How to Change your Future, in the Present moment:

Your “fruits” are what your current state in life is in any topic. Your “roots” are what you did in the past to get here. A common mistake is we don’t differentiate between the two and most importantly, we don’t understand one is dependant on the other. The fruits is your lag indicator, the roots is your lead indicator.

Whatever you see currently, is the lag indicator. Always remember that the invisible - your characteristics, beliefs, habits and behaviours led to the current situation you are in. All those things are invisible and are your roots. Those invisible things have manifested what you have going on in your current world. If you are in an undesired situation, focusing on the current situation is not a very smart thing to do as it is a result of what you did in the past - aka the roots you planted in the past and the fruits you see now. It is looking at the lag indicator and wondering how to change it, without looking at the lead indicator.

This is a blessing because it allows you to shift the control completely into your control. It allows you to look at the roots, which you own and control at all times and *change* anything you want, on *your own terms* to get the desired fruit. So you change your future, in the present.

The process goes like this. Whenever I see something I don’t like, I go down to the root. Using this exact process:

- What is “fruit” in the current situation
- What do I not like about this temporary state
- What is the current “root” that caused this state to come about
- What is the ideal “fruit” I would like to have
- What is the required root for this
- How can I implement this immediately
- Declare the commitment to the new root and know that the fruit will be inevitable
- Action


-KAZ

It's important to keep in mind that your starting point when analyzing body language is evaluating Openness vs Discomfort.

People's body language will shrink and get 'aggressive' or 'tense' when they're not comfortable with the situation they're experiencing.

Remember that body language is a subconscious expression of the thoughts.

It's a shortcut to the inside of someone's mind.

Best part? They don't even know it.

Analyzing body language becomes all easy when you stop trying to pick up on micro expressions.

Analyzing micro expressions is literally taking things out context.

Yes micro expressions can say long.

No they're not everything.

Quite the opposite they're details.

Sometimes they're even signs that you can't trust.

Simply because that's what body language means to most people and that's what they'll try to fix first.

Focus on what they're not aware of.

It's a lot more information than you'll ever get from microexpressions.

Where do they direct their attention?

How physically involved in the conversation are they?

How long can they keep eye contact?

What direction is their body open to?

Those are the questions you should be asking yourself.

It doesn't matter if they smirked, laughed, looked surprised etc..

It's not 1 or a couple of signs, it's an attitude.

MSM is no longer trusted.

Here is the next generation propaganda.

It has already started but it's going to get worse.

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Thoughts?

A few principles I live by:

- Do not harm take no shit:

Mean well but be capable of harm. Not everyone wants what's best for you but it shouldn't make you have poor intentions towards people. That being said, make sure everyone that crosses you learns a lesson.

- Nothing they do is about me, nothing I do should be about them:

Understand that everyone lives on their own bubble. You don't matter in their world as much as you matter in yours. Never take anything personally and never let anything affect your self-esteem.

People will people.

- Loyalty, Loyalty, Loyalty:

Make it hard to get close to you but make it worth it. Those in your inner circle should have access to the best version of yourself. In case of betrayal, refer to point number 1. Take no shit.

- Everything will happen the way it's supposed to happen:

Yes there is fate and destiny. But what you're missing is that you forge it. Yes you are in control but what's out of your control should never destabilize you. Control what you can, deal with what you can't control.

Special thought to Solbrah for this one.

Last but not least, the most important one:

- Ego is not the enemy:

I refuse to be in a battle against myself. I control make ego, I make it. It obeys me and helps me navigate through life.

I am not in a fight against myself.
I am my best ally.

Have a blessed weekend @Basedonia

Understand this:

Each person perceives you from their own point of view.

Their own angle.
Their own reality.

Truth is, their perception of you is based on things that you can't control.

A random example:

If you look like someone they met before, chances are they will associate many things about you with said person's traits.

Just because you seem similar to someone, they will subconsciously assume that you and that person are similar to many extents.

If they trust said person, they will subconsciously feel safe around you and trust you.

Oppositely, if they had a negative experience with the person you remind them of, they will also subconsciously be more wary and careful with you.

This is something people can't control.

Human brains function like machine learning AI.

It always uses past experiences and results to "forecast" or try to forecast future events.

As such, people's past will be a huge factor in determining how they'll behave with you.

It's never really about you, it's almost always about them.

I'm going to explain this because it might be too nuanced.

There is a nuance that most could misinterpret here.

There is a huge difference between disappointed anger and fueling anger.

Instead of getting angry at yourself, you get angry at the failure and situation.

But even then there is still nuance and confusion.

Getting angry and refusing to fail is the whole process.

One without the other is completely useless.

The main point here is to be able to see beyond the frustration and use the emotional power of anger to help you achieve what you want to achieve.

It's stupidly simple.

Let me explain and illustrate for more simplicity.

You're an entrepreneur and you failed to reach your quarterly goals, or you're a student and you failed to get the grades you wanted.

Option A: Self-Pity and Anger directed towards yourself

I'm not good enough, my goals might have been set too high.

I'll just lower the bar next time.

>This is for losers, I don't even want to explain this option because it's simply not it.

Option B: Blame Projection and Unearned Arrogance

I did everything right, I don't understand why I didn't get what I wanted.

This is so unfair.

> Crybaby behavior. Absence of ownership and responsibility. If you think this way you need a reality check.

Option C: The only correct way to deal with failure.

I failed, I should have done more. I deserve better and should do better.

> No external parameter. Complete ownership for what you do wrong. Yes it's all on you but you don't pity yourself. Quite the opposite, you demand more from yourself.

It's not as much about wanting to win than it is about refusing to fail.

If you can't meet your own standards, raise your abilities.

If you can meet your own standards, raise your standards again.

You should be in a relentless quest towards achieving more.

There is no room for complacency, self-pity nor blame projection.

Keep eyes on progress, responsibility and mastery.

You are literally in control.

Last but not least:

Never believe than you can fail.
Be delusional about your ability to succeed.

Why? Because if you don't, you'll never know your limits.

And if you never reach your limits you never get better.

Find your limits and push them further.

That's what having a growth mindset means.

Building fruitful relationships:

Humans are creatures of habit.

When we find something that works, we repeat it until it becomes automatic.

When we have a problem, the brain will explore the options we already know and trust.

That's why no one does business with a stranger dming them out of the blue, but rather with someone they already know and trust.

If you want to forge new relationships, provide friendship without ulterior motives.

Don't expect anything in return.

Offer pure friendship and you'll win way more than you initially expected.

Doing an AMA on Instagram if any of you has questions to ask me.

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What does it take to achieve your goals?

3 things:

1- Belief
2- Method
3- Meaning

Belief that you can and will achieve your goals.

Believing that you have what it takes and are able to reach your goals is essential to make things happen.

Without it, you set yourself back by poisoning your own mind with negative thoughts that hinder your potential and slow down your progress.

How to fix?

Affirmations.

Replace automatic negative thoughts and doubt by positive affirmations.

Rewire your brain to think what you want it to think.

Now, for the method.

A method is the plan, tactics and tool you will have to use to reach your goals.

If all of those are not clear, sit your ass down and figure it out.

It might take time but as long as you check the belief box:

You WILL figure it out.

MEANING.

What is meant here is how meaningful would the rewards of achieving your goals be TO YOU.

Because if it's solely to impress someone, I got bad news:

You'll be disappointed.

Even if you do manage to impress them, you'll feel a void because it probably won't add anything meaningful to your life.

Instead, find your selfish reasons to achieve this goal.

Note them down.

Visualize yourself achieving your goal and feel what you expect to feel once you really do.

This image will stick in your mind and drive you forward.

How to detach your ego from people's opinion and improve your self-sufficiency

Here is the thing, while developing a strong and healthy ego you will face one big resistance.

That resistance being the urge to please and/or impress others.

This is inevitable.

But don't worry.

Here is how you're gonna get past this stage, follow carefully.

In general, the need for social validation and acceptance is something most can't control.

However, there is often a cognitive dissonance and a feeling of regret that comes either right then or afterwards.

The trick:

Making the most of that negative feeling by using it as a moment of reflection.

Let that be a warning sign that you need to evaluate what you are doing/have done.

Now, ask yourself the following:

What do I want?

Do you want to impress/please or are you doing it for yourself?

Answering this question might seem complicated as you might be wrong in your answer.

So here is what you should ask yourself:

What do I value?
What is important to me?

This frames it different because many people just do not know what they want.

However, we all know what we value.

So, do you value someone else's satisfaction or do you value your own?

Who are you going to satisfy through your action, will it be you or the person in front?

There are subconscious issues in each one of us, when unresolved, they might make you do things that you will regret or that could affect your self-esteem negatively.

This is why it's important to ask yourself what is the most valuable thing you thrive for.

Constantly remind yourself of this.

If you're not getting anything out of it, don't do it.

There is no point in pleasing nor impressing others because they will forget about it anyway, but you won't.

Instead, please and impress yourself because you, a contrario to them, will always be grateful to yourself for doing so.

How to win an argument without having solid reasoning and proof

Disclaimer:

The following is not to be used to convince your interlocutor but rather convince the audience and showing them the person in front is wrong.

This is a technique used very often on political debates but seems to go unnoticed.

The reason I'm sharing this with you is to allow you to spot this rhetoric tactic and not fall for it.

I am not inviting you to use such deceptive conversation techniques.

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Stage 1: Triggering your interlocutor

If you're short on logical arguments, the safest way to still be right is by making the person in front of you sound wrong.

In order to do that, you have to drag the conversation towards emotions and completely disregard any sort of logic.

A few ways to do this is by responding to logical arguments by suggesting that your interlocutor lacks empathy by being too rational (emotional appeal). Or even directly criticizing the person in front instead of discussing their ideas.

This is all in order to destabilize the discussion and disturb your interlocutors thought process.

One this is done and a climate of animosity is installed, you can start phase 2.

Stage 2: Forcing the monologue through question bombing

While the tone of the conversation is getting more and more aggressive and emotional, you start framing the conversation by bombing your interlocutor with questions.

The goal here is not to get an answer from them but rather the opposite, what you are really doing is getting on their nerves.

This should be done in such way that you ask a question every time they start answering the previous one.

Very annoying but very effective.

You want to make them ask you to stop interrupting.

Once you get that, time to let them speak.

Stage 3: Letting your interlocutor speak

Here you want them to talk as long as possible, you have already been preparing them for this moment by disturbing them all along.

They should feel a relief as you completely shut up and start looking at them in the eye with interest and insistence. Intense eye contact to convey that you're not only listening but doing so willingly and with good faith.

But your disturbing act is not done yet.

As they start speaking, you should have a very expressive face and react with negative facial expressions to the point the person is making.

Not with anger but rather with disdain, a smirk, a smile or even a laugh now and then.

The idea is to make them more and more angry as they try to convey their message, while destabilizing their rational.

At the same time, you're also signaling to the audience that the points made by your interlocutor are not worthy of listening and that you have the answer to all of them.

Stage 4: Destroy the monologue

Yes, good old ad hominem.

You're not going to address any of the points made.

Instead you're going to attack the flaws of their rationale and the person.

Explain that they've monopolized the conversation and have been pretty aggressive all along.

Say that their ideas and speech are delusional and lack realism.

You don't need to explain, you just state.

The point here is to diminish the value of what was said.

The point is not to be right or propose better ideas.

You simply describe their monologue as dictatorial and delusional.

Make them look like they're evil and disconnected from reality.

Understand that in politics and mass influence and manipulation, the most important thing is not to be right but making the others wrong.

Again, the reason I'm sharing this with you is to warn you from poorly intentioned individuals who want to manipulate public opinion.

If you can spot someone doing this, don't vote for them and don't trust them. They have nothing to propose but they're good at show and rethoric.

Also understand this, the ones who express themselves the best are not necessarily the smartest.

Don't get fooled, learn this stuff.

Brief Body Language lesson

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1507077890822885383

If you're suspecting that someone is lying, watch for these signs:

First of all, let's clear something out, a liar will behave in one of two ways, they will either be avoidant or confrontational. Which will depend on the nature of the lie, the person they're lying to and their own level of self-confidence.

We will call the avoidant behavior (A) and call the confrontational behavior (B) for simplicity.

This will apply to point 1 & 2.

1- Eye contact:

(A) Will find excuses to break eye contact like checking the time or phone, or even turning around whenever there is a sound in order to avoid the intensity of eye contact. They're subconsciously ashamed and a bit pressured to be in such position.

(B) Will maintain eye contact in an extremely intense and uncomfortable way, they will attempt to turn a normal conversational eye contact into a rapport of dominance where they will try to make YOU break eye contact as a way to prove to themselves that you believed them.

2- Defensiveness:

In both cases, this is a recurring pattern.

Someone who's lying deeply knows that they're exposed at the very moment they tell the lie.

They don't believe it themselves and try to convince both their interlocutor and themselves that what they said was the truth.

As such, they will get in a defensive position without even being attacked.

(A) will slide side notes or even swear in order to make themselves sound more credible.

Example: Saying 'I swear, this is exactly what happened' when nobody asked.

(B) will openly claim that their interlocutor doesn't believe them and react to clues that are not even there.

Example: 'What's that face you're making? You dont believe me?'

3- Physical Barriers:

They will turn around or put more distance between them and their interlocutor.

The point here is to signal through body language that there is nothing more to discuss, it's a subconscious attempt to cut the conversation short.

Which brings us to our next point.

4- Changing Subject:

An obvious one.

Someone who just told a lie will do their best to make you consider it factual and move to something else.

If they manage to make you discuss another point, they will think that you're not thinking about the lie they just told you.

5- Facial Body Language:

- Absence of emotions in their face besides their mouth as they cannot invent and feel the emotions involved in the story they're telling you (especially since it's not real, they don't have an emotional memory of the events)

- Touching their face: a cover up method and a subconscious way of protecting what comes out of their mouth. This is them feeling ashamed once again. Look out for this.

Disclaimer:

Don’t assume someone is lying based on body language, verbal signals, and eye movements ONLY.

Avoid assuming that someone is lying solely on isolated non-verbal clues or body language related signs.

Make sure the signs you are interpreting do not fit a pattern of behavior for said person; meaning that they usually do not do such things.

Something to take into consideration more importantly than the above mentioned is the inconsistencies and the lack of logic and rationale in the person's speech.

Bonus:

A trick to catch a liar is to ask them to tell you the story backwards.

If it's true, they will do it effortlessly.

If it's a lie, they will have a lot of trouble remembering the order correctly.

I think we can all agree on this.

You've been reading me for a while, and you know.

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1507449715880828934?s=19

Be wary of who you choose to spend your time with.

There are people out there who would assume that you are in love with them or you like them simply because you choose to talk to them.

When you try to explain your position, they simply refuse to listen.

They instead place blame upon you for making them feel important or significant.

Understand, that such people are highly insecure human beings.

They desperately try to make themselves feel as if they are important in your eyes, even when they're not.

What is this behaviour if it's not insecurity?

They project their own views upon you so that they feel as if someone cares for them even when that is not the case.

They are afraid of confronting the absolute truth about their situation or circumstance.

They know within their heart, that they lie to themselves, but they don't have the sufficient courage to let it speak for itself.

Such people often live terrible life of endless projections.

They're constantly on search for someone who can fill the their inner void of their soul.

They don't realise that no one is coming to save them unless they try to save themselves and genuinely put an effort to seek the truth of their situation.

They don't realise that their external search for satisfying internal thirst is an endless chase.

They don't understand that they need to confront their innermost being in the mirror and ask it some of the toughest questions their soul is hiding.