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Accidently came out and realised my bro was also aroace

So I was watching this TV show called "scènes de ménages" (it's French) and those are basically skits. At a moment, there's this woman that said "lgbt isn't used anymore, now it's lgbtqia+" I thought it was great they talk about it then she began to explain which letter meant what and I was scared of what she was gonna say for A. She said it was for asexuals so I was so relieved that she got it right ! I know it also stands for the aspec in general (with aromantic, agender, aplatonic,...) But she didn't say ally so I was glad.

I then say "I know what asexual means !" My father said he didn't care (he doesn't hate the community but he's not really supportive, like he thinks his children aren't part of it) I continued either way, and said "there's aromantic and asexual, aromantic is when you don't feel romantic attraction and asexual is when you don't feel sexual attraction"

All of a sudden, my brother said "oh, like me". I kinda suspected him to be aroace already but him saying it! I was surprised that he wasn't more concerned with it. I answered back "yeah, like me, like you" I didn't realise in the beginning that I said "me" but they didn't seem to care (neither my brother nor my father)

I was kind of sad that no one seemed to care cuz it's part of me and it's really important to me, but I was still glad my father wasn't mad at me, cuz he's always saying "oh but if you live alone it's sad","you'll see, when you'll fall in love..","you're still young but at some point you'll want babies" and things like that I can't relate.

I went up in my room, and the next thing I was doing is writing this ! Thank you for reading!

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My first encounter with someone like this. On a botw post about Link’s sexuality too….

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I drew an asexual flag for sapphic asexuals 🖤 whatya think?
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Did anyone else question their romantic attraction after realising they were ace?

I’ve thought I was a lesbian for a long time. Recently I realised I was ace, and now I’m thinking maybe I’m biromantic, and it’s just because I realised I didn’t wanna have sex with men before I realised I didn’t wanna have sex with women that I thought I was gay? Idk if this makes sense, and I haven’t actually been properly into any guys, but I feel like I could be in the future, idk I’m super confused

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Daughter came as Asexual today at a Pride event. Just saying hi and I'm sure I'll be here for a minute as I'm her #1 supporter.



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Yooo my ring came
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A similarity that I noticed that others have probably also noticed
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How many of us also have a mental illness?

Having multiple myself, I'm curious to see if there's any correlation :)

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How many of you identify as LGBT?



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I love being asexual!

I just really love it, and I will elaborate on this single idea for the next few paragraphs.

I realized I am asexual like 11 months ago, right when I was suffering a bad depressive episode, My academic career was in hold, I was just recovering from COVID, my best friend wasn't talking to me, another important friend got mad at me for no reason, I was unemployed and didn't really had any inspiration to fix anything because everything was at least "not awful".

Well, like many of you, Bojack Horseman helped a lot, then this subreddit satisfied all my curiosity about the topic. Oh man, that episode when Todd goes to the Ace meet up, with all the colorful people and that sign "All Aces Welcome." I don't know, it sticked with me.

Reading experiences and reading about attractions just made things more confusing, I was in denial "This sounds pretty much like me, but how about that time I...", the next day "Oh so that's not how all people feel? well but the it doesn't make sense because I enjoy this and that. Nah, I can't be asexual" and 5 minutes later "oh! so sexual attraction and sexual desire isn't the same? So what was the one that make me asexual again?".

Then I remember the snap moment, nothing but my thoughts trigger it. I was just sitting in my desk having a coffee while playing some Cookie Clicker (do not google it if you value your next week) and listening Black Sabbath. I was just sitting for minutes thinking and I just shacked my head and said with a low voice "Soy asexual" (I am asexual) and it felt so....good, so much guilt and anger and confusion and self-hate just instantly forgiven by a mere phrase, no, an idea. "I am asexual".

That was just the beginning. I met people, I learned a lot, I became a better more understanding person, I started appreciating my family more, I slowly felt way less depressed, I met so many great people, I co-founded a small community of aces from all over Latin America, I got a job, I got new friends, I started seeing a therapist and now I am just so good, I have a new life, that is at the same time my old life, but it looks better just because I don't feel awful living it.

The world is legitimately a better place since I realized I am ace, I love you guys and I really feel like we all have an invisible connection that nobody can ever break because we know how it feels to be told that you are broken, inadequate, fake and non existent. Well you are not, you, the one reading this, you are something amazing and this world will never find a way to show how special and incredible you are.

To quote Captain Holt from B99 "every time someone steps up and says who they are the world becomes a better more interesting place".

Thus here I am, and I am proud to say I am asexual!

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:'D
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How did you guys realize you were asexual?

I haven't interacted with very many ace people, so I'd like to hear how you all realized you were ace or on the asexual spectrum :)

I'll go first, I think my story is very boring, but it's a little funny to me:

I was looking through my recommended Instagram feed a few years back. I saw a post that was something like "what is asexuality?" I saw the flag and thought, "Oh, those are my favorite colors!" I read about it and said to myself, "Hmm, that sounds a lot like me. I guess I'm asexual," and moved on with my day. Nothing super exciting, just an "ok, cool, anyway" (unlike the gender crisis during quarantine but that's an ongoing saga).

Honestly, I'm a little surprised I didn't know sooner. Dragons, cake, space, etc have always been a huge part of my personality. I have a conservative family so I was never taught about the LGBTQ+ community by anyone; I find it funny that I have been the stereotypical ace by default.

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Tell me your ace without telling me your ace haha

So basically my friend was talking to me about a boy. And like I was looking at the situation in such an innocent way. Like she was like I really like this boy, but I don’t know if I should tell him. And I was about to be like: just give him that look and those eyes and initiate a kiss… but I didn’t get to say that because she started to say like we hookup, but that’s it… I just laughed in my head because I totally was like wow what an ace moment for me.

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Ace Online Dating Kinda Sucks

I recently tried online dating and put "Asexual" in my bio for the first time. Not only could I not find any other ace people but the people who messaged me were really rude about it. I got asked how serious I was about being and if they could "change my mind." I'm not even opposed to dating a non ace person, but I really didn't expect it to be this rough.
One guy just straight up sent a dick pic and asked if I was into it.

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