couldn’t keep their dicks away from animals is honestly so horrifying. what type of culture have we’ve enabled? i genuinely don’t understand the hype of sex, even when i was having sex, i would just be performing, and after the guy cums, the sex ends there with me being unfinished, it’s unappealing, nasty, sweaty, and just bodily fluids eeek. plus the average human as the same anatomy in terms of sexual organs, so like on average, one female’s set of tits doesn’t look that different to another’s, and to me; every dick has felt nearly identical, so i just don’t get this burning desire people have to fuck so many people or even cheat on their significant others??
im not sure if my thought process is making any more sense, but let me know if you think a similar way? i just needed to rant about this because ive felt this way for over 2 years now and i never actually had the chance to have a discussion out loud about simply the thought of sex nauseates me. anyway, i appreciate whoever read this far, have a good day/night :)
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im not sure if my thought process is making any more sense, but let me know if you think a similar way? i just needed to rant about this because ive felt this way for over 2 years now and i never actually had the chance to have a discussion out loud about simply the thought of sex nauseates me. anyway, i appreciate whoever read this far, have a good day/night :)
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Hey, is it common for cisgender dudes to be asexual?
Or is there something wrong with me? Because all I see are people belonging to other gender identities who are asexual. I just wanted to know if it's rare or something. Kinda worried as well, because I used to think of myself as the protagonist of an ecchi anime like 'Highschool DXD'. It's kinda, like, stupid, but I need some validation for Christ's sake!!!
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Or is there something wrong with me? Because all I see are people belonging to other gender identities who are asexual. I just wanted to know if it's rare or something. Kinda worried as well, because I used to think of myself as the protagonist of an ecchi anime like 'Highschool DXD'. It's kinda, like, stupid, but I need some validation for Christ's sake!!!
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Do asexuals like Chicago pizza?
I'm not asexual, but I want to understand you better. I get not being interested sex, there's so much else to enjoy in life, like pizza. But how about Chicago style pizza?
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I'm not asexual, but I want to understand you better. I get not being interested sex, there's so much else to enjoy in life, like pizza. But how about Chicago style pizza?
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Wife came out to me as asexual.
I apologize in advance for being long winded.
I’m sorry if this kind of post is not welcome here. I am not comfortable speaking about this topic with anyone in my personal life, and frankly, I don’t know anyone who would be knowledgeable enough on the topic. So I was looking for some insight from people who experience asexuality first hand.
Hi all, I (27f) and my wife (also 27f) have been together for 10 years, married just under 2 of those years. We have never had a very sexual relationship, maybe 2-3 times a month on average. I have struggled with this at times because I thought she simply wasn’t attracted to me, although she calls me beautiful all the time.
Today she brings to my attention that she is not a sexual person at all. Not just not with me, not any gender, she doesn’t think of anyone sexually. Even her girlfriend prior to me. She says she loves me endlessly, she sees herself spending a lifetime with me. Just without sex. Well, she says the rare occasion of sex.
She says this was very very hard to bring to my attention, and I’m sure it was. She struggled with it in silence for years. She says she forced herself to have sex with me the majority of the time we did, to please me, to feel “normal”, and etc. Which felt like a gut punch when I first heard those words. Not because I was upset at the thought of lack of sex, but an overwhelming guilt.
Sex has never been super important to me, but I do desire sexual pleasure. But I have no desire to seek it outside of my marriage, and she has explained she is not comfortable with me doing so.
She stated that she does get aroused at times, not every sexual encounter we had was a lie on her part, and that sex won’t never happen, but it will be rare.
I’m fine with this. It feels good knowing this so we can focus on strengthening other parts of our marriage and not focusing so much on the sex.
Questions I have:
How do I help her come to terms with this instead of fearing there is something wrong with her?
Can we still have a fulfilling life together?
Do asexual people sometimes still get sexual urges?
Is it okay/appropriate if I masturbate to fill my own sexual desires?
Do asexual people still find people aesthetically attractive?
Can an asexual person and non-asexual person still be compatible?
Can asexual people still feel sexual pleasure?
Can libido supplements help?(her idea, not mine)
Anyone in a relationship with a non-asexual person, how do you navigate sex?
I love my wife more than life itself, she is my absolute best friend. I am just trying to educate myself in the best way possible to navigate any way this may change our marriage.
Thank you for listening. Any and all commentary and advice is greatly welcomed and appreciated.
Much love.
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I apologize in advance for being long winded.
I’m sorry if this kind of post is not welcome here. I am not comfortable speaking about this topic with anyone in my personal life, and frankly, I don’t know anyone who would be knowledgeable enough on the topic. So I was looking for some insight from people who experience asexuality first hand.
Hi all, I (27f) and my wife (also 27f) have been together for 10 years, married just under 2 of those years. We have never had a very sexual relationship, maybe 2-3 times a month on average. I have struggled with this at times because I thought she simply wasn’t attracted to me, although she calls me beautiful all the time.
Today she brings to my attention that she is not a sexual person at all. Not just not with me, not any gender, she doesn’t think of anyone sexually. Even her girlfriend prior to me. She says she loves me endlessly, she sees herself spending a lifetime with me. Just without sex. Well, she says the rare occasion of sex.
She says this was very very hard to bring to my attention, and I’m sure it was. She struggled with it in silence for years. She says she forced herself to have sex with me the majority of the time we did, to please me, to feel “normal”, and etc. Which felt like a gut punch when I first heard those words. Not because I was upset at the thought of lack of sex, but an overwhelming guilt.
Sex has never been super important to me, but I do desire sexual pleasure. But I have no desire to seek it outside of my marriage, and she has explained she is not comfortable with me doing so.
She stated that she does get aroused at times, not every sexual encounter we had was a lie on her part, and that sex won’t never happen, but it will be rare.
I’m fine with this. It feels good knowing this so we can focus on strengthening other parts of our marriage and not focusing so much on the sex.
Questions I have:
How do I help her come to terms with this instead of fearing there is something wrong with her?
Can we still have a fulfilling life together?
Do asexual people sometimes still get sexual urges?
Is it okay/appropriate if I masturbate to fill my own sexual desires?
Do asexual people still find people aesthetically attractive?
Can an asexual person and non-asexual person still be compatible?
Can asexual people still feel sexual pleasure?
Can libido supplements help?(her idea, not mine)
Anyone in a relationship with a non-asexual person, how do you navigate sex?
I love my wife more than life itself, she is my absolute best friend. I am just trying to educate myself in the best way possible to navigate any way this may change our marriage.
Thank you for listening. Any and all commentary and advice is greatly welcomed and appreciated.
Much love.
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I hate when people touch me without my consent
like touching me anywhere at all, even tickling, at work I get touched by coworkers weirdly everyday and when I tell them to stop they keep going. is this not sexual harassment? am i weird that I feel uncomfortable whenever someone touches me. If i say no, no means no.
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like touching me anywhere at all, even tickling, at work I get touched by coworkers weirdly everyday and when I tell them to stop they keep going. is this not sexual harassment? am i weird that I feel uncomfortable whenever someone touches me. If i say no, no means no.
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Thank you Subway Australia; signed a cute & sweet asexual boi who loves cheesy garlic-bread 🏆🧄🧀🥖🍞
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Lots of venting-I’m proud to be aroace I just wish there was more space for people who figured it out the messy way
I’m aromantic and asexual, and discovering that has brought me a lot of peace. I’m not interested in romantic relationships, I don’t feel sexual attraction, and for the first time, I feel like I understand myself.
But I feel like I have to sanitize my past to be accepted in ace spaces. I’ve had sex before just a couple of times and it wasn’t that great. I was curious, unsure, trying to figure out what everyone else seemed so into. It never really clicked for me, and now I know why. But any time I mention it, I feel like people think I’m not “really” ace. Like having had sex before disqualifies me from the label.
And while I was figuring things out, I also ended up in some weird sexual subreddits. It wasn’t anything illegal or harmful just fantasy-based stuff I would never actually do. It was a way to process things when I didn’t know what I was feeling. But some of the comments I left there got taken out of context, and I got attacked for them. It left me feeling ashamed and confused.
I’m also autistic, so I take things pretty personally. I don’t just brush off hate or misunderstandings they linger. I replay conversations and comments over and over, even when I know I shouldn’t. And it makes it even harder to feel like I belong anywhere.
I guess I just wish there was more space in the community for people who didn’t figure it out right away. Who had some messy or confusing experiences. Who explored things and then realized: “Yeah… this isn’t for me.”
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I’m aromantic and asexual, and discovering that has brought me a lot of peace. I’m not interested in romantic relationships, I don’t feel sexual attraction, and for the first time, I feel like I understand myself.
But I feel like I have to sanitize my past to be accepted in ace spaces. I’ve had sex before just a couple of times and it wasn’t that great. I was curious, unsure, trying to figure out what everyone else seemed so into. It never really clicked for me, and now I know why. But any time I mention it, I feel like people think I’m not “really” ace. Like having had sex before disqualifies me from the label.
And while I was figuring things out, I also ended up in some weird sexual subreddits. It wasn’t anything illegal or harmful just fantasy-based stuff I would never actually do. It was a way to process things when I didn’t know what I was feeling. But some of the comments I left there got taken out of context, and I got attacked for them. It left me feeling ashamed and confused.
I’m also autistic, so I take things pretty personally. I don’t just brush off hate or misunderstandings they linger. I replay conversations and comments over and over, even when I know I shouldn’t. And it makes it even harder to feel like I belong anywhere.
I guess I just wish there was more space in the community for people who didn’t figure it out right away. Who had some messy or confusing experiences. Who explored things and then realized: “Yeah… this isn’t for me.”
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The “you haven’t met the right person yet” often just puts people on other parts of the spectrum
If they do end up being sexually attracted to somebody, they might be graysexual, or demisexual, or aceflux. We all know how stupid this argument is, but the more you look at it, the dumber it becomes. Allosexual and asexual are not the only possibilities.
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If they do end up being sexually attracted to somebody, they might be graysexual, or demisexual, or aceflux. We all know how stupid this argument is, but the more you look at it, the dumber it becomes. Allosexual and asexual are not the only possibilities.
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Microlabel Help (Is there one I'm missing?)
I really struggle with feeling like any microlabel fits for me. I know there is no NEED to fit one but I sort of wish there were one that covered asexuals who did not want to engage in sexual activity but were not necessarily repulsed by the concept or activity of sex. Apothisexual almost feels right but I often see it described as a repulsion rather than an aversion or a choice to be celibate. The reason I even feel the need for a microlabel is just that there are a lot of asexuals who will still choose to engage in some sexual activity and I think it would be helpful to be able to communicate that is not the choice I make for myself.
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I really struggle with feeling like any microlabel fits for me. I know there is no NEED to fit one but I sort of wish there were one that covered asexuals who did not want to engage in sexual activity but were not necessarily repulsed by the concept or activity of sex. Apothisexual almost feels right but I often see it described as a repulsion rather than an aversion or a choice to be celibate. The reason I even feel the need for a microlabel is just that there are a lot of asexuals who will still choose to engage in some sexual activity and I think it would be helpful to be able to communicate that is not the choice I make for myself.
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Advice about gynecologist
Hi guys, so today I went to the gynecologist after avoiding it like a plague for years. I’m ace (obviously) and haven’t had sex or plan to …ever.
I knew he would have questions as to why I’m a virgin at this age (in my 30s) but it was still really uncomfortable. I went there thinking about telling him the true, I was asexual and was not interested in sex irl even if I have a high libido it’s not something I ever want to do but just talking to him made me realize that would only trigger more questions lol so I just told him I haven’t meet somebody I wanted to do it with but yeah it was awkward and uncomfortable. He even advices me to go out more and leave my comfort zone which I was ok, I will do so 😅 He told me that having sex was a normal thing, not having sex or urges was not normal.
If you are in my same position how do you deal with it? What do you say? If it wasn’t because of my health I would not go 😭
P.D: found out I was ace around 8 years ago after feeling abnormal for years and finally felt free. I’m not sure how I’m feeling after that visit today. He seems like a nice doctor and better than the last one I saw tbh
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Hi guys, so today I went to the gynecologist after avoiding it like a plague for years. I’m ace (obviously) and haven’t had sex or plan to …ever.
I knew he would have questions as to why I’m a virgin at this age (in my 30s) but it was still really uncomfortable. I went there thinking about telling him the true, I was asexual and was not interested in sex irl even if I have a high libido it’s not something I ever want to do but just talking to him made me realize that would only trigger more questions lol so I just told him I haven’t meet somebody I wanted to do it with but yeah it was awkward and uncomfortable. He even advices me to go out more and leave my comfort zone which I was ok, I will do so 😅 He told me that having sex was a normal thing, not having sex or urges was not normal.
If you are in my same position how do you deal with it? What do you say? If it wasn’t because of my health I would not go 😭
P.D: found out I was ace around 8 years ago after feeling abnormal for years and finally felt free. I’m not sure how I’m feeling after that visit today. He seems like a nice doctor and better than the last one I saw tbh
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Anyone who is a sex-repulsed asexual who is ALSO a Hopeless romantic. I have something to say. ( it might be cringe i am sorry )
Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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just thought of a huge plus of being ace - ssri sexual side effects don't apply to me
I'm switching ssri (again) and I've seen a bunch of comments on the med that it works but it had x sexual side effect so they had to go off it. Glad I don't have to worry about that!
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I'm switching ssri (again) and I've seen a bunch of comments on the med that it works but it had x sexual side effect so they had to go off it. Glad I don't have to worry about that!
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Anyone who is a sex-repulsed asexual who is ALSO a Hopeless romantic. I have something to say. ( it might be cringe i am sorry )
Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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Just did sexual harassment training and was happy to see ace representation
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Dating apps
So I’ve been on different dating apps lately and idk it’s not going to good for me I was on this one app but it’s full of bots ,so downloaded a few more apps one called hinge and it let’s you pick what sexual you are it has even asexual option on there so I like this one so far. Hopefully it goes well
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So I’ve been on different dating apps lately and idk it’s not going to good for me I was on this one app but it’s full of bots ,so downloaded a few more apps one called hinge and it let’s you pick what sexual you are it has even asexual option on there so I like this one so far. Hopefully it goes well
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