My therapist said I’m not asexual. Now I’m confused.
I don’t know if this counts as aphobia or not. But my therapist told me I’m not asexual because I have a sex drive. Now I’m all confused about what I am. She then asked me what I found attractive in a man and I just couldn’t answer cause my mind drew a blank. I’m so lost rn. I’m in my twenties and can’t even imagine kissing people. Ughhh what am I?
Edit: I’m worried that I’m just repulsed due to trauma.
Edit2: Thank you so much everyone. I was in a really bad headspace when I made that post but all your comments have made me feel so much better. I‘m grateful to know this community 💜
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I don’t know if this counts as aphobia or not. But my therapist told me I’m not asexual because I have a sex drive. Now I’m all confused about what I am. She then asked me what I found attractive in a man and I just couldn’t answer cause my mind drew a blank. I’m so lost rn. I’m in my twenties and can’t even imagine kissing people. Ughhh what am I?
Edit: I’m worried that I’m just repulsed due to trauma.
Edit2: Thank you so much everyone. I was in a really bad headspace when I made that post but all your comments have made me feel so much better. I‘m grateful to know this community 💜
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My therapist said I’m not asexual. Now I’m confused.
I don’t know if this counts as aphobia or not. But my therapist told me I’m not asexual because I have a sex drive. Now I’m all confused about...
What's the sexual equivalent of amatonormativity? Because whatever it is, it applies here
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I did it, I told my mom that I'm Aro-ace.
I had to find a way to explain the term Aro-ace in my native language and actually I thought of telling her when I become 25 but glad I found the perfect moment to explain the whole thing.
I told her that 1% out of the entire world population can't feel attraction towards any gender and that I belong to that 1% and then I google translated wiki fandom article and gave it to her to read it and after reading it she told me that she'll believe it if I graduate from university without any relationship whatsoever.
I think it's a positive reaction and really feel good that I don't have to hide it anymore. : )
Edit:- I also told my whole class that I'm asexual and they were also positive about it, they told me that they don't care either way lol
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I had to find a way to explain the term Aro-ace in my native language and actually I thought of telling her when I become 25 but glad I found the perfect moment to explain the whole thing.
I told her that 1% out of the entire world population can't feel attraction towards any gender and that I belong to that 1% and then I google translated wiki fandom article and gave it to her to read it and after reading it she told me that she'll believe it if I graduate from university without any relationship whatsoever.
I think it's a positive reaction and really feel good that I don't have to hide it anymore. : )
Edit:- I also told my whole class that I'm asexual and they were also positive about it, they told me that they don't care either way lol
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I did it, I told my mom that I'm Aro-ace.
I had to find a way to explain the term Aro-ace in my native language and actually I thought of telling her when I become 25 but glad I found the...
Aphobia makes literally no sense
Most LGBTQ phobias come from fear of the unknown and lack of open mindedness but there’s no reason why anyone is against aces. Even sex positive people have days where they don’t want to have sex. Is it really that hard for them to understand that’s an ace every day. For the record I’m not saying any phobic has a good or actual reason to hate any LGBTQ group just that aphobia is the stupidest in my opinion
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Most LGBTQ phobias come from fear of the unknown and lack of open mindedness but there’s no reason why anyone is against aces. Even sex positive people have days where they don’t want to have sex. Is it really that hard for them to understand that’s an ace every day. For the record I’m not saying any phobic has a good or actual reason to hate any LGBTQ group just that aphobia is the stupidest in my opinion
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Aphobia makes literally no sense
Most LGBTQ phobias come from fear of the unknown and lack of open mindedness but there’s no reason why anyone is against aces. Even sex positive...
Ace pride hoodie I ordered off Etsy came!! It’s so comfy! The inside of the hood is also ace pattern~
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I'm tired of having to defend my sex repulsivity
Just that. "It's everywhere now. What's the big deal?" It's everywhere now, that's what.
My brother was showing me a new TV show. He started to say "fair warning" about an episode but then changed his mind. I frowned and said "only fair warning I need is if there's a sex scene."
"Why does it bother you so much?"
I hate this question. I don't know why it bothers me. I just don't like it. I don't like seeing kids get hit head on by a train, and I don't like when gratuitous violence is explicitly used for humor. I don't know why.
I just asked him "what's it to you? How does it affect you that I don't like something?" And his response was "it affects me when I have to give a warning."
Whatever, I never asked you for one but sorry you feel so fucking put upon when asked what's in a movie you've already seen. So I checked IMDb and saw the show had sex scenes, which was disappointing because I was actually interested in the show. But I decided for my mental health not to even bother anymore, so I just said he can keep watching and I walked out of the room. And he just laughed at me. Laughed.
What is it to you that I don't like something?
Happens with books, too, only readers are even bigger assholes about it, and there's no "imdb" to give content warnings for books. You don't laugh when a fiction reader doesn't read nonfiction. You don't laugh when someone has no interest in books about romance. Why is it so scornful that I don't want to read about sex scenes?
Seriously, what is it to you? Please just leave me the fuck alone already.
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Just that. "It's everywhere now. What's the big deal?" It's everywhere now, that's what.
My brother was showing me a new TV show. He started to say "fair warning" about an episode but then changed his mind. I frowned and said "only fair warning I need is if there's a sex scene."
"Why does it bother you so much?"
I hate this question. I don't know why it bothers me. I just don't like it. I don't like seeing kids get hit head on by a train, and I don't like when gratuitous violence is explicitly used for humor. I don't know why.
I just asked him "what's it to you? How does it affect you that I don't like something?" And his response was "it affects me when I have to give a warning."
Whatever, I never asked you for one but sorry you feel so fucking put upon when asked what's in a movie you've already seen. So I checked IMDb and saw the show had sex scenes, which was disappointing because I was actually interested in the show. But I decided for my mental health not to even bother anymore, so I just said he can keep watching and I walked out of the room. And he just laughed at me. Laughed.
What is it to you that I don't like something?
Happens with books, too, only readers are even bigger assholes about it, and there's no "imdb" to give content warnings for books. You don't laugh when a fiction reader doesn't read nonfiction. You don't laugh when someone has no interest in books about romance. Why is it so scornful that I don't want to read about sex scenes?
Seriously, what is it to you? Please just leave me the fuck alone already.
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I'm tired of having to defend my sex repulsivity
Just that. "It's everywhere now. What's the big deal?" It's everywhere now, that's what. My brother was showing me a new TV show. He started to...