Sounds like the perfect vibe. No distracting nudity, just delicious food
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The majority thinks we will be wiped first, what are y'all's thoughts?
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hypersexuality?

hii im new here^^ i wish this post doesnt violate any rule (i already read them all) but is it possible that i've felt ace pretty much my whole life but at some point also developed hypersexuality due to trauma? let me know:3

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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?



Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.



But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?


Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.

I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them

And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.

Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.

Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?

Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.








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New flag dropped lol
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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?



Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.



But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?


Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.

I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them

And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.

Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.

Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?

Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.








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As a gaming/tech obsessed ace, my choice is obvious! 😂
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Free LGBTQ refugees South Sudan

To my family, my friends, and to anyone who may read this:

Today, I am preparing to take a journey that may change my life forever,or end it. I write these words not only as a goodbye but as an explanation, so that if I do not survive, my story will not vanish in silence.

I did not choose this life. I fled my home when I was still young because of who I am,because being LGBTQ+ where I come from meant danger, rejection, and violence. I ran with nothing but hope, believing that somewhere in the world, there must be a place where I could live freely, love openly, and exist without fear.

But the journey has been cruel. Years have passed, and I remain trapped in refugee camps where life has stopped moving. The promises of safety turned into endless waiting waiting for resettlement, waiting for acceptance, waiting for a future that never comes. Every day is survival. There are no jobs, no opportunities, no dignity. The walls around me may not be made of concrete, but they are just as real.

I have tried everything. I have knocked on every door, filled out every form, begged for every chance,but the world moves slowly, and my hope has been breaking piece by piece. I see others around me give up, and I fear I am becoming one of them.

So, I have made the hardest decision of my life: I am leaving.

I know the risks. I know I may be arrested, beaten, robbed, trafficked, or even die at sea. But staying here means a slower death,the death of dreams, of identity, of purpose. People will ask, “Why risk everything?” And my answer will be this: because staying means living without ever being alive. Because I would rather die reaching for freedom than spend the rest of my life trapped in silence and fear.

I am not chasing wealth or luxury. I am chasing something far simpler: the right to exist. I dream of living in a place where I can walk hand in hand with someone I love, where I can work, where my name and my identity are respected, where I am not defined by shame or secrecy.

Do not blame me for leaving. Do not hate me for risking everything. I love my homeland, but it did not love me back. I have been abandoned by leaders who pretend not to see us, and forgotten by a world that looks away while we suffer in silence.

If I make it, I will not forget where I came from. I will carry my country in my heart and do what I can to help others like me. But if I don’t survive,if the sea swallows me, if the borders close on me, if the road takes me before I reach the light,then let these words be my voice.

Tell the world I did not run for riches. I ran for my life.
Tell them I was tired of being invisible.
Tell them I wanted to live, love, and breathe as my true self.

And to those I love,forgive me for leaving you behind. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. I carry your faces, your prayers, and your memories with me. I go with fear, yes… but also with courage. Because even when everything is against you, there is still strength in hope.

A refugee, an exile, a dreamer,but above all, a human being.

#freeLGBT refugees South Sudan.


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how to tell someone you think you are ace

I am new to this community and am not sure where in the category of ace I might specifically BE but I know I am not Allo. I am 37 and incredibly embarassed by the fact that I have only just recently been made aware that my ideas of sex are not allosexual but probably somewhere in the ace spectrum.


I know I have seen a lot of people talk about being repulsed by sex, but that is also not true for all ace people. I am not repulsed by sex and even will self-pleasure using pornography. When it comes to sexual intimacy for me it is more that I don't get aroused by the foreplay of it all, and it never comes to mind to engage. My partner suggested it is not allosexual that when I see a sex scene in a movie (non-pornographic) that I don't think about sexual ideas or that I feel it is almost cringy when she talks about hearing sexy fiction stories. I used to engage in online roleplay sex chat when I was going through puberty and into my 20s but do not anymore.


I guess this post is about asking how I am supposed to tell my partner this kind of stuff without them immediately wanting to leave and if there is any way for a couple to exist where one is ace (myself) and the other is not (at least I don't believe they are). But also asking for suggestions as to what I might be considered as - label wise.

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I do not understand my sexuality at ALL

I really really REALLY want to be one of those people who just hates anything to do with sex but i just cant be… most of the time i am indifferent towards it, but sometimes i will go a couple of weeks where i just get really into the idea of at least trying it once. But as soon as im not in the mood i guess anymore it makes me feel disgusting, and i really don’t want to do it, so WHY DO I KEEP THINKING I DO WHEN IM IN THAT MOOD it doesn’t make sense to me and i just wanna rip my hair out and cry

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am I asexual?

F16. Can I be asexual even if I never had sex before AND masturbate? Dating a slightly older person than me right now (got together recently). I’m scared that at some point our relationship will lead to sex, and I’m very uncomfortable. I get so uncomfortable even when he’s joking about it or private parts. I just can’t. Maybe I’m just scared and not ready to loose my virginity yet, but at the same time 16 is a common age to loose virginity. I started thinking that I’m an asexual because I never got sexually attracted to someone and I noticed that when watching porn I sometimes get disgusted and loose the mood completely.

Am I asexual, depressed or just not ready yet?

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What's the coolest type of dragon (and which dragon should represent which ace sexuality)?

I wanted to make a pole but there are too many types of dragons and too less pole options :'D
What's your favourite one and did I miss a type of dragon?

■ Long Dragon
■ Ying Long Dragon
■ Lindworm
■ Tatzelwurm
■ Wyrm
■ Pakhangba
■ Apophis
■ Dragon snake
■ Quetzalcoatl
■ Amphiptere
■ Wyvern
■ Cockatrice
■ Basilisk
■ Guivre
■ Western Dragon
■ Dragonet
■ Fae Dragon
■ Drake
■ Hydra
■ Salamander
■ Kirin
■ Sea serpent
■ Leviathan

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I think that asexual people can relate
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Is he autosexual?

So the other night we had s$x (neither one of us finished). Shortly after my bf decided to tell me that he wanted to go home and have some personal/private time and then wanted to come back later at his discretion after he had that time to himself.
Isn't that fc*n odd or what?? ?
How do you react or what would you suggest. He admitted that he wanted personal private time to just touch himself which he gets I very aroused by that and he doesn't finish himself off. He doesn't watch p***. he does not have a phone and he just plays & gets so turned on by the look n feel of his d**k. He has done this beside me too.l which I find hot but he wanted some private time and then he wanted to come back to me and be with me we did not have s*x after that I was quite turned off this time. He interrupted OUR time together to go home, play alone and come back. Figures that because he doesn't c*m often while doing this, it doesn't count as 'whatever'.
He says doing this beside me sometimes makes him embarrassed. sometimes. He will ask me to hold it, but has to be a certain way, and he will get himself hard, then say he needs to put it in right away before he loses it!!!. He is quite jealous of the men in p*** because he thinks they all have big pe*en and yet he is a 6" long and 5" girth so he's very well endowed for my liking. I'm the one instigating the p**n as well. He's very good in bed but he does some times have an issue with ED I believe it is from the emotional stress to perform. And worried someone may be listening.
He just can't stay hard.
He will get hard and then we will start and then he will go soft I take it personally. I'm thinking that everyone would but I am not sure how to respond and deal with this whole thing yet he loves me and he cares for me.
We are 6 mths in.
I say that I can't get him aroused and I'm not vanilla I've been to the clubs, the lifestyle with my exes I'm very adventurous. He will not leave the bedroom, he will not change up positions. I want to go outdoors, lots of fun, change things up, positions and foreplay he does enjoy foreplay and enjoys going 'downtown' on me. He's never had a full b***job in his life so I pressure him, I want to do it I love doing it I get aroused doing it but he has never had one to completion and the most that he has ever had is what I've done for him so I don't know how to take this all I'm kind of at the end of my rope really.
suggestions or ideas?
I'd never cheat either.

50 yrs old male
51 female

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My husband says he is asexual

My husband says he believes he is asexual. I believe he is right… he’s never really initiated sex. He says he never really thinks about it. He doesn’t say he doesn’t find me attractive but he doesn’t see me in a sense of “sexual”. I pretty much I’ve always had to beg or initiate and when it happens it seems like a favor for me.

My issue is I could tell the connection wasn’t mutual. No passion etc. I love him SO SO much and I can accept he is asexual but I’m not sure if I can stay with him because of my needs for intimacy on a sexual level.

He is my best friend and he’s a great person. I guess I just need some advice here.

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I hate feeling horny, and I wish I can make it dissappear. Any way to help?

So I'm (17 F) and i hate when I have THAT feeling "down there" and I wish I can make it go away, i talked to my grandmother and she said it was normal for people to have these feelings but when I do, I feel disgusted and horrible. I don't (and will never) masterbate because the concept of anything that isn't a pad or tissue touching down there makes me physically sick. I genuinely don't know what to do, to remedied this and honestly thinking of maybe getting a surgery to like, idk cut out my uterus or clitours. I'm just desperate for this feeling to E N D. I fucking hate myself every time this happens and I just lay in my bed feeling miserable and wanting to throw up. It's like a bad stomach ache that doesn't ache, please help! Any suggestions or ways to make this feeling go away will help

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A meme I made about my personal experience with being ace but also wanting to experience pregnancy
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Them: “So how did you figure out you were Ace?” - My teenage crushes:
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If you are ACE have you opened your relationship?

I 26M have been going out with a 24F for 2 years. The relationship is great, however the sexual aspect not so much. It’s always been terrible.

When we do have sex, I literally just put it in and don’t move. Being used like a dildo and it’s just shit for me. But even that never happens. We have realised my partner is asexual.

I’m a hyper sexual and we have both discussed that it might be best that I have sex with other people.

Are there many ACE people who have open relationships?
How would you feel if your partner had sex with someone else?
If you have opened a relationship, how did it feel?


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Are people really as horny as they are on tv?

I watched traitors which lead me to loving Kate so I had to watch below deck and oh my god I'm on the third season and everyone is so horny and wanting to sleep with everyone, even cheating on partners (Ben and Kat slept together season 2 idc) and as someone who is on the asexual spectrum (idk what I am and I've never been too keen to figure it out) it just seems like a lot. Like are people really this horny and sleeping together all the time?

I know this is the wrong people to be asking as I assume the majority of you are asexual/on the asexual spectrum but like idk where else to put these thoughts down/ask this question

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