Scared of Gyno Appointment

Aight so I need to get this off my chest. Went to another subreddit about it and one of the first comments was from someone who said they had been pregnant for their first appointment and I was like ah, this is not the space for me then.

I obviously know that a gyno appointment is not sexual at all, but part of the reason I’m ace is because I am deeply terrified of anyone seeing that part of my body. It is humiliating, it is viscerally horrifying to me. I am contemplating rescheduling my appointment (which is scheduled for Monday) because I can’t stop ruminating on it and how the thought of having that be my first appointment ever on a Monday morning at 8 am makes me feel ill lol. I would love to talk to someone who feels the same way as I do. A lot of my friends are sexually active (or want to be) and have 0 fear of going to the gyno but because I’m so anxious about sex in general that translates to the gyno. I wish they had a sedative option genuinely.

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Do Sirens have to bake garlic bread in order to drown us?

Sirens (the mythical see creatures) attract allos by beeing incredibly attraktiv. That’s their thing to attract mortals and drown them. Their typical approach wouldn’t work so how do you guys think they would try to trick us into the water?

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Relationships are about more than sex
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help :(

i don’t know if i’m being dramatic but i was pushed to make this post because for the billionth time i saw an “AITAH” post where a woman was talking about leaving her husband because they agreed to have sex two times a week and it’s not enough for her.

i am SO disgusted by this!! i literally feel like breaking down crying because i just cannot wrap my head around why this shit is so important for people????? what does having your bits in each others mouths add to the relationship? how does sex in ANY WAY improve the mental or emotional connection between a couple?!?

i’m struggling in my own relationship where i feel like sex is such a waste of time when we have limited time together. i would rather do absolutely anything else in the world then waste the little time i have with my boyfriend having sex.

and the more i read comments of a lot of men being like “yeah break up because a woman with high libido should be taken care of” i can’t help but feel SO DISGUSTED 😭 when i was young i was overly sexual and did things to myself far too often. as an adult, my drive is nonexistent. of course i find my partner extremely attractive. he’s handsome and i do love hugs and kisses. but then i get extremely frustrated when hugs and kisses are only ever leading to one place.

i don’t want to feel this way and it’s hard knowing that sex is so important to my boyfriend and everyone else. even seeing posts that sex is the highest form of intimacy that there is. like what?? slamming your body parts together? something that literally any two people off the street can do is the highest form of intimacy?

i feel like im going insane and i think it would just be nice to know that other people feel the same. thinking about it makes me furious and extremely depressed at the same time.

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POV: you’re Aro/Ace

me: i’m aroace
someone: oh so like… you don’t like anyone?
me: yeah
someone: not even like… a little?
me: no
someone: not even like… in theory?
me: still no
someone: not even like…
me: has already left, lowered global garlic bread stock by 19%, and is currently eating ice cream

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Blackberry and apple pie to welcome the autumnal vibes 🍂
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My Friend called me the “Cursed Valentine Child”

Hey! I am 100% completely aroace and I figured this out in January and I think the funniest thing about it is that I was literally born on Valentine’s Day.. but it gets better y’all, my last name literally translates to “Of Love” in French, yknow..the language of love! Isn’t that a weird twist 😭

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Jerk says asexual people are myths
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Just found out that apparently non ace people are always sexually attracted to people they like romantically.

I know that should probably be obvious but i’m absolutely shocked. I was talking to my mom about my boyfriend and she said something along the lines of “don’t send pictures if he asks” and I obviously laughed it off and reassured her that we both aren’t into each other in a sexual way. She was confused and said “doesn’t that mean you’re just friends then?” I said no and then she said “But you aren’t attracted to each other sexually?” and then I had the realization that non ace people think that loving someone means you want them.

LIKE WHAT?! I was in complete shock. I called my friends AND THEY AGREED TOO. Do non ace people actually not see the difference between liking someone romantically and liking someone romantically but also wanting to have sex with them??? I’m so shocked.

In my mind there’s three tiers of liking someone that I thought everyone agreed with:

1. Platonic
2. Romantic
3. Sexually
4. Romantic and sexually.

BUT EVERYONE IVE TALKED TO ABOUT THIS SAYS THAT MOST PEOPLE DON’T FEEL ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED ONLY. I’m in disbelief.

tldr: Ace person realizes that non ace people feel non ace things.

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You expected nudes… plot twist.

Hi guys.
I wanted to do a small segment here where you suggest a punchline to a meme with the phrase above as the meme. Just complete it with the most asexual thing you can think of but make it funny such that even non ace people can enjoy it too.

The format should be, "You expected nudes! (plot twist)."

For example, “You expected nudes! … but it’s 47 photos of traffic cones.”

Now it’s your turn — what’s your funniest punchline?

PS: Bonus points if you can have the visual representation of the punchline.

Have fun. 😊

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Huh, I'm a bit frustrated with r/asexual. I didn't realize there were so many people so against microlabels there. I've never gotten downvoted so much.

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I'm so tired of innuendos

Currently hiding at work cause my coworkers were just talking about salty pretzels and I didn't realise they didn't actually mean pretzles but sucking dick (yes, I'm 100% fr rn). I feel super embarrassed bc I participated in the conversation not realising what they were actually talking about and it was pretty obvious from my comments.

I got it only bc of my friend's reaction (which was pretty lighthearted and didn't put me on the spot which I appreciated) but now I feel so fucking stupid and it just sucks that everything always has to be about sex and everyone is expected to be in on it. It feels like it's impossible to have normal conversations with people bc there's ALWAYS sth or other, I'm so fucking tired of it. And I hate that now it's me who feels stupid and embarrassed when honestly it's just been a shit comparison from the start, like what the actual hell.

It feels like you can't say anything at all bc someone will think you're talking about sex. Even with friends, I'm always so stupidly careful about not using words like coming (like "meeting up" instead of "coming over") bc nobody takes it seriously.

As a teenager I used to think that the entire thing with giggling over double meanings and always connecting everything to sex was temporary and it would get better as adults. But it never stops, I feel like it just keeps getting worse. A comedy show on the TV, and there goes another sex joke. Ads with sex appeal marketing strategies. Sex songs, sex in books, talking about sex when you're just holding conversations, it's everywhere. I hate it here.

It's not like I don't make sexual jokes at all, it can be fun to just make stupid comments with friends, but it feels like it's impossible to just one time have sth completely unrelated to it.

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We have a problem
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being ace and new to dating is hard

ace lesbian here. my gf's hypersexual while i don't experience physical attraction. it feels so strange to suddenly be seen in a sexual manner and suddenly i'm wondering, is this what EVERYONE thinks of me in secret? in my head i feel pressured to match her libido, and it is so, so hard to communicate when i don't even know what i'm feeling. she isn't pressuring me to do anything and wants me to take things at my own pace, but it feels like all our conversations end up turning sexual in some way. i just wonder if she'll leave me one day because we're not compatible like that.

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Is there a Christian denomination that is friendly toward asexual people who would like to get married?

I'm asexual and mostly aromantic, sex-repulsed, and I've never had a libido. I'm a Catholic Christian, and I would love to one day live with someone I love. However, for Catholics, a marriage without sex and children would go against the purpose of marriage and therefore against God's will. Honestly, I think that's bullshit, because marriage is not solely about creating a family. It's probably just a human mistake, in fact my faith hasn’t been affected at all but I’m not sure if staying Catholic still makes sense. I was wondering if there Christian denomination that accepts asexual people who don’t want to have sex or children in marriage.

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