Felt this belonged here
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Apparent I am not ace because I think ace people should be allowed to have sex if they want to

Got told today that ace people literally cannot consent and it is always rape and that I am not ace because I believe ace people *can* consent and should be allowed to do what they want.

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My partner is ace and identifies as sex neutral to sex repulsive. This is my first time dating an ace person, how can I be the most mindful of them?

They are also a CSA survivor. Which makes sex even more complicated. They said they do sex as an act of service. How can I be the most mindful of them? Can you please suggest me any resources? I want to know more about the ways ace people get invalidated so I don’t do that

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Does the Kinsey Scale include Asexuality?

I got bored so I felt like taking a Kinsey Scale test, but not a single one that I come across seems to include Asexuality? It’s always talking about who I’m attracted to, slept with, fantasise about etc. but there’s never an answer for just no one???

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Having a period sucks as someone who is ace

Yall I never want children biologically and having a period every month sucks. I don't have side effects when I'm on my period (cramps, stomach aches, etc.) and i empathize with all of you who do. You guys are so strong and I have mad respect for you. I heard menopause sucks even more with hot flashes so womanhood is so lovely in that aspect. Overall I love being a woman WHO LOVES WOMEN (GAYY)

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Pick a number and I’ll give you a song

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just for funsies!

Tell me what you think of my rec!

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Anyone else is sometimes sex repulsed sometimes hypersexual?

I really don't understand why I'm like that, but I can be a completely sex repulsed aegosexual for like two months and then, all of a sudden I'm a super horny hypersexual for a week or two.

I don't understand why I keep switching from aego to Ultra Lesbian.

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Alternative "Hear Me Out List"

So my friends are throwing a party this weekend, and they're all preparing a "hear me out" list. Basically making a list of the most unhinged things or characters that you are attracted to, and trying to justify it to the group.

They don't want me being left out, so have challenged me to come up with my own category to make a list of, since there's literally nothing I'm attracted to. And I plan to rise to this challenge and join in a Hear Me Out game for the first time!

The best we have come up with is "Top five things I want to eat but biology says no" or "Things I think should replace military uniforms".

So looking for some other suggestions on making my own list! What would you make your list based on, if you had to make an Ace Hear Me Out List? All light hearted and goofy topics, please.

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So hot
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Marriage in a nutshell right right?
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Two memes (I specially love the second one!)

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I'm ace, my partner isn't, how do you guys handle it?

Title. I have no idea how to handle this situation. I'm strictly monogamous, and very much so asexual, and I do not know how to satisfy both our wants

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The show Virgins on TLC sucks. Rant time.

I have an honest question to ask everyone.

How many people here would be okay with staying a virgin for life? Or just going without having sex ever again?

I can't be the only one, can I?

I was turned on to a show on TLC, titled Virgins. Obviously, it's a TV show about adult virgins. I watched it, and the whole entire show is repugnant.

The whole gist of the show is apparently to follow 4 adult virgins and mock them for never having had sex. They basically chose 4 stereotypical adult virgin tropes and decided to portray them in the most unflattering light.

One guy is made fun of by his own family for still being a 34 year-old virgin who lives with his parents. His sisters constantly poke at him and harass him. He was bullied in school. There was a story where a girl basically pranked him, telling him to meet her at a spot in school, only for her to bring her boyfriend and all her friends to laugh and mock him for falling for the prank. Just cruel. So, he has some esteem issues from all of that bullying as a child.

Another is a 35 year-old virgin who is always being coaxed by her friends because she just doesn't like anyone she meets and is told she is "too picky". She is supposedly conventionally attractive to most people, and she gets approached by others interested in dating her. However, she just is not interested in anyone. All of her friends keep cajoling her into trying dating, even though she just doesn't like anyone she dates.

She ends up going on some blind dating show, where the hosts constantly make fun of her for being a virgin. It was among the most mean-spirited moments I've ever watched on a show. There's an audience there that is in total shock because she hasn't lost her V-card and hasn't been in a relationship. A couple audience members are mouth agape when she mentions she's a 35 year-old virgin, and the hosts are asking these invasive questions, trying to persuade her into trying sex. The whole show seems so prickish, honestly.

The next virgin is a 37 year-old Indian-American woman who remained a virgin because of her religious upbringing. The whole show constantly harps on her being an uptight prude who just needs to "loosen up" and "live a little". She talks about how she's demisexual, and it just seems like everyone is constantly trying to force her to do things she doesn't want to do. I'm not even sure she even wants to have sex for the sake of having it. She seems to want sex because she wants a romantic relationship with someone and feels like it's the only way to have a romantic relationship. It's just so cruel.

The last one is a 42 year-old woman who is just horny all the time. She is just always talking about wanting to do BDSM, since she sees it in porn. She is just very sexually charged all the time. She was married, but she never had sex with her ex-husband, because he only married her for citizenship status and then ditched her, pretty much. She has esteem issues from that failed marriage, and from the fact she doesn't feel she fits societal beauty standards. So, there is just a lot there with that.

The whole show constantly is making it seem like being an adult virgin is like being an alien. It's always seen as like "We need to devirginize these people", so they can become "normal" like the rest of us.

One friend said we just need to get her to have sex, so she can join "the rest of the world".

The way they treat these virgins is infuriating as hell, honestly.

This show just sucks, for real.

Why do they always show virgins as complete losers and weirdos all the time? Why must television and media always treat people who don't have sex as being psychos?

They never seem to show people who are happy to remain virgins and aren't interested in sex. They never seem to show someone like me, an aromantic asexual guy who has no interest in having sex of any kind.

They always pick these sad sack, pity cases that they can portray as being "losers" and conventionally "uncool". TV is constantly stereotyping virgins as being uncool losers who

deserve to be laughed at.

Honestly, it makes me mad. Maybe because I'm a 35 year-old virgin myself. I'm just mad still.

Am I wrong in being angry over this?

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Why is sex depicted that way by allos ?

Allos will describe sex as the most important thing in someone’s life, something that needs to be done before you die, a primal instinct/desire, the most beautiful thing ever etc… But it’s also something that can be traumatizing, so why is it depicted as the most beautiful and enjoyable thing ever ? I genuinely don’t understand it at all. See for example, if a child sees their parents having sex, it will be traumatizing, or if the child views pornographic content at a young age or suffers from SA, that’s traumatizing af so why is such a thing the "best thing in the world and the best demonstration of love" ? You can say SA is not the same thing as sex, sure, it’s completely different, but I still don’t get why the most pleasurable thing on earth and the best way of showing your love to someone can also be the most traumatizing and disturbing ever ? That doesn’t make sense. A kiss for example, if a kid sees a couple kissing (not necessarily extremely passionate and awkward involving tongues for example), the kid will at most be disgusted. Or hugs for example ; nobody is traumatized by seeing people hug each other. So why are hugs and kissing seen as less affectionate than sex when sex can be the reason for bad trauma while hugs and kisses are not shocking in any way or form ? My ace brain doesn’t get it.

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The show Virgins on TLC sucks. Rant time.

I have an honest question to ask everyone.

How many people here would be okay with staying a virgin for life? Or just going without having sex ever again?

I can't be the only one, can I?

I was turned on to a show on TLC, titled Virgins. Obviously, it's a TV show about adult virgins. I watched it, and the whole entire show is repugnant.

The whole gist of the show is apparently to follow 4 adult virgins and mock them for never having had sex. They basically chose 4 stereotypical adult virgin tropes and decided to portray them in the most unflattering light.

One guy is made fun of by his own family for still being a 34 year-old virgin who lives with his parents. His sisters constantly poke at him and harass him. He was bullied in school. There was a story where a girl basically pranked him, telling him to meet her at a spot in school, only for her to bring her boyfriend and all her friends to laugh and mock him for falling for the prank. Just cruel. So, he has some esteem issues from all of that bullying as a child.

Another is a 35 year-old virgin who is always being coaxed by her friends because she just doesn't like anyone she meets and is told she is "too picky". She is supposedly conventionally attractive to most people, and she gets approached by others interested in dating her. However, she just is not interested in anyone. All of her friends keep cajoling her into trying dating, even though she just doesn't like anyone she dates.

She ends up going on some blind dating show, where the hosts constantly make fun of her for being a virgin. It was among the most mean-spirited moments I've ever watched on a show. There's an audience there that is in total shock because she hasn't lost her V-card and hasn't been in a relationship. A couple audience members are mouth agape when she mentions she's a 35 year-old virgin, and the hosts are asking these invasive questions, trying to persuade her into trying sex. The whole show seems so prickish, honestly.

The next virgin is a 37 year-old Indian-American woman who remained a virgin because of her religious upbringing. The whole show constantly harps on her being an uptight prude who just needs to "loosen up" and "live a little". She talks about how she's demisexual, and it just seems like everyone is constantly trying to force her to do things she doesn't want to do. I'm not even sure she even wants to have sex for the sake of having it. She seems to want sex because she wants a romantic relationship with someone and feels like it's the only way to have a romantic relationship. It's just so cruel.

The last one is a 42 year-old woman who is just horny all the time. She is just always talking about wanting to do BDSM, since she sees it in porn. She is just very sexually charged all the time. She was married, but she never had sex with her ex-husband, because he only married her for citizenship status and then ditched her, pretty much. She has esteem issues from that failed marriage, and from the fact she doesn't feel she fits societal beauty standards. So, there is just a lot there with that.

The whole show constantly is making it seem like being an adult virgin is like being an alien. It's always seen as like "We need to devirginize these people", so they can become "normal" like the rest of us.

One friend said we just need to get her to have sex, so she can join "the rest of the world".

The way they treat these virgins is infuriating as hell, honestly.

This show just sucks, for real.

Why do they always show virgins as complete losers and weirdos all the time? Why must television and media always treat people who don't have sex as being psychos?

They never seem to show people who are happy to remain virgins and aren't interested in sex. They never seem to show someone like me, an aromantic asexual guy who has no interest in having sex of any kind.

They always pick these sad sack, pity cases that they can portray as being "losers" and conventionally "uncool". TV is constantly stereotyping virgins as being uncool losers who

deserve to be laughed at.

Honestly, it makes me mad. Maybe because I'm a 35 year-old virgin myself. I'm just mad still.

Am I wrong in being angry over this?

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So fucking hot
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