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Reasons you like being ace

A lot of times aces feel like we are missing out on love, me included. So I just wanted to list a few reasons why I enjoy being ace and would like for you to add your reasons in the comments:

1. Don't care about shaving. I don't lose time, money or energy on it.
2. I have a slight germaphobia so I love that I can just stay away from people.
3. Don't have to play mind games to see if someone likes me.
4. I can see relationships much clearer than my friends and I know when they are being used by guys.

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Custom made nails
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It does chaffe a little
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How did you know you were asexual?

I know that I like women like I know that much for sure but, when my friends start talking about sex and stuff like that I feel grossed out by it and I know that I never want that.
I can imagine fake scenarios in my head with fictional characters but when it comes to real life I can’t fathom it. I know I don’t mind a kiss because me and my friends have kissed before.
Please let me know because I am in internal confusion about it.

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Sex should not be such a big deal
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Laughing at myself

I just realized I’ve been questioning myself for the longest time, when the answer was stupidly clear.
A few years ago, I tried dating a guy. It was my last year in college, I had always been single, and it seemed like the perfect time to try something new.
Every. Single. Time. He touched me, I felt absolutely nothing.

My friend couldn’t believe I didn’t get aroused when someone, especially a really handsome and kind guy, kissed my neck, touched my thighs, or anything like that.
She even asked me jokingly, “Would you honestly rather kiss him or eat a yogurt?”
And listen, I always thought this guy was cute, but damn. I’ll let you guys guess the answer.

I even asked myself, “Am I a lesbian?” when I knew I’ve literally never had any desire to touch a girl that way.

I lost my v-card trying to figure out if I could feel anything at all, and honestly, the guy was the sweetest, kindest person ever. He really took care of me, and it wasn’t a bad experience at all.
We can call it a once-in-a-lifetime experience—as in, I’m not doing that again.

When we finished, he looked at me, laughed, and said “Are you dissociating right now?”
And fuck, he was right. I knew right then that I just wasn’t made for that. (I'd give him a 10 for reading people, but maybe I was just being too obvious)

Even later, I still tried to convince myself that it was because I wasn’t in love, or that maybe the chemistry just wasn’t there, and people couldn't believe I wasn't head over heels for him, which I wanted desperately to happen.

It’s kind of funny to me now. Even though I still get frustrated when people don’t believe me when I say I’m asexual, it just makes sense.
The answer was always there—I had considered it multiple times throughout my life.
I just couldn’t accept it.
Now that I do, it all clicks. And honestly, it’s kind of funny to look back on moments like that.

Was anyone else this blind? I’d love to hear your stories.

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Differences between asexual men and women

I'm curious what other people think about this... asexual individuals have a lot in common usually, but I want to know some differences between asexual men and women. To start, I think that asexual women probably have harder times getting into relationships than asexual men because allo men are, well, yeah, I'm sure we all know. If anyone has noticed any other differences I'm curious as to what you think and you should leave it in the comments.

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Does anyone feel weird when people call inanimate objects sexy?

Because I do. Is it an asexual thing? Or a just me taking thing to literally type deal?

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Could I admire how someone looks without being romantically or sexually attracted to them?

Finding someone attractive without actually being attracted to them.

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Could I admire how someone looks without being romantically or sexually attracted to them?

Finding someone attractive without actually being attracted to them.

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Well why?
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i like the idea of sex, but i hate actually going through with it

idk what flair really fits but it's more of a question honestly - i just came across something that made me realize i fall more under the asexual spectrum? i like the idea of sex, but suddenly when it's real im absolutely disgusted, overwhelmed, scared, and have absolutely no libido. honestly it feels like i'm forcing myself most of the time. i always just thought i had no libido but i still enjoy the thought of it and think about it???? idk is this considered asexuality?

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Can i get my lipido back on anti depressants?

So i've know that i am ace my entire life but i sometimes still used to get in the mood for self pleasure. I never wanted to share any sexual acts with anyone else, but still noticed that every few months before my period i would get in the mood yk. I've always really struggled with talking about self pleasure as i feel invalidated as an asexual as people often think self pleasure isn't a thing as an asexual. But i haven't felt any kind of lipido in several months, since i have been on sertraline for quite a long time now. Does anyone else have had this experience before?

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I found an (accidental?) ace flag at a bookstore
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Came Out As Asexual, Need Advice

So last night I (28f) came out to my boyfriend (33m) as asexual. "Babe, I could have told you that," he said. We'd been having some problems in the bedroom with him feeling rejected, and I think he finally understands that it's definitely a me thing, not a him thing. I'm terrified he's going to break up with me -- I love this man dearly, but he's a very sexual person. Gosh I wish I'd come to this realization sooner. I've assured him that I still want to have sex with him, but that my motivations for it are different than his (in that I like feeling close to him, rather than wanting to explicitly feel sexual sensations, because I simply don't have them or care for them). Is there anything y'all would suggest I do to make him feel more secure? Thanks in advance.

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Asexual Celestial Cat Heart

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