My fiance broke up with me because I'm asexual

On Thanksgiving day, my fiance dumped me, citing my asexuality as the main reason. We had started dating freshman year of college, and got engaged a few months after graduating. Our relationship was wonderful. She seemed perfect for me, and I dare say I was very nearly perfect for her. I planned proposing to her for months, all while she was begging me to pop the question, and I was singularly happy to think I'd be spending the rest of my life with her.

Of course, it turns out we weren't perfect for each other after all, as I was asexual and she was allosexual. We had talked about my asexuality both before and during the engagement, but it seemed to be a surprisingly insignificant issue. Nonetheless, on Thanksgiving morning she said she had gotten a sudden, unshakable gut feeling that she wouldn't be happy being with someone who wasn't actually sexually attracted to her. She told me she still loved and cared for me, and that she was deeply, deeply sorry for all the pain she was causing.

I am completely and utterly heartbroken. Now, I'm left trying to pick up all the pieces, and separate a life from hers that I had so enthusiastically tied together. I know I'll get over her one day, but boy did she mess me up... Anyway, sorry for being such a downer. I don't typically post on reddit, but I've been wanting to vent somewhere.

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we dont exist



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Idk what flair to make it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Question to my fellow asexuals, does anyone else make sex related jokes with no serious intent? Just humor

My roommate and I are both asexual and we make a lot of sex jokes. Is this prevalent or just an us thing?

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A meme I made. Hope you like it.
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My ace ring is Kingdom Hearts themed <3
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My ace king 👑
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When I tell you I almost cried of joy seeing the tiniest bit of representation in the wild
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Fresh Ink!
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Bread 👍
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is it wrong to like songs about sex? Coming from a close friend and partner, this one kinda stung :|
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Remember this, my sister today officially told my father and I she is ace !!! Proud of her !!
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I was told that I'm "not gay" because I'm asexual.

I'm homoromantic and asexual, and someone actually told me this. What does that even mean?

They were aware of the fact that I'm homoromantic, but they said I can't truly be gay unless I'm explicitly SEXUALLY attracted to men.

Why?

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To the fellow aces that eat bread and the body go sicko mode, what do you do?
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Me hanging out in my friends' group chat dedicated to sex memes and jokes
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Are the allos okay?
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Ye we got this one
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Am I the only one who sees no point in coming out?

I know I'm in the asexual community, but I don't see much of a reason to tell anyone.

Why should they need to know that? Unless they are my partner, it is irrelevant to them.

If someone asks me directly what my sexuality is, then I don't mind telling them.

I've only told around 5 IRL people. And yea. I don't think the others need to know.

Am I right in thinking this?

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the enby juice became ace juice. anyways I drank both of them.

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