It’s the little things honestly

I very recently came out to my partner (of 6 years) as graysexual. I have been super nervous to do this because we’ve already been having trouble with sex drives not matching for the last several years and I felt like this would just be another thing that caused problems…

However, we were recently in a little comic shop looking around and as we were leaving he stopped me to show me these mini DnD dice that he had got for me. He excitedly explained that he picked them out because they are the color of the ace flag.

I know it is such a small little thing but it honestly melted my heart into a freaking puddle. He told me he had looked up the flag because he wasn’t sure of the colors and wanted to confirm before showing them to me. It was just so thoughtful and validating and I just feel so seen.

It really is the littlest of things sometimes!


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Pretty sure I’m asexual.

I (30f) haven’t had sex in years and can see myself never having it again. I have had some nice hookups, but I have gone through looong lags of sexual inactivity over many years. Never have had a boyfriend. Most of the guys I see really gross me out and I wouldn’t let them come anywhere near me.

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Am I really a asexual

So I am a teen and in my whole life I have never found someone attractive or had any infatuation like I might find someone beautiful or handsome but I have never seen myself with them like the idea of me with someone involved in sexual way repulsed me but I can read smut books or manhwa which includes sex between other people but in real life I can't imagine but other people discussing doesn't disgust me but when it comes to me I never join the conversation but I am not aromantic for sure cause I see myself dating in future doesn't matter the gender but never sexual way cause I can't imagine myself and the idea of it gives me disgust or creeps but i don't feel disgust reading the sex scenes ...generally i ship other people it's cute but if any person like me it scares me ..please help me

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I got a license plate cover, some garlic bread crackers, and made a meme!

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No sé, pero yo pienso que la atracción sexual y el deseo de interacción física es diferente.

Para mí, la atracción sexual no es más que solo un tipo de atracción hacia otra persona de manera sexual pero sin que quieras acostarte con ella; en cambio el deseo de interacción física es cuando literalmente quieres acostarte con esa persona. No sé qué piensen ustedes.

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Sighh

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Scared of Gyno Appointment

Aight so I need to get this off my chest. Went to another subreddit about it and one of the first comments was from someone who said they had been pregnant for their first appointment and I was like ah, this is not the space for me then.

I obviously know that a gyno appointment is not sexual at all, but part of the reason I’m ace is because I am deeply terrified of anyone seeing that part of my body. It is humiliating, it is viscerally horrifying to me. I am contemplating rescheduling my appointment (which is scheduled for Monday) because I can’t stop ruminating on it and how the thought of having that be my first appointment ever on a Monday morning at 8 am makes me feel ill lol. I would love to talk to someone who feels the same way as I do. A lot of my friends are sexually active (or want to be) and have 0 fear of going to the gyno but because I’m so anxious about sex in general that translates to the gyno. I wish they had a sedative option genuinely.

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Do Sirens have to bake garlic bread in order to drown us?

Sirens (the mythical see creatures) attract allos by beeing incredibly attraktiv. That’s their thing to attract mortals and drown them. Their typical approach wouldn’t work so how do you guys think they would try to trick us into the water?

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Relationships are about more than sex
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help :(

i don’t know if i’m being dramatic but i was pushed to make this post because for the billionth time i saw an “AITAH” post where a woman was talking about leaving her husband because they agreed to have sex two times a week and it’s not enough for her.

i am SO disgusted by this!! i literally feel like breaking down crying because i just cannot wrap my head around why this shit is so important for people????? what does having your bits in each others mouths add to the relationship? how does sex in ANY WAY improve the mental or emotional connection between a couple?!?

i’m struggling in my own relationship where i feel like sex is such a waste of time when we have limited time together. i would rather do absolutely anything else in the world then waste the little time i have with my boyfriend having sex.

and the more i read comments of a lot of men being like “yeah break up because a woman with high libido should be taken care of” i can’t help but feel SO DISGUSTED 😭 when i was young i was overly sexual and did things to myself far too often. as an adult, my drive is nonexistent. of course i find my partner extremely attractive. he’s handsome and i do love hugs and kisses. but then i get extremely frustrated when hugs and kisses are only ever leading to one place.

i don’t want to feel this way and it’s hard knowing that sex is so important to my boyfriend and everyone else. even seeing posts that sex is the highest form of intimacy that there is. like what?? slamming your body parts together? something that literally any two people off the street can do is the highest form of intimacy?

i feel like im going insane and i think it would just be nice to know that other people feel the same. thinking about it makes me furious and extremely depressed at the same time.

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POV: you’re Aro/Ace

me: i’m aroace
someone: oh so like… you don’t like anyone?
me: yeah
someone: not even like… a little?
me: no
someone: not even like… in theory?
me: still no
someone: not even like…
me: has already left, lowered global garlic bread stock by 19%, and is currently eating ice cream

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@asexualityonreddit

Blackberry and apple pie to welcome the autumnal vibes 🍂
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My Friend called me the “Cursed Valentine Child”

Hey! I am 100% completely aroace and I figured this out in January and I think the funniest thing about it is that I was literally born on Valentine’s Day.. but it gets better y’all, my last name literally translates to “Of Love” in French, yknow..the language of love! Isn’t that a weird twist 😭

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Jerk says asexual people are myths
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