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Am I asexual or just dysphoric

Sup guys, gals and nonbinary palls! I've got something to figure out and maybe other's opinions are gonna help me.

Idk if I'm asexual, intensely dysphoric, or a secret third option. I'm a trans*guy and suffering from acute Where's my dick? Where'd I lose it? - Syndrome. Srsly where is it? Anyone seen it?

I've never had the sex either because ehh no. But idk why it's an ehh no, and that's why I'm here.

Getting down and dirty with someone has been sounding like an adventure I'd like to go on but when it acctually comes down to it I'm not that interested anymore. It's as if only the vague idea of it appeals to me. It sounds so fun in my head but I in reality it's ehh no. Maybe it's because I realize I'm not interested in actuality? Like I've never found anyone sexually attractive either. I've never thought "oh yes I want to get intimate with this person". My sexuality seems to only exist in theory. I have a Penis when I see myself in my own head and I think re-realizing that I'm lacking one is a mayor turnoff for me. I'm not interested in engaging with my natal genitals. Like that's just weird to me.

In my mind it feels like there's just a crater where my sexuality should be, like it's gone missing or something, just like how my dicks missing lol.

Anyone's got a clue to what's going on?

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Am i ace/aro????? Please help!!!!

Idk

I never have had a crush

I hate the thought of having s*x with someone

And having it with my self is physically nice but activly repulses me for ages afterwards

I feel like i shoukd have it but i dont want too

I want to kiss people and cuddle but not have s*x

And sometimes i really want a relationship and then other times i just want it and then sometimes i Really dont want one which makes me think maybe im aroflux?



Am i ace? Am i aro? Amd i both? Am i neither?

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Helping a friend in a relationship with someone who is not ace

Hi there! I am not part of the ace community, but I do have some friends on the ace spectrum so I do understand the basis of your experience. However, I am seeking some advice for a friend who is potentially in the asexual spectrum.

I say "potentially" because they experience a fluctuation of libido as well as vary between sex positive and sex repulsed, even to the point of anxiety or panic attacks in intimate situations. But this friend does not currently identify wholly with an asexual label.

My thought is that whether she is or not, there are people in this community who would have extremely valuable insight into healthy ways to cope with those fluctuations and how to proceed in her relationship so that she can hold less guilt over what she is currently viewing as "shortcomings" and so that her partner can feel less neglected in his sexual needs or desires.

What I'm looking to hear is how any of you who have had partners that don't fall under the ace umbrella have evened the playing field when it comes to intimacy, giving and showing love and trust, and overcoming or cooperating with a partner who experiences sex differently than you do.

What kind of interactions or coping/communication skills have you utilized with partners who need or desire sex? What sexual options are there for an uneven balance of libido or desire that are not damaging to either party mentally, physically, or emotionally?

I'm aware that there are definitely couples based on one sexual partner and one who is not. And that there are success stories and practices that led them to that success. I would love to hear from you so that I can have something to offer my friends in terms of support.

Thanks in advance!

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Am I asexual (I already read the FAQ and “questioning I’m ace”)?

I have sexual thoughts and feelings, but no desire to act on them. I can find someone hot and might have thoughts but then some part of my brain shuts it down and focuses on something else. I have OCD so some of the thoughts might be that, but it's difficult to tell. Even when I do have genuine feelings, I find it disturbing and I sometimes actually physically gag.

I hope this makes sense and thanks for any responses.

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“Purity culture” “Why are you such a baby?” maybe I just don’t fucking like sex and would rather you not talk to me about it.

I fucking hate sex jokes and anything relating to sex in a conversation. I just can’t see why people enjoy joking or talking about such an intimate moment between two (or maybe more) people so fucking loudly. Like, it’s nobody else’s business but theirs. Why do I have to hear about it? I’m just a kid. I don’t like when people talk to me about that stuff. “You’re such a baby everyone does it” okay I’m aware that a lot of people do but it doesn’t mean I have to like it. “Just because you like to pretend you’re so innocent” I don’t like sex. I am on the ace-spec. What the fuck. Leave me alone with that kinda talk.

Does anyone else have ignorant friends like this? If so, how do you deal with them? I get so alienated from them because only one of them respects my identity and the rest just love to laugh about it, like I’m “joking”. Like I’m the fucking joke. Like it’s not fucking serious.

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Why they simply don’t admit it?

If you’ve had experiences with an allo you’ll know what I’m talking about. Why they don’t simply admit that they only want to have sex?
They all have the same scheme: approach, make think the other person they care about them, fake to be interested and then after few minutes or hours (or days) they will start talking with second intentions, more or less explicitly they will start talking “dirty” or making jokes (that are not funny) about sex related stuff.
They will start complimenting the other person about specific parts of their body and bla bla…and they will have the audacity to say “I want a serious relationship”. Like, no? They only want sex but I still don’t get why instead of just saying it, they do all this scene first. Maybe they know how disgusting they are so they just want to be sure to get the other person attached? With some love bombing and fake attentions…I don’t know people, share with me your experiences I am curious. When I was younger (before acknowledging I am ace), I thought this was the prassi. I thought this “procedure” was normal and essential, but I’ve always felt that something was wrong. Today I see that is not normal, not for me. And honestly, is pretty sick.

Let me know if I am just unlucky or if this happened/happens to you too.

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Feeling I am having

Hey guys!
20M here

So I have been practicing nofap and celibacy and I am feeling completely asexual. I have lost the urges to fap and hookup with girls completely and now I don't particularly have libido to do anything sexual.

However, I noticed that I have been focused on my hobbies and passion like studying physics, martial arts and music. I also discovered I am deeply romantic.
I feel deeply when playing the violin, and think deeply when solving physics problems.
Sex was an inherent time sink and hookups a shallow relation, as I have noticed.

I wanted to thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Asexuality has been a secret blessing to me in disguise. I know celibacy and asexuality are different. But a year of celibacy has turned me into asexual.

I also met really cool people. Made great friends and met the love of my life today. I am asexual but I realised I am incredibly romantic. Things have been going good and this has been an incredible journey.

I believe you guys have a special gift. And that gift is asexuality, which I am experiencing now. I couldn't be more happier in life since I have desexualized my brain.

Thanks to this community and their superpower. You guys rock!❤️



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Hate to be asexual

Writing from a second account for anonymity.

I just hate it. To never be in love. I've already “friendzoned” a couple of friends in my life. They were all amazing, and I also know that they were objectively attractive woman, but I just can't feel anything for them.

And in fact to no one. Everyone has some they “crush,” and I had recently twenty birthday and I have no one and I just don't feel like getting in relationship with anyone.

I mean, I “want” to be in a relationship, to be normal, but I know that I would not be able to feel in love with anyone.

The knowledge and desire to be in a relationship, but at the same time not wanting it at all.

I know I want to have love in my life, because it's also not that I don't feel it lol, I love my parents and some others and I would love TO love someone, but I have never felt attracted to anyone in my life.

IDK if such posts are allowed, just venting.

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Got my aroace pride stuff

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My pride stuff finally came to me.

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