"Thank God you're ace, the very thought of you having sex disgusts me"

Any time I bring up the possibility of me being asexual, it always turns out so uncomfortable. People have made weird questions about whether my bringing it up was just me coping for being ugly, or an incel, or just not understanding how humans "work". I imagine a lot of you have gone through similar reactions? I'm not sure how to handle it all.

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Any asexuals found love?

I know it's a weird question, but I've been rejected a lot for being ace and it would be nice to hear some success stories. Thank you :)

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Do you consider yourself attractive?

I know most aces are very humble. And that’s such a great quality.

I just wanted to get an idea of how many of us feel that you are generally on the more attractive side?

And then a question for everyone. How do you think attractiveness impacts the experience of asexuality? If at all. Thank you!

#discussion #curiosity #mindpicking



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Anyone else also childfree?

In 23M and I also am childfree. An additional hurdle lol. I don’t have anything against kids, but I’m just not sure if being a father is for me. And, I’ve heard and follow the advice that, if you’re not sure, just don’t have kids, since it’s not something you can undo. And contrary to what people say, it’s not just 18 years, I believe parents should accept the responsibility and be parents forever, cuz your adult kids could always need help.

Also, not to come across selfish, but I would rather just spend money with my future spouse on stuff we like to do than kids 💀

This is challenging for me. I’m from America, but my background is that my folks are Hindu and we’re ethnically Indian. I’m not out as ace to anyone irl, but I think my dad would genuinely find me being ace and childfree bad lol. I’m the only child of an only son, and my dad is a “bloodline matters” guy. My mom wouldn’t care, she’s super chill.

But yeah, wondering and would like to hear experiences from those of us who are ace and also childfree!

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I think I am Asexual

Any advice I have no idea what the hell is happening but I think I am Asexul I am confused

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I think I found an ally. Is it okay that he's not of the garlic variety?
https://redd.it/1otws11
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Allo guys looking for virgin girls on this sub ⚠️

I've seen one, so there could be - must be multiple. He's just looking for people with morality, not asexuality. He happened to be transphobic so he has no place in this community 💔 Be careful y'all.

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Every time i open social media i'm greeted with things like these, and feel abnormal
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I am becoming be-be-noss
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Platonic affection or love

Hi guys, I feel platonic affection for a very dear friend of mine, I have never wanted to get engaged to a man but at the same time I feel like I have no feelings for girls, if he got engaged I would be very happy because I love him with all my heart, I can't wait for him to get engaged, ergo I feel something for this friend even if on a platonic level.
The fact is that I told him that I doubted I was in love with him because we were great friends and I couldn't stand the fact of not being sincere with him.

He has distanced himself a bit but he shows me, even if only in a few moments, that he is there and loves me very much. We are friends.

I'm afraid that he might think that I want something else and that spontaneity might not return even in 5-10 years or when he is married.
In your opinion?

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I hope I converted the time right for Meme Monday
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Asexuality is something you LIVE
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Celebrity crushes?

Do allo people actually mean that they want to have sex with their celebrity crushes? Or that they would want to date them?

Cause like I say I have a celebrity crush when I think a celebrity is attractive, but just to look at. It's a hyperfixation, not an actual attraction to them. Right? RIGHT?

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Came up with a saying

For when you're asexual but still find people hot/sexy/attractive "I may not drink tea, but I can still admire the teapot"

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I know which one im picking....GARLIC BREADDDDD!!!!!
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GARLIC BREAD MFERS!!!
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Friend denies the fact that I'm ace and idk what to do about it.

So I have been out as ace for awhile (as in putting ace flag stickers on my stuff and wearing an ace pin) and like yesterday my friend(f bi) asked me for markers from my backpack. I didn't have any markers and she has this thought that I have a "straight guy backpack" and must be straight. When I tell her that I'm ace she just says "You haven't discovered the female gender yet" and like I tell her I take offense to this but she just repeats that and stuff. I don't like like thus cuz it makes me feel invalid but idk what to do can someone help?

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Arophobia in this sub

Maybe I'm overreacting, but I'm once again shocked by how arophobic some people here are.

I feel like many don't realize arophobia isn't just hating on aromantic folks, but also stereotyping them or implying there was a "right" way to be aro.

Almost every time I mention being an allosensual/touch-favorable aromantic here I get bombarded with downvotes. I could do something as harmless as pointing out that touch-aversion isn't the same as aromanticism or that aromantic people can, in fact, like and desire "romantic" things like kissing, and for some reason people absolutely HATE that, while comments attacking those are applauded and upvoted.

There is no "right" or "wrong" way to be aromantic. Some are romance-favorable and like "romantic" (romance-coded) gestures, others are -repulsed or -averse and dislike them, and again others are -repulsed/-averse, yet do like them because they don't perceive them as romantic - I made that clear in my comments and still got attacked and downvoted, but I am the ahole for stating a fact?

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Have you ever gotten "the event" whenever you question yourselves?
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Blind Demi/Ace woman having no success at dating

I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, both Ace, friendly and generic, but I have had zero luck at finding even someone to go on a simple date with. I am 39 years old, female, and I have been told that I am very attractive. Unfortunately, the only places where I have had even a tiny bit of success was on Tinder, where men would complement my appearance and we would chat about interests and things for a while, I would share with them that I am demisexual and they would say it’s OK. But, a couple days to a week later, I always receive a message asking me to have sex with them. I’m not sure if I am only finding people who really just don’t get it when I explain what I am or if I just have really bad luck with finding genuine, honest men. Or, maybe my expectations are too high. I started started this journey identifying as asexual, but have recently revised my label to demisexual to try and increase my chances of finding someone, plus I think I would be OK with physical intimacy once a firm and solid relationship was established. But, it seems like the men all of the men I’ve been talking to want to jump straight into bed with me. Please give me advice on what I should do and where I should be looking. By the way, I have also tried a couple of the asexual dating apps, but because of my blindness, I have difficulty using them because it seems that these apps have not been developed with accessibility in mind.

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