Made a new online friend and they are completely understanding and cool with me being ace. This is a first for me, so I guess I'm excited!
I come with good news! As the title says, I have a new online friend who actually understands what ace means and is cool with me being that. This is actually a very big positive for me and I'm gonna tell y'all about it and why this is somehow exciting for me!
It's usually hard enough being autistic and having ADHD when trying to make new friends (even in online spaces), and it gets even tougher when your sexuality is something that SO many people either misunderstand or just choose to be ignorant about. I've had people tell me that I was just confused, a really good blossoming relationship fizzle because they wanted to rush into being uncomfortably intimate, and even people I thought were good friends of mine in the LGBTQ+ community joke about asexual people and how they didn't think that was real or shouldn't count as queer. Hell, I even had people try to send pictures (if you know, you know) to convince me otherwise, which was a gross experience!
But I started talking to this guy who had the same hobbies/interests as I did, and they seemed really awesome and funny and a nice person. When the topic came up about what brought me to the site I was on and why my bio showed "single, but taking a break from dating," I mentioned how I was just there to make good online friends. Usually I'd just make up something to avoid explaining my sexuality to someone who wouldn't understand, but that typically ended in me getting flirted with. So I bit the bullet and said I was asexual, even saying that if this was a problem, I completely understood. And to my surprise, he was 100% understanding of me, saying he was happy that I was proud of my sexuality and that no matter what he'd like to be friends.
This damn near brought a tear of joy to my eye because I was ready for the flat-out ignorance I usually got from people before, and although he said he may not know everything about the asexual spectrum personally, he supports what I am. And even he agreed that it's stupid how other allos think that it can just be fixed, similar to how he knew people who thought "the gay could be prayed away" from him. And we do share artwork we like and have done RPs with OCs before, but he understands that I am okay with fiction and is very respectful of boundaries even in that sense or when him and I are making jokes in conversations.
Sorry for going on and on here but this was just exciting to make a friend who knows I'm ace and isn't an asshole about it or thinks I'm not human because of it. To celebrate, the garlic bread and cake's on me!
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I come with good news! As the title says, I have a new online friend who actually understands what ace means and is cool with me being that. This is actually a very big positive for me and I'm gonna tell y'all about it and why this is somehow exciting for me!
It's usually hard enough being autistic and having ADHD when trying to make new friends (even in online spaces), and it gets even tougher when your sexuality is something that SO many people either misunderstand or just choose to be ignorant about. I've had people tell me that I was just confused, a really good blossoming relationship fizzle because they wanted to rush into being uncomfortably intimate, and even people I thought were good friends of mine in the LGBTQ+ community joke about asexual people and how they didn't think that was real or shouldn't count as queer. Hell, I even had people try to send pictures (if you know, you know) to convince me otherwise, which was a gross experience!
But I started talking to this guy who had the same hobbies/interests as I did, and they seemed really awesome and funny and a nice person. When the topic came up about what brought me to the site I was on and why my bio showed "single, but taking a break from dating," I mentioned how I was just there to make good online friends. Usually I'd just make up something to avoid explaining my sexuality to someone who wouldn't understand, but that typically ended in me getting flirted with. So I bit the bullet and said I was asexual, even saying that if this was a problem, I completely understood. And to my surprise, he was 100% understanding of me, saying he was happy that I was proud of my sexuality and that no matter what he'd like to be friends.
This damn near brought a tear of joy to my eye because I was ready for the flat-out ignorance I usually got from people before, and although he said he may not know everything about the asexual spectrum personally, he supports what I am. And even he agreed that it's stupid how other allos think that it can just be fixed, similar to how he knew people who thought "the gay could be prayed away" from him. And we do share artwork we like and have done RPs with OCs before, but he understands that I am okay with fiction and is very respectful of boundaries even in that sense or when him and I are making jokes in conversations.
Sorry for going on and on here but this was just exciting to make a friend who knows I'm ace and isn't an asshole about it or thinks I'm not human because of it. To celebrate, the garlic bread and cake's on me!
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Aze Magazine...
Sorry if this has been mentioned before, but I'm just now hearing about this... Has anyone read it? If so, is it strictly online, or are there also physical copies available as well?
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Sorry if this has been mentioned before, but I'm just now hearing about this... Has anyone read it? If so, is it strictly online, or are there also physical copies available as well?
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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Sex is kind of like cilantro
not everyone likes it but enough people do that it gets added to things that probably don’t need it
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not everyone likes it but enough people do that it gets added to things that probably don’t need it
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A new hire on the number one sports podcast kinda came out as ace today on air
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Love Signs: How To Know For Certain If Someone Is In Love?
I know that I love someone whenever I think about someone a lot like in this part of the lyrics of the love song that the sapphic artist called Chloe Moriondo wrote dedicated to her girlfriend named Samantha at https://youtu.be/Aaz3zN3FLFU?si=NZxoGWJoqcPGIULa :
And everything I write sounds cliche, but
I can't help that I think about you every day
And every night
And every morning
And afternoon
And all the time...
How else do you surely know that you are in love?
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I know that I love someone whenever I think about someone a lot like in this part of the lyrics of the love song that the sapphic artist called Chloe Moriondo wrote dedicated to her girlfriend named Samantha at https://youtu.be/Aaz3zN3FLFU?si=NZxoGWJoqcPGIULa :
And everything I write sounds cliche, but
I can't help that I think about you every day
And every night
And every morning
And afternoon
And all the time...
How else do you surely know that you are in love?
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Hugging isn’t sexual; not even cuddling.
Thing is though...
The only cuddling I care for is the cuddles where one is on their back and the other is leaned on them in some way as other cuddles I can't get comfortable and I'll burn up. So no to spooning.
Hugging will give me acne unless I do the shoulder and from behind way. i.e don't touch my face when you kiss me.
Well, duh.
But who'd a thought I saw a post that got deleted as I tried to comment on it that hugging and cuddling is sexual and I read the comments and apparently its all extreme Christians who are celibate and think asexual is for the autistics responding.
Like sure let's give another form of vaccine to autism fear.
Hey. I HAVE MILD AUTISM AND I AM ASEXUAL! But I'm also a butch. But still... Nothing to correlate with. Disabled doesn't equal caused sexual or no sexual desires. You either do or don't as well as your disability.
You have got to be insane to think that hugging and cuddling is sexual unless you're a man and don't want a bkner to pop up.
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Thing is though...
The only cuddling I care for is the cuddles where one is on their back and the other is leaned on them in some way as other cuddles I can't get comfortable and I'll burn up. So no to spooning.
Hugging will give me acne unless I do the shoulder and from behind way. i.e don't touch my face when you kiss me.
Well, duh.
But who'd a thought I saw a post that got deleted as I tried to comment on it that hugging and cuddling is sexual and I read the comments and apparently its all extreme Christians who are celibate and think asexual is for the autistics responding.
Like sure let's give another form of vaccine to autism fear.
Hey. I HAVE MILD AUTISM AND I AM ASEXUAL! But I'm also a butch. But still... Nothing to correlate with. Disabled doesn't equal caused sexual or no sexual desires. You either do or don't as well as your disability.
You have got to be insane to think that hugging and cuddling is sexual unless you're a man and don't want a bkner to pop up.
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pseudosexuals ( or maybe asexuals in general ) trying to find out what attraction they are feeling
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fellow asexuals who aren’t aromantic, how has your experience been finding a partner?
i sometimes wonder if it’s possible for me to find a fellow asexual person or accommodating allosexual person. i’m completely sex-repulsed, and it makes me think i have really slim chances of ever having a lasting romantic partnership. it makes me wish i was aromantic sometimes, if i’m being honest.
if you do have a partner, did you end up telling them upfront about your sexuality and your boundaries? how’d you explore that? and if you couldn’t begin a relationship because of sexual incompatibility based on your level of comfort with sex, how did that conversation go?
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i sometimes wonder if it’s possible for me to find a fellow asexual person or accommodating allosexual person. i’m completely sex-repulsed, and it makes me think i have really slim chances of ever having a lasting romantic partnership. it makes me wish i was aromantic sometimes, if i’m being honest.
if you do have a partner, did you end up telling them upfront about your sexuality and your boundaries? how’d you explore that? and if you couldn’t begin a relationship because of sexual incompatibility based on your level of comfort with sex, how did that conversation go?
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Fictosexuals still Asexual?
Hi! I've identified as ace for quite a long time, since I was a minor. I'm older now though and I've done some research and very mild exploration. I strongly identify with fictosexual however the moment a character is no longer a character I no longer feel attracted to them the same. Like an actor on and off screen for example. Most of the time I really don't like real people even as characters, I usually prefer a more cartoon style, 3D or otherwise.
Would calling myself asexual still be appropriate?
TLDR I'm fictosexual can I still call myself Ace?
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Hi! I've identified as ace for quite a long time, since I was a minor. I'm older now though and I've done some research and very mild exploration. I strongly identify with fictosexual however the moment a character is no longer a character I no longer feel attracted to them the same. Like an actor on and off screen for example. Most of the time I really don't like real people even as characters, I usually prefer a more cartoon style, 3D or otherwise.
Would calling myself asexual still be appropriate?
TLDR I'm fictosexual can I still call myself Ace?
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