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Sorry for another post but I’m just so confused. Am I asexual?

The best I can think to explain is…


I am a soft butch lesbian skinnier version if that helps but not to stereotype

I want to cuddle a big masculine short hair stone cold butch.





 I want to be in a big masculine short hair stone cold butch lap leaned in, feeling their softness, womanliness; feeling their musk and masculinity as well. 

I want to help a big masculine short hair stone cold butch masterbate seeing them moan and make the faces.



I want to see a big masculine short hair stone cold Butch melt in softness and their womanliness. 

I don’t want to be touched sexually. 

I don’t think I have sexual attraction other than just for that. 

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Leaving

I don't know if this belongs on here but I'm leaving this group. I've discovered I'm actually bisexual and now have a girlfriend! Thank you to everyone here for helping me discover myself.

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goals
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I feel like nature simply hates women.

Periods are painful, sex is painful, giving birth is painful. Men do not experience any pain during intimacy, it’s always women. It feels like sex was never meant to be a thing that pleasures women the way nature made it. I feel that many women would stop having sex if being in a sexless relationship was more normalized. I feel that people often lie to women saying their first time will definitely not be painful to lure them in.

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Asexuals with OCD, does it happen that your OCD would latch onto your attraction? If so, which one?


Ok sooo, i struggle with intrusive thoughts and tbh, it sucks. And it has gotten worse for around three days and i can’t stand it anymore

So, it might be a long story since i have to mention details to make sure people don’t misunderstand what i am saying. Bc it happens, sooo yep

Anyways, i struggle with sexual intrusive thoughts, like i said before, it sucks

And this has developped when i found out that i mistaken sexual attraction with aesthetic/sensual and when i found out about asexuality

Before those thoughts, i have assumed that sexual attraction meant finding someone pretty or admiring.

I have heard ppl on social media or around me playing smash or pass. I used to think they were joking on wanting to smash the characters. And even thought that people who wanted to be sexual with someone was something that you would see in fiction.( yes…i thought sexual attraction was just in movies )

But yet, i used to think i felt it since everyone did. But i didn’t find other ppl sexually appealing, neither my crushes.

I didn’t care about it ofc until i found out about asexuality.

I noticed that it resembled me alot but them i went ‘’ well, i wouldn’t be that, this is about them not feeling sexual attraction. I feel it ‘’

….i just took my words back right after someone mentioned that sexual attraction was not just ‘’ finding someone pretty ‘’, it was more than that.

Now, this is when i realized that i might have been asexual

( this kind of caused me to try and make myself feel sexual attraction after finding out. Idk why, but after finding out about how sexual attraction ACTUALLY is, my brain kind of latched onto it and i thought ‘’ Hm, since people feel this, it means i should ‘’ so i kind of conditioned myself to feel like how everyone felt even though it didn’t felt enjoyable nor desirable )

But here is the thing. Right after finding out about asexuality, this is where i thought of searching about it

But what i found was something else when searching it. I found a lot is stories about how women who used to think they were ace are actually sexually repressed and then using asexuality in a way to deny it

Or just straight up people saying how asexuals should not have any dirty mind, thoughts and that they should not understand sex.

Prettymuch infantilizing them

And this is where i developped sexual intrusive thoughts ( and symptoms that is similar to OCD ). I kept having unwanted sexual intrusive thoughts that kept popping up in my head and made them insufferable.

Especially when it came to how i am attracted to others. I experience aesthetic and sensual attraction to others. Sensual attraction is the attraction that i feel the strongest.

For sensual attraction, this was when i realized that i have not felt sexual attraction my entire Life. Because my enviorment would used to ( and still ) sexualize gentle touches, kisses and anything related to that.

They talked about being sexual because these acts leads to sexual acts

Which also developped intrusive thoughts.

So anytime when i see someone and go ‘’ oh, they are so pretty! ‘’

My brain would imediately shove intrusive images in my head that i don’t enjoy and then go ‘’ it means you want to have sex with them ‘’

And what i do ofc, is that i would disagree with the thought, because this is not what it came to mind, but anytime i say that, my brain would go ‘’ you are just saying that to try to unconsciously repress sexual attraction and then deny it by forcing yourself onto labels ‘’

Or just straight up saying ‘’ if you want to hug this person it means you want to lead it to sex and you know that. And if you disagree it means that you are trying to repress sexual attraction to them and deny it ‘’

Which makes it worse because i don’t want to repress sexual attraction. This is something that i would not do and won’t do at all. This is something that is against. My morals. Why? Because i know that when you repress feelings that are normal, it can cause you

to think they are bad and that you should feel guilty for having them. This is something that i don’t think. I know sexual attraction is something normal. I now know people feel that way towards others, and i know it is normal to feel. Even though i don’t know how it feels exactly, i still know that it is normal. It is called having empathy.

It’s like how everyone in this world loves chocolate. You don’t like chocotale, you don’t get why people like it but you know it is okay to like it yk. You know it is normal and you don’t judge it

But i still get afraid of somehow repressing sexual attraction because those intrusive thoughts feel real and convincing to a point that i am genuinely afraid of doing something bad to myself somehow

Mind you, i don’t use the asexual label on myself because of that. Tbh i do feel ace but i don’t want to label myself as one because of that

But because of these unwanted thoughts and OCD latching onto my attractions and then saying that i am ‘’ repressing sexual attraction by calling them other attractions to deny my real attractions ‘’ makes it insufferable

Idk how sexual attraction feels. But anytime i say that. My brain goes ‘’ what if you do know how it feels and that you are just saying that you don’t know how it feels to repress your sexual feelings for others ‘’

This is genuinely hell, because all of that happened when i found out that there is a label that aligned with my experience….

Idk if it is my brain being aphobic/OCD problems or if it is trying to tell me something and that i am actually repressing sexual attraction ( which i don’t want to do that )

So yeah, my Life sucks. It kept relapsing for three days and it sucks. I hate talking about this, but i genuinely feel like i am the only one who experience this hell-like problem. And i dont’ want to feel alone on that.

So is there anyone who has OCD that latches onto your attractions? And if so, which one? I would like to know!

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Would I still be considered at least greysexual?

I remembered one time where i found an image of a celebrity i found very attractive and i naturally said out of nowhere “i would fck her”! And then there was also a time where i’m pretty i have may intentionally made up sexual fantasies about a guy at school who i also found attractive and i imagines sleeping with him on a bed with him being shirtless and i was on to of him and he had his arm on me and i could imagine us being very close to each other face to face and then we kissed and it would still get me aroused by just even thinking about it! I can’t tell if the sexual fantasies thing were real or like if it does count as sexual attraction and i do know that saying you would smash that person after finding them attractive or hot can count as sexual attraction so if so then the first one could probably be the only time i may have expereinced sexual attraction or if the second one could count too then i would have probably experienced sexual attraction two times then! Even if i have experienced it twice, could i still count as a greysexual because i wanna say i’m bi but i feel like it’s not a enough to prove that i am bi but it also feels like i could either be asexual or be on the spectrum and i feel like greysexual is most likely the right label for me but idk!

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I'm proudly asexual, but sometimes some of my fellow aces need to get off the high horse. (Please read what I have to say before down voting.)

I (F40) recently had an asexual woman in a dating subreddit ask to message me, and I said yes. I asked her to tell me more herself. One of the very first things she said was "hookup culture is idiocy."
That didn't sit right with me for a couple reasons. 1) I like hooking up with people without getting to know them. Not for sex, but for other stuff.
2) Slut shaming for any reason is not okay, and it's especially not charming or cute.
3) Who starts a conversation like that with someone you just met??
I told her that hey, I'm not cool with shut shaming. And she goes "I'm not shut shaming, I'm saying hookup culture is a disease." I blocked her so fast.

Now, the reason I say that SOME OF (I cannot stress that enough) my fellow aces need to get off the highway horse, is that too many times have I seen ace people on reddit, on Tumblr, on Facebook groups, etc, etc, etc act high-and-mighty for being asexual, by slamming allos for being allo.
And I'm not talking about in-jokes, or affirmation memes, or anything like that.
I'm talking about the contingent of SOME aces that act like the allosexual way of life is bad or filthy or wrong. The folks that act like being ace immediately absolves us of any and all wrongdoing and that we're holier-than-thou for being ace.
The subgenre of asexual people who talk down to allos need to get off the high horse. It's insufferable behaviour. And I think that subgroup of SOME aces needs to reflect on why they get mistreated by the allos, who would probably otherwise not even know ace people exist.

We're ace and being ace is rad. I'm proud of being asexual. But we're not magically the best people alive just because we're asexual.

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Ohhh right, I forgot! Heading outside now!!!
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Asexuals with OCD, does it happen that your OCD would latch onto your attraction? If so, which one?


Ok sooo, i struggle with intrusive thoughts and tbh, it sucks. And it has gotten worse for around three days and i can’t stand it anymore

So, it might be a long story since i have to mention details to make sure people don’t misunderstand what i am saying. Bc it happens, sooo yep

Anyways, i struggle with sexual intrusive thoughts, like i said before, it sucks

And this has developped when i found out that i mistaken sexual attraction with aesthetic/sensual and when i found out about asexuality

Before those thoughts, i have assumed that sexual attraction meant finding someone pretty or admiring.

I have heard ppl on social media or around me playing smash or pass. I used to think they were joking on wanting to smash the characters. And even thought that people who wanted to be sexual with someone was something that you would see in fiction.( yes…i thought sexual attraction was just in movies )

But yet, i used to think i felt it since everyone did. But i didn’t find other ppl sexually appealing, neither my crushes.

I didn’t care about it ofc until i found out about asexuality.

I noticed that it resembled me alot but them i went ‘’ well, i wouldn’t be that, this is about them not feeling sexual attraction. I feel it ‘’

….i just took my words back right after someone mentioned that sexual attraction was not just ‘’ finding someone pretty ‘’, it was more than that.

Now, this is when i realized that i might have been asexual

( this kind of caused me to try and make myself feel sexual attraction after finding out. Idk why, but after finding out about how sexual attraction ACTUALLY is, my brain kind of latched onto it and i thought ‘’ Hm, since people feel this, it means i should ‘’ so i kind of conditioned myself to feel like how everyone felt even though it didn’t felt enjoyable nor desirable )

But here is the thing. Right after finding out about asexuality, this is where i thought of searching about it

But what i found was something else when searching it. I found a lot is stories about how women who used to think they were ace are actually sexually repressed and then using asexuality in a way to deny it

Or just straight up people saying how asexuals should not have any dirty mind, thoughts and that they should not understand sex.

Prettymuch infantilizing them

And this is where i developped sexual intrusive thoughts ( and symptoms that is similar to OCD ). I kept having unwanted sexual intrusive thoughts that kept popping up in my head and made them insufferable.

Especially when it came to how i am attracted to others. I experience aesthetic and sensual attraction to others. Sensual attraction is the attraction that i feel the strongest.

For sensual attraction, this was when i realized that i have not felt sexual attraction my entire Life. Because my enviorment would used to ( and still ) sexualize gentle touches, kisses and anything related to that.

They talked about being sexual because these acts leads to sexual acts

Which also developped intrusive thoughts.

So anytime when i see someone and go ‘’ oh, they are so pretty! ‘’

My brain would imediately shove intrusive images in my head that i don’t enjoy and then go ‘’ it means you want to have sex with them ‘’

And what i do ofc, is that i would disagree with the thought, because this is not what it came to mind, but anytime i say that, my brain would go ‘’ you are just saying that to try to unconsciously repress sexual attraction and then deny it by forcing yourself onto labels ‘’

Or just straight up saying ‘’ if you want to hug this person it means you want to lead it to sex and you know that. And if you disagree it means that you are trying to repress sexual attraction to them and deny it ‘’

Which makes it worse because i don’t want to repress sexual attraction. This is something that i would not do and won’t do at all. This is something that is against. My morals. Why? Because i know that when you repress feelings that are normal, it can cause you

to think they are bad and that you should feel guilty for having them. This is something that i don’t think. I know sexual attraction is something normal. I now know people feel that way towards others, and i know it is normal to feel. Even though i don’t know how it feels exactly, i still know that it is normal. It is called having empathy.

It’s like how everyone in this world loves chocolate. You don’t like chocotale, you don’t get why people like it but you know it is okay to like it yk. You know it is normal and you don’t judge it

But i still get afraid of somehow repressing sexual attraction because those intrusive thoughts feel real and convincing to a point that i am genuinely afraid of doing something bad to myself somehow

Mind you, i don’t use the asexual label on myself because of that. Tbh i do feel ace but i don’t want to label myself as one because of that

But because of these unwanted thoughts and OCD latching onto my attractions and then saying that i am ‘’ repressing sexual attraction by calling them other attractions to deny my real attractions ‘’ makes it insufferable

Idk how sexual attraction feels. But anytime i say that. My brain goes ‘’ what if you do know how it feels and that you are just saying that you don’t know how it feels to repress your sexual feelings for others ‘’

This is genuinely hell, because all of that happened when i found out that there is a label that aligned with my experience….

Idk if it is my brain being aphobic/OCD problems or if it is trying to tell me something and that i am actually repressing sexual attraction ( which i don’t want to do that )

So yeah, my Life sucks. It kept relapsing for three days and it sucks. I hate talking about this, but i genuinely feel like i am the only one who experience this hell-like problem. And i dont’ want to feel alone on that.

So is there anyone who has OCD that latches onto your attractions? And if so, which one? I would like to know!

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