What's it like being Asexual?
Does that mean you're not interested in sex at all? Do you get sexual arousal from certain kinks that don't have to with the body, like an eating fetish? Do you masturbate? As a very horny straight guy it's just really interesting to think about what it would be like.
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Does that mean you're not interested in sex at all? Do you get sexual arousal from certain kinks that don't have to with the body, like an eating fetish? Do you masturbate? As a very horny straight guy it's just really interesting to think about what it would be like.
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What's it like being Asexual?
Does that mean you're not interested in sex at all? Do you get sexual arousal from certain kinks that don't have to with the body, like an eating...
Why do so many approach queer identities as contingent on active sexuaity??
Even in queer communities, questioning your identity is met with questions like “well could you see yourself having sex with that person/gender?” As if being sexually active is the only way to validate or be ‘truly’ queer.
I’ve always kept it quiet in public, but my answer is no. I can’t ‘see’ myself having sex with ANYBODY. I am very slightly sex repulsed, and I can have enjoyable sex, but it’s not stimulating, comfortable, or satisfying for me. Reactions like these led me to believe that in order to be normal and to really know my own identity, I had to have sex. So I did, with various straight cis men-and it felt like nothing? Doing things like this pushed off my realizations back years. It took being raped and coming out of that completely hyper sexual for months until I realized how much I was damaging myself by doing these degrading things that I wasnt comfortable with.
I’ll never understand why so much of the world and even the lgbtq community demands sexuality and labels while rejecting the lack of desire for sex.
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Even in queer communities, questioning your identity is met with questions like “well could you see yourself having sex with that person/gender?” As if being sexually active is the only way to validate or be ‘truly’ queer.
I’ve always kept it quiet in public, but my answer is no. I can’t ‘see’ myself having sex with ANYBODY. I am very slightly sex repulsed, and I can have enjoyable sex, but it’s not stimulating, comfortable, or satisfying for me. Reactions like these led me to believe that in order to be normal and to really know my own identity, I had to have sex. So I did, with various straight cis men-and it felt like nothing? Doing things like this pushed off my realizations back years. It took being raped and coming out of that completely hyper sexual for months until I realized how much I was damaging myself by doing these degrading things that I wasnt comfortable with.
I’ll never understand why so much of the world and even the lgbtq community demands sexuality and labels while rejecting the lack of desire for sex.
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Why do so many approach queer identities as contingent on active...
Even in queer communities, questioning your identity is met with questions like “well could you see yourself having sex with that...
Just realised how much I've grown to live my asexuality
For a while I was deeply in denial, and I've come to love this part of myself dearly, but what I was really thinking about is
When I first looked up the flag I was kind of annoyed to be ace because of all the pretty flags, I was stuck with one of the most boring.
But since then the sight of these colours together has brought me only joy and even calm when I'm going through it. I've come to adore the flag and it's just incredibly comforting.
It feels really good : )
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For a while I was deeply in denial, and I've come to love this part of myself dearly, but what I was really thinking about is
When I first looked up the flag I was kind of annoyed to be ace because of all the pretty flags, I was stuck with one of the most boring.
But since then the sight of these colours together has brought me only joy and even calm when I'm going through it. I've come to adore the flag and it's just incredibly comforting.
It feels really good : )
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Just realised how much I've grown to live my asexuality
For a while I was deeply in denial, and I've come to love this part of myself dearly, but what I was really thinking about is When I first looked...
TERFs be like:
"WOMEN CAN WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK THEY WANT WITHOUT BEING SLUTSHAMED!!" asexual wears what they want "Now this is ridiculous they're looking for sex! They're putting a bad light on women!" Asexuals can't have or do anything, can we?
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"WOMEN CAN WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK THEY WANT WITHOUT BEING SLUTSHAMED!!" asexual wears what they want "Now this is ridiculous they're looking for sex! They're putting a bad light on women!" Asexuals can't have or do anything, can we?
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TERFs be like:
"WOMEN CAN WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK THEY WANT WITHOUT BEING SLUTSHAMED!!" *asexual wears what they want* "Now this is ridiculous they're looking for...
One of my first ace moments I guess
Ok so I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, just randomly remembered and thought I might aswell share.
So basically, at some point in sex ed in school, we were talking about how people could have a baby without having sex due to modern technology, and how they apparently could decide on certain genes (hair colour, eye colour, certain characteristics, etc.). And at some point I just blurted out, "But wouldn't that be boring?", and I just didn't know why my classmates were looking at me funny, not realizung that everyone understood it as me basically saying "it would be boring to have no sex if you want children" or something like that. I literelly only realized that like half a year later. What I was actually referring to was that it would be boring to have a child exactly the way you wanted it, luckily I clarified that during the lesson, but I still felt incredibly uncomfortable.
Anyway, thanks for reading this, not 100% if this matches the subreddit but I wanted to tell someone about it and this felt the most matching. Have a good day!
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Ok so I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, just randomly remembered and thought I might aswell share.
So basically, at some point in sex ed in school, we were talking about how people could have a baby without having sex due to modern technology, and how they apparently could decide on certain genes (hair colour, eye colour, certain characteristics, etc.). And at some point I just blurted out, "But wouldn't that be boring?", and I just didn't know why my classmates were looking at me funny, not realizung that everyone understood it as me basically saying "it would be boring to have no sex if you want children" or something like that. I literelly only realized that like half a year later. What I was actually referring to was that it would be boring to have a child exactly the way you wanted it, luckily I clarified that during the lesson, but I still felt incredibly uncomfortable.
Anyway, thanks for reading this, not 100% if this matches the subreddit but I wanted to tell someone about it and this felt the most matching. Have a good day!
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One of my first ace moments I guess
Ok so I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, just randomly remembered and thought I might aswell share. So basically, at some point in sex ed...
Does anyone else get sad/mad when one of their favourite (Tv show/movie) characters has sex?
IDK why but I've always felt this way and especially now watching the queens gambit, would love to hear what you guys think.
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IDK why but I've always felt this way and especially now watching the queens gambit, would love to hear what you guys think.
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Does anyone else get sad/mad when one of their favourite (Tv...
IDK why but I've always felt this way and especially now watching the queens gambit, would love to hear what you guys think.
I just got the most kind and respectful reaction I’ve ever gotten to coming out as ace
I (19 F) was at my college and this guy struck up a conversation with me. I actually don’t know him that well, only spoken to him in passing a few times. I’m not quite sure how we got on the topic, but he started asking me if I had a boyfriend or if hot guys were hitting on me. Honestly, I think he was probably trying to gauge if he had a chance with me. He’s kind of the “player” type guy who talks to a lot of girls and dates casually a lot. I’m pretty physically attractive, much to my annoyance sometimes.
Anyway, he was pressing me like “oooo are there guys here you find hot, is it so-and-so, etc etc” and I was getting more and more flustered, so I just blurted out “I’m gonna tell you something. I’m ace.” I’m pretty open about my sexual orientation at school and with friends in general so I didn’t have a problem with coming out to him.
He stopped, thought a minute, and said “okay that’s cool, my sister is ace”. Then he did something nobody has ever done before. He started asking me about it. The mood of the conversation, and his manner, suddenly changed. He asked if I would date. I said yes, but the physical attraction isn’t there. He said “ okay I understand. But emotionally…”
“Yes”
“Okay. So you’re ace but are you just bi too or…”
“I’m asexual heteroromantic “ (I stumbled over the word ‘hetetoromantic’ because I had never said it aloud before lol)
“So, guys?”
“Yeah. I know it’s probably a little hard to understand…”
“Cool cool. No I get it, my sister is in the same boat. You’re good.”
Then we just started talking about dating and being single in general.
I have come out in-person to other friends, and most of them have been accepting. But nobody has ever taken the time to ask respectful questions about it, and nobody has automatically understood the difference between sexual and romantic attraction. I was afraid, being the type of guy he is, that he would be all like "you just need to get laid/you haven't found the right guy/I can fix it" but instead I was pleasantly surprised by how respectful and understanding he was.
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I (19 F) was at my college and this guy struck up a conversation with me. I actually don’t know him that well, only spoken to him in passing a few times. I’m not quite sure how we got on the topic, but he started asking me if I had a boyfriend or if hot guys were hitting on me. Honestly, I think he was probably trying to gauge if he had a chance with me. He’s kind of the “player” type guy who talks to a lot of girls and dates casually a lot. I’m pretty physically attractive, much to my annoyance sometimes.
Anyway, he was pressing me like “oooo are there guys here you find hot, is it so-and-so, etc etc” and I was getting more and more flustered, so I just blurted out “I’m gonna tell you something. I’m ace.” I’m pretty open about my sexual orientation at school and with friends in general so I didn’t have a problem with coming out to him.
He stopped, thought a minute, and said “okay that’s cool, my sister is ace”. Then he did something nobody has ever done before. He started asking me about it. The mood of the conversation, and his manner, suddenly changed. He asked if I would date. I said yes, but the physical attraction isn’t there. He said “ okay I understand. But emotionally…”
“Yes”
“Okay. So you’re ace but are you just bi too or…”
“I’m asexual heteroromantic “ (I stumbled over the word ‘hetetoromantic’ because I had never said it aloud before lol)
“So, guys?”
“Yeah. I know it’s probably a little hard to understand…”
“Cool cool. No I get it, my sister is in the same boat. You’re good.”
Then we just started talking about dating and being single in general.
I have come out in-person to other friends, and most of them have been accepting. But nobody has ever taken the time to ask respectful questions about it, and nobody has automatically understood the difference between sexual and romantic attraction. I was afraid, being the type of guy he is, that he would be all like "you just need to get laid/you haven't found the right guy/I can fix it" but instead I was pleasantly surprised by how respectful and understanding he was.
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I just got the most kind and respectful reaction I’ve ever gotten...
I (19 F) was at my college and this guy struck up a conversation with me. I actually don’t know him that well, only spoken to him in passing a few...
Dunno if she did it cause of the specific groom, or she didn't want to marry in general, or a bunch of other possibilities other than being ace. But I like her. Legally, she has a point: "people may not be forced to marry" + "killing to stop rape is okay" = "No means no. Don't make me end y'all."
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