backwards to the problems that have led to you wanting to discuss it and solve it out.
When doing so, make sure to be as clear and concise as possible. The more clarity and transparency the more you'll defuse tension and the person in front will be more open to the new ideas.
If they have questions or objections, make sure to fully address them. That is the only way to dismiss their emotional reaction and make them rationally understand the situation.
Don't leave uncertainties.
Make it short. Make it clear.
Answer everything.
Problem solved. Confrontation, none.
The moment one of you gets emotional, the conversation can easily go south and the idea a logical agreement will fade away.
That's why you need to remain in control, and this is how you can do it.
Then go backwards to the problems that have led to you wanting to discuss it and solve it out.
When doing so, make sure to be as clear and concise as possible. The more clarity and transparency the more you'll defuse tension and the person in front will be more open to the new ideas.
If they have questions or objections, make sure to fully address them. That is the only way to dismiss their emotional reaction and make them rationally understand the situation.
Don't leave uncertainties.
Make it short. Make it clear.
Answer everything.
Problem solved. Confrontation, none.
The moment one of you gets emotional, the conversation can easily go south and the idea a logical agreement will fade away.
That's why you need to remain in control, and this is how you can do it.
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Basedonia™ - By E-go
Tomorrow's post will be a story. The story of a man who refused to fit in the system.
I've written it and I'm hesitating to post it here. It might get misinterpreted by some people here so I might post it on Twitter instead
It's about what type of content I want to have on here. I know many people following me are young and I don't want them to get the wrong lessons from that story.
It's about what type of content I want to have on here. I know many people following me are young and I don't want them to get the wrong lessons from that story.
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