I don't belong here

2020 was the year I came out to myself as asexual and I was very proud to be a part of this amazing community. Always found support and felt amazing!

However, for the last few months, I've been thinking and finally reached a conclusion. I'm gay. I like girls and I do find some of them sexually attractive, now that I have given it some proper thought.

Thanks a lot you guys, for every bit of support! :)

(I'm not sure I used the right flair but I am happy, so it doesn't seem entirely wrong)

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Bingo 🙋🏼‍♀️

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My dad texted me something about me being ace but he capitalized it like “ACE” as if it was an acronym, which got me wondering. What would it be an acronym for?



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Also me trying to explain that I dont want to fuck the video game characters I have crushes on, to my allo friends
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Planks for one min
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My friend sent me this, felt like an ace moment
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Biiiiig ace energy here
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Idk if this is right place for this but this is what asexualilty can look like! I’ve struggled with my identity over the years, but I’m comfortable telling people I’m ace now. To my fellow aces - you are valid and I love you! You need an ace friend? Drop me a message - I’ll be here for you! 💜
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Lewd thoughts: ace edition
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I wrote a poem about being asexual. I don’t know if it’s any good, but here it is. It’s called “Guess my Card”.


My hand holds neither king nor queen
Nor any that are in-between

While some claim attention’s all I crave
You have my word, I’m not a knave

I may have tossed aside the rules
But I am neither of the fools

Two or more often have fun
In ways I’d rather do as one


Of emotions I’m not destitute
Yet when heart’s played I can’t follow suit.

And while diamonds make for shiny bling
I won’t be caught in such a ring.

I could go clubbing I suppose
Just not where they take off their clothes

In this game of love the whole world plays
I’ll always be the ace of spades

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Found this YouTube comment from "Miscellaneous Myths: Pride Tales" by Overly Sarcastic Productions about Athena which made me laugh and thought it might belong here.
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My heart rate just sped up...
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How do I explain the difference between romantic attraction and how you would feel towards a friend

So I (a 16 year old bisexual trans girl) was trying to explain asexuality to my dad and he can’t seem to understand that there’s a difference between how you feel towards friends and how you feel towards a romantic interest, he thinks: “romantic and sexual attraction are the same thing” and that “15 and 16 year olds can’t know enough about themselves to say they don’t feel sexual attraction”. There was no way to get through to him and it was so frustrating, do any of y’all have and idea how I can explain it to him

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A moment of Ace Joy

For context, I’m still at school but in my second to last year. I’m in a UK secondary school so the range of ages is 11-18. I do debating club and which has several of my close friends and a range of ages and is a place where I feel comfortable talking about my asexuality (I’ve mentioned it to the teacher that runs the club and it’s a generally accepting place). It’s also worth noting that I have never actually met an asexual person in real life, just seen people online and character in tv shows like BoJack Horseman and Sex Education. Last Friday, we were discussing whether or not children should be allowed access to social media and while we all thought that there were a lot of reasons for why they shouldn’t have access, one reason that was brought up was the ability to discover your sexuality through finding it on social media. I was planning on adding to the conversation saying that I discovered I am asexual through finding the word on instagram 4 years ago, but a person a few years younger than me explain how she discovered she was on the asexual spectrum through tiktok. I was so happy to have finally met another asexual person in real life. I then shared my experience of discovering my sexuality on instagram and the passed on to someone else to speak. She also explained how she is asexual and said something about how pleased she was to have someone older in the school ho was also asexual. I was so happy. Happy that I finally knew people like me and that I was helping other people, even if it was just by existing.

I don’t know if these are the normal types of posts seen on here but I just wanted to shared my happiness.

(minor, he/they pronouns)

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Ace Agender vs Transphobe
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Guilty confession

Hey you guys ever had to do an assignment and ignore your asexual side to pass? Well I had to made a treatment plan from a cognitive psychology p.o.v for a hypothetical client named Mrs. C for my intro to clinical psychology class. The presenting problem were OCD, possible sex repulsion, and hoarding. The first time (we had to do 3) I emailed the teacher worried about how they described sex part as a disorder when it could be a sexuality and she said I could probably leave it out since theres so much more in the case. I decided to include it considering it was causing a problem in her marriage (I want to be a marriage and family therapist). The first two I mentioned but in passing and the third one I addressed it fully. This is what I said:

"I want her to tell me her thought process toward sex. She says she has never had the desire to have sex, and now she refuses to participate in the act. I want to hear how she describes it. If she describes it as a dirty and disgusting act and it makes her feel like she has done something wrong, I would like to challenge that thought process. I want her to change it more into “Sex has dirty stuffin it, but sex itself is not dirty. Participating in sex is not a bad thing since sex is a part of life.” I do not expect her to change her thought process and immediately become sex-positive and become sexually active. She may take time to even entertain the idea of having sex, and I do not want her to think you have to have sex to live a healthy life. As I stated in the presenting problem section, she may just be asexual, and that is okay too. I want to work on the sex repulsion more than the no participation"

They have like 6 kids and the complaint was the husband's not her's. I can post the whole paper if people want. I got a 100% and I'm kinda proud of it. The guilty part is I'm ace from birth and kinda feel like I threw shade on the sexuality somewhat. (BAD MOM DRILLED IN HER HEAD SEX BAD AT YOUNG AGE, which is why I want to see if it's a trauma response or a sexuality but you have actually talk to the client to figure that out).

Also if you think we are in the same class, we aren't, you didn't see me here lol.

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TW: sexual experiences

So reading through everyones bingos it seems quite a lot of us, myself included, have forced ourselves into having sex. And while its nice to see Im not the only one it is scary the amount of us have gone through this.

So this post is to talk through any issues surrounding this and supporting those who need it. If this post is unnessasary then let me know 💜

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