Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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Sex is kind of like cilantro

not everyone likes it but enough people do that it gets added to things that probably don’t need it

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A new hire on the number one sports podcast kinda came out as ace today on air
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Love Signs: How To Know For Certain If Someone Is In Love?

I know that I love someone whenever I think about someone a lot like in this part of the lyrics of the love song that the sapphic artist called Chloe Moriondo wrote dedicated to her girlfriend named Samantha at https://youtu.be/Aaz3zN3FLFU?si=NZxoGWJoqcPGIULa :

And everything I write sounds cliche, but

I can't help that I think about you every day

And every night

And every morning

And afternoon

And all the time...

How else do you surely know that you are in love?

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Hugging isn’t sexual; not even cuddling.

Thing is though...

The only cuddling I care for is the cuddles where one is on their back and the other is leaned on them in some way as other cuddles I can't get comfortable and I'll burn up. So no to spooning.

Hugging will give me acne unless I do the shoulder and from behind way. i.e don't touch my face when you kiss me.

Well, duh.

But who'd a thought I saw a post that got deleted as I tried to comment on it that hugging and cuddling is sexual and I read the comments and apparently its all extreme Christians who are celibate and think asexual is for the autistics responding.

Like sure let's give another form of vaccine to autism fear.

Hey. I HAVE MILD AUTISM AND I AM ASEXUAL! But I'm also a butch. But still... Nothing to correlate with. Disabled doesn't equal caused sexual or no sexual desires. You either do or don't as well as your disability.

You have got to be insane to think that hugging and cuddling is sexual unless you're a man and don't want a bkner to pop up.


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Crazy mental gymnastics😭
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pseudosexuals ( or maybe asexuals in general ) trying to find out what attraction they are feeling
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Made this gray-ace shirt
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Asexual Luna Moth
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found this gem on r/Sims4

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fellow asexuals who aren’t aromantic, how has your experience been finding a partner?

i sometimes wonder if it’s possible for me to find a fellow asexual person or accommodating allosexual person. i’m completely sex-repulsed, and it makes me think i have really slim chances of ever having a lasting romantic partnership. it makes me wish i was aromantic sometimes, if i’m being honest.

if you do have a partner, did you end up telling them upfront about your sexuality and your boundaries? how’d you explore that? and if you couldn’t begin a relationship because of sexual incompatibility based on your level of comfort with sex, how did that conversation go?

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Fictosexuals still Asexual?

Hi! I've identified as ace for quite a long time, since I was a minor. I'm older now though and I've done some research and very mild exploration. I strongly identify with fictosexual however the moment a character is no longer a character I no longer feel attracted to them the same. Like an actor on and off screen for example. Most of the time I really don't like real people even as characters, I usually prefer a more cartoon style, 3D or otherwise.
Would calling myself asexual still be appropriate?

TLDR I'm fictosexual can I still call myself Ace?

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Copied a bracelet (with permission)

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Where do I find my people

Hi, I'm 19F, and I was wondering if there are any apps or websites where I can find friends or partners. I'm tired of people saying "oh you just need a vainy dick"

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Thirst traps would be 100% more effective for me if they were about kissing and cuddling instead of sex.

When I was 18, someone messaged on Facebook me asking if I like when a woman makes the first move. I said yes, but then was disappointed when the links and contact info that she sent me were for sex. I have been immune to these sex scams for the decades that they have been attempted on me.

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This felt ace coded to me
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There’s more of us than I thought (some ace positivity!)

Hello everyone :) ! Just wanted to share this fun little story with you. I think we could all need some positivity here.

So I’ve been in uni for a while now and have been getting outside and meeting people much more than I ever used to.

Today I was talking to a few people from my course, people I’d definitely consider friends at this point. They asked me what I’ve been up to and I wanted to tell them about this new ace group chat I’ve been in. I think pretty much everyone in my semester is very accepting of LGBTQIA+ but ehh…we all know how hard explaining asexuality can be. The looks you might get, even from other queer people sometimes. So i wasn’t sure whether to say it out loud.

But then, i thought, fuck it, I’m old enough, I don’t have to justify or hide my identity anymore. I went straight ahead, told them I’m ace. Told them about the group chat.

And guess what? All 3 of them, no joke, turned to me wide-eyed. “Wait, you’re ace too???”. We all looked at each other in stunned silence. Then we all realized. Stupid Spider-Man pointing meme. Suddenly we all exploded with laughter. Well, turns out all of us are ace and none of us knew about the others. It was hilarious. We talked and talked and were all so excited to finally meet other aces irl. I’m still in shock. Like what are the chances, honestly??? All four of us??

This just gave me a much more positive outlook on how many we truly are. I still can’t believe it. If some of you have similar stories I’d love to hear them! I just feel so elated right now. 🖤🩶🤍💜

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Something I appreciate about my Ace partner even as a allo myself.

Whenever he does something sweet, there's never the sexual ulterior motive.

Today I messaged on my lunch, I was stressed at work. I came home to a kiss and a big cuddle, dinner, buenos, a hot bubble bath and he did the bedtime routine with our Son.



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