Aromantic or needing attention
I’ve identified as aromantic for about 2+ years and never felt any romantic attraction, and none before I identified as it either(didn’t know there was a word for it). Whenever I’ve had a “crush” on someone it’s been only s3xual. Recently I’ve been incredibly friend deprived, with all my friends from school having already met their best friends in grades much lower and years before now.
It’s half way through the school year and I still haven’t found anyone remotely close enough to count as a best friend. I don’t think I want to date anyone but I do really want someone to give me as much attention as I do them. Just one person since I’d probably feel bad if I had 2 cuz I’d prioritize.
I’ve tried giving other friends online and irl a lot of attention asking how they are, what did they do today, are you going through anything i can help with and I never get anything back, sometimes not even a how are you or what’s one thing that happened to you today? Then the friends that do have a partner are always hoping to talk to them, always wanting to see them, and they mostly get the attention they want back. I feel like if im not dating a person no one will be interested in anything i do. I’ve gotten excited at the thought of being someone’s boyfriend for the attention I’d hope it would bring, but actually committing to it, telling people officially, or doing anything other than js freaky stuff or playing together seems uninteresting.
I want that person to still be able to date and do other stuff with people that aren’t me, but I still want to be able to keep their attention on me sometimes. Before moving schools, I had best friends, and I had never felt this lonely before. It may just be i haven’t found the right person but I’ve been putting myself out there more than normal, and I’ve made like 8+ and not a single person gives me as much attention as I do them, and I don’t really consider myself as super clingy to them or anything, just interested in what they do to allow them to express themselves and offering support to those who need it.
But, if someone were to make me their boyfriend, I feel like I would be happy to finally be getting the attention and feel a much closer bond with them, but incredibly awkward and maybe even the slightest bit uncomfortable at the title. I’m not sure, it may also be doubt because a couple of times my mom’s questioned me because idek if she thinks aro ppl exist
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I’ve identified as aromantic for about 2+ years and never felt any romantic attraction, and none before I identified as it either(didn’t know there was a word for it). Whenever I’ve had a “crush” on someone it’s been only s3xual. Recently I’ve been incredibly friend deprived, with all my friends from school having already met their best friends in grades much lower and years before now.
It’s half way through the school year and I still haven’t found anyone remotely close enough to count as a best friend. I don’t think I want to date anyone but I do really want someone to give me as much attention as I do them. Just one person since I’d probably feel bad if I had 2 cuz I’d prioritize.
I’ve tried giving other friends online and irl a lot of attention asking how they are, what did they do today, are you going through anything i can help with and I never get anything back, sometimes not even a how are you or what’s one thing that happened to you today? Then the friends that do have a partner are always hoping to talk to them, always wanting to see them, and they mostly get the attention they want back. I feel like if im not dating a person no one will be interested in anything i do. I’ve gotten excited at the thought of being someone’s boyfriend for the attention I’d hope it would bring, but actually committing to it, telling people officially, or doing anything other than js freaky stuff or playing together seems uninteresting.
I want that person to still be able to date and do other stuff with people that aren’t me, but I still want to be able to keep their attention on me sometimes. Before moving schools, I had best friends, and I had never felt this lonely before. It may just be i haven’t found the right person but I’ve been putting myself out there more than normal, and I’ve made like 8+ and not a single person gives me as much attention as I do them, and I don’t really consider myself as super clingy to them or anything, just interested in what they do to allow them to express themselves and offering support to those who need it.
But, if someone were to make me their boyfriend, I feel like I would be happy to finally be getting the attention and feel a much closer bond with them, but incredibly awkward and maybe even the slightest bit uncomfortable at the title. I’m not sure, it may also be doubt because a couple of times my mom’s questioned me because idek if she thinks aro ppl exist
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Does anyone else just never think to masterbate?
I never once a day in my life thought to do as such; not even when I was learning about sex as a kid.
My reason for being Asexual is plain ol ”Eh don’t care.“.
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I never once a day in my life thought to do as such; not even when I was learning about sex as a kid.
My reason for being Asexual is plain ol ”Eh don’t care.“.
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I’m so confused. Am I asexual?
I don’t know if I am or not, I am into Butch lesbians seeing as I’m a lesbian.
I want to cuddle a butch, I want to be in a butch’s lap leaned in and feeling their softness and womanliness to their musk and masculinity
I want to sometimes help them master bate.
but I don’t want touched.
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I don’t know if I am or not, I am into Butch lesbians seeing as I’m a lesbian.
I want to cuddle a butch, I want to be in a butch’s lap leaned in and feeling their softness and womanliness to their musk and masculinity
I want to sometimes help them master bate.
but I don’t want touched.
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Bread Made Me Realize I Was Asexual (I'm not even kidding)
So a year ago my friends made this shared google slide called "The Simp Slide", where we put our fictional crushes and hear-me-outs.
I was invited to the slide quite early on, despite not really having any hear-me-outs or fictional crushes. When I mentioned said lack of crushes I was just told to enter characters that I liked. So I just entered characters I thought were cute and never really edited the slides again.
Fast-forward to today, we're in highschool now and more people have been added to the slides. And with it, more entries. And seeing that there had been 68 entries so far, I thought of the perfect opportunity to finally add another crush to the slides: Olive Garden Breadsticks.
Now as I added the images of the breadsticks, I hungered more and more for them. I absolutely loved these breadsticks. I mean, who doesn't? They're hot, they're light, and they smell and taste amazing. Looking at the finished slides, I absolutely wanted some breadsticks in my mouth. I craved these breadsticks. I wanted these breadsticks way more than I ever wanted any of my crushes- wait...
I hungered for the breadsticks. My mouth drools thinking about breadsticks. My heart yearns for the breadsticks. Even writing this post, my mouth is watering thinking about those hot, oily sticks of delectable glucose.
IS THIS WHAT SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE???? BUT FOR ASS INSTEAD OF BREAD?????? HAVE I BEEN WRONG ABOUT WHAT ATTRACTION IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE MY WHOLE LIFE?????????
Now at this point in time I had actually been questioning for a while, and had considered that I might actually be ace (I started down the asexuality rabbit hole doing research for an asexual character I was working on). I knew about the different types of sex, and the difference between sex and kink, and how aces can be sex positive or sex negative, but I mean I wasn't opposed to sex. Like I didn't really crave sex as much as my peers, but it's not like I just didn't feel sexual attraction, right?
But this bread is what made everything finally click for me. This is what attraction is supposed to feel like: carnal desire.
I never really had that carnal desire. Every "crush" I've had on real people wasn't really sexual (they probably weren't even crushes to begin with). I just saw some people I thought looked nice and decided to act shy around them because that's what you're "supposed" to do, not because I was actually interested in them. And when I felt attraction, it was always "I wish I looked like them" or "They look like they give good hugs" or "I wanna get closer to that person", not "I wanna bone them".
So uh, moral of the story: the garlic bread stereotypes are true for me.
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So a year ago my friends made this shared google slide called "The Simp Slide", where we put our fictional crushes and hear-me-outs.
I was invited to the slide quite early on, despite not really having any hear-me-outs or fictional crushes. When I mentioned said lack of crushes I was just told to enter characters that I liked. So I just entered characters I thought were cute and never really edited the slides again.
Fast-forward to today, we're in highschool now and more people have been added to the slides. And with it, more entries. And seeing that there had been 68 entries so far, I thought of the perfect opportunity to finally add another crush to the slides: Olive Garden Breadsticks.
Now as I added the images of the breadsticks, I hungered more and more for them. I absolutely loved these breadsticks. I mean, who doesn't? They're hot, they're light, and they smell and taste amazing. Looking at the finished slides, I absolutely wanted some breadsticks in my mouth. I craved these breadsticks. I wanted these breadsticks way more than I ever wanted any of my crushes- wait...
I hungered for the breadsticks. My mouth drools thinking about breadsticks. My heart yearns for the breadsticks. Even writing this post, my mouth is watering thinking about those hot, oily sticks of delectable glucose.
IS THIS WHAT SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE???? BUT FOR ASS INSTEAD OF BREAD?????? HAVE I BEEN WRONG ABOUT WHAT ATTRACTION IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE MY WHOLE LIFE?????????
Now at this point in time I had actually been questioning for a while, and had considered that I might actually be ace (I started down the asexuality rabbit hole doing research for an asexual character I was working on). I knew about the different types of sex, and the difference between sex and kink, and how aces can be sex positive or sex negative, but I mean I wasn't opposed to sex. Like I didn't really crave sex as much as my peers, but it's not like I just didn't feel sexual attraction, right?
But this bread is what made everything finally click for me. This is what attraction is supposed to feel like: carnal desire.
I never really had that carnal desire. Every "crush" I've had on real people wasn't really sexual (they probably weren't even crushes to begin with). I just saw some people I thought looked nice and decided to act shy around them because that's what you're "supposed" to do, not because I was actually interested in them. And when I felt attraction, it was always "I wish I looked like them" or "They look like they give good hugs" or "I wanna get closer to that person", not "I wanna bone them".
So uh, moral of the story: the garlic bread stereotypes are true for me.
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I just realized why I became this way
I have abusive parents. But that's fine, every parents in my country is abusive by default. They are mental ill AF and they loudly argue about their sex life ever since I had ears to hear. I'm 25 now and nothing about them has changed. But on top of that, both my mother and my father when they are alone with me would talk about sex to me unsolicited. I could never spoke a word back to them to make them stop because in this country parents being abusive and children being mute and subservient in fear of being physically beaten is the cultural norm.
Recently, I decided to take a serious look at the concept of mental health. although there is no such thing as psychiatrist in this desolate wasteland, I've been getting really into meditation. And then I realized that I became aroace because my parents made me so disgusted at sex. Thinking about even the abstract concept of it makes me feel vomit inducing disgust. And it's ruining my life because I love memes and internet culture and every time I come across suggestive fanarts or even just joke comments under a post, it painfully disgusts me.
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I have abusive parents. But that's fine, every parents in my country is abusive by default. They are mental ill AF and they loudly argue about their sex life ever since I had ears to hear. I'm 25 now and nothing about them has changed. But on top of that, both my mother and my father when they are alone with me would talk about sex to me unsolicited. I could never spoke a word back to them to make them stop because in this country parents being abusive and children being mute and subservient in fear of being physically beaten is the cultural norm.
Recently, I decided to take a serious look at the concept of mental health. although there is no such thing as psychiatrist in this desolate wasteland, I've been getting really into meditation. And then I realized that I became aroace because my parents made me so disgusted at sex. Thinking about even the abstract concept of it makes me feel vomit inducing disgust. And it's ruining my life because I love memes and internet culture and every time I come across suggestive fanarts or even just joke comments under a post, it painfully disgusts me.
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