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i think that the ace community has something against sex repulsed aces and im tired of them pretending they dont

so, whoever needs to hear this:
i dont think youre lesser of a person for being a virgin, i dont think youre lesser of a person for "being a prude", i dont think youre lesser of a person for being "vanilla", i dont think youre "boring", i dont think youre lesser of a person or weird for being uncomfortable with sex or talking about sex, i dont think youre "sex negative" for disliking sex and sexual topics, i dont think youre less of a person for criticizing something sexual-related, i dont think youre less of a person for wanting to be in a space without sexual topics popping up, i dont think youre a bad person for feeling grossed out by sexual atteaction being expressed in your direction, i dont think youre lesser of a person for having boundaries, i dont think youre less deserving of love for wanting to be in a sexless relationship

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Any asexuals who feels overwhelming love towards ppl?


Ok so, i might have asked a question IF asexuals can feel that way, but never have i asked abt how annoying it feels ( this is my opinion dw )

https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/s/ajN4ySicj6


Like..Yeah it feels good but the annoying part is how i mistake it with sexual attraction bc of how my enviorment describes it as getting close to someone and thats it expected to lead it to sexual acts ( it doesnt matter how non-sexual it is. It will be percieved that way….i wanna move to planet mars )


I usually feel this with sensual attraction bc its the strongest attraction i feel and relate to. I usually use sensual attraction as examples a lot since its the only attraction i understand ( which made someone upset Idk. They mentioned me to stop using sensual attraction as an example of non-sexual attraction which is understandable bc there is many types of attractions that are non-sexual instead of sensual )


Like..i could feel cuteness aggression/overwhelming love towards someone to the point that i would scream. But then i get a slap of reality check and realized if i would ever be in a relationship where i crave non- sexual touches, this would be misunderstood. Like…They would expect it to lead it to more than just cuddles/kisses. Like…CMON MAN.


Now look, i have no problem with ppl who crave more than just cuddles. The only problem i have is how its gonna be so hard to find a relationship that isnt sexual…


Heck, i noticed that every sensual touches( yes i mentions sensual, i am sorry ) like kisses, cuddles and all. Its always assumed to be lead to sexual acts. And if you dont then you are somehow ‘’ leading on ‘’ ( i have heard it everywhere…idk if i am crazy or something i am sorry )


And i have this weird feeling that everytime sensual acts gets oversexualized that it caused me to not enjoy it anymore for how it is so…sexualized.


Idk if i am wrong or something like that. I hope it doesnt sound sex-negative ( bc i hate purity culture and negativity towards sex and sexuality ). Bc i dont want it to sound like that yk. I dont think sexual acts are bad bc its technically not. I just hate how everything is percieved as only sexual and nothing else.


I feel left out, idk.

I just want some love that doesnt have sex in it but its so hard bc its expected. I just also want to love someone ovewhelmingly without them thinking that means in trying to lead into sex.


Does anyone feel that way?
I just dont want to be alone on this and Thats why i asked ig. Sooo yeah, does anyone feel that way?




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Any advice for frustrated asexual?

Hi everyone. I'm in low mood and my writing can be not very clear, sorry in advance.

I just feel so lonely and tired. I'm asian female in late 20's and left my home country because there was full of homophobic/misogyny and social norms about normalities, which I really hated. I arrived western country with a hope that here is different but it's pretty same. The only difference is many ppl at least pretends to not be homophobic etc, but I've found out it's just different kind of biases. Many people still don't know what asexual is, and I have no energy to explain.

I'm sure I'm asexual. I don't feel sexual attraction and not interested in engaging activities. I'm not sure about if I'm aromantic or not tho, since I met a guy and having a quite good relationship. At first I thought this might be right person for me, maybe I can have partner that I fantasized, but I'm not sure anymore. He's not asexual but we talked well so it's not problem(I hope so). Problem is, whenever I talk with him about men/women things and gender, queerness and equality, he just tires me out. All conversations become debate even when it isn't debatable idea for me. It might be his trying to understand but I'm tired of it. I want someone who has similar level of understanding with me. I want friends who can talk without debate, without trying hard to make them understand basic things. Sometimes when I'm really tired I think of putting an end of this relationship, but he's already precious friend for me and I must feel lonely again in this foreign country, more than before.

I want my people. I miss my ace, feminist friends in my home country. But I can't go back because I know it's not my place. Maybe I'm not good at meeting right people for me. My friends here are super interested in dating and I get loads of questions everyday, somthing like "why you don't make boyfriend", "I know a guy who's interested in you" I'm sick of being someone's potential girlfriend or available woman. I met some queer friends and they're nice, but I feel distant when they talk about dating and sex, and they talk about it a lot.

I don't even know what advice I want to get in here. Maybe something like, where can I meet ace friends, but not for dating? How to find like-minded people? But I also know making friend is up to personality, not really sexuality only. And I'm genereally not good at making friends. I don't know anything anymore and I feel lonely and there's no place for me. Maybe I just wanted to say to someone.

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I swear fate doesn't want me to wear an ace ring [trigger warning: blood]
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Anyone wanna chat? I need like-minded people.

Few words about me. I'm in my twenties, autistic, sex repulsed specifically repulsed by female role in sex and not interested in romantic relationships and prefer you not talk about yours or even better, not have them

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Updates: the garlic grows, for the bread
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Basically sums up my personal community theater experience
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My personal experiences in community theater
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I’m dating an Asexual person I need advice

I (29M) started dating this person (29F). To me, she’s the most beautiful, smartest woman, the one I see in my future. From the moment I saw her, I knew I was in love with her. When we started dating, she told me she was asexual. My understanding of asexuality wasn’t very clear (and still isn’t), and I kind of panicked. After she told me that, on our second date I didn’t hold her hand or kiss her because I didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. But then she told me she actually likes kisses, cuddling, and holding hands.

My dilemma now is that I don’t fully understand what asexuality is. For me, sex isn’t that important because I feel intimacy goes beyond sex, and in many cases sex can even damage relationships. But I don’t know how to behave with her. I don’t understand the asexual spectrum, and I’d love advice on how to navigate this. Could someone explain what being asexual means and what it’s like being in a relationship with someone who is asexual? What should I ask her, and what should we be talking about?

Also, after doing some research, I think I might be demisexual. But all of this has become kind of confusing, and I really want clarity so I can love this person in the best way possible


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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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Do you ever feel bad about having genitals?

Hi!

I actually identify as demisexual, but I think this is more on the asexual side of the spectrum.

For additional context, I am a 26 years old cis male. I don’t identify strongly with my gender nor do I really care about acting masculine or being perceived as such, but I do consider myself a man.

When I was growing up, I would occasionally resent having genitalia. I found myself wishing I just didn’t have it. I don’t think I wanted to transition to another gender, I think I just wished my body itself was asexual.

Two years ago, I got to feel sexual attraction for the first (and so far, only) time in my life. While I had someone to be attracted to, I felt a lot better about my body and my sexuality. That person eventually ghosted me and those feelings faded.

Today, I’m having some kind of crisis. I feel like my body itself is kinda gross for having genitals, if that makes sense? I think there is some sort of male guilt mixed into it, as I often have conflicting or negative thoughts about male sexuality.

Sorry, this is kind of a rambling post, but if anyone has similar feelings or thoughts to share, I would be happy to read them.

Thank you for reading.

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I posted a snippet of a book I'm reading another day, here's allege passage
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Am I asexual?

Am I asexual?
Hi so I’m new here and not sure how much sense this will make but this is the first time even writing anything like this.

I’m so confused! I’m in a long term relationship and have only just now thought about my sexuality after having a breakdown. I’ve never been that bothered about having sex in regard to the “sexual attraction” side of it. Before my current relationship I’ve only ever had sex once out of choice and it just didn’t feel right. Like I couldn’t enjoy it if I tried. IF I do have sex with my partner it’s for the pleasure of them and to feel connected more than anything. I’m more for cuddling and words of affirmation and could easily go without sex no doubt about it. We’ve spoken about it and my partner explained that sex isn’t a deal breaker for them and it never will be because they love me. But I still have the fear of him leaving… I’m so confused! Any help / advice will be very much appreciated!

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So apparently looking nice means you have a crush on someone now?

So, at school a teacher asked me if I had a crush on someone because I've been styling my hair. Luckily she believed me when I said no. The other one I heard said I probably have a crush on a friend who's taken. Ong I hate it when people make assumptions about shit like this. It just feels rude and in their business. It's like asking a random woman if she's pregnant or not.

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no one can know.
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How do y’all feel about sex in general?

Hey y’all! I’m aromantic, pansexual and very much hypersexual. I very much love sex, but my best friend, who is asexual, is the opposite where they said that they feel repulsed by being involved in sex. It just leads me to wonder how people on the aro or ace spectrum feel about sex. Is it complicated or just pretty simple? I like learning about people feelings about it cuz I just like hearing about people different from me

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Can YOU do better???
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i keep having sexual dreams even though im repulsed by it😕

hi, im only 16 but im asexual, and have been ever since i knew what sex was, but i keep having dreams about sex and i hate it so much!! just last night i had a dream where i was having sex multiple times and i woke up feeling disgusted with myself, angry with myself and i just dont know why it keeps happening!! even in my dreams im not enjoying it but it happens anyway?? its so uncomfortable especially because when i wake up i feel like a pervert😖 why does this keep happening even though i hate it?! its like my dreams like making me suffer😭

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I appreciate you all but like 80% of my friends are ace and I'd like a bit more diversity in there so could you please ease up on it a bit

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