How too start a second civil war 101
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What age would you say is no longer considered "childish" and the person might be ace

Like, if a 10 year old were to ask if they were ace then I'd say just wait because they're 10, where as someone with 18 then it's not just them being "childish", in your opinion where is that like drawn? Imo it's around 13

If this comes off as me asking if I'm ace ik I am this is just for discussion

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Out of all the things people often say/believe about asexuality, which one do you hate the most?

My personal pick would be "Asexual men are just homosexuals in denial/Asexual women are just straight".

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“Blemishing Hollow Cycle”, by tri.
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Aphobia coming from other members of the LGBT+ community hurts a bit more

You know what it's like to have your existence feel invalidated, you know what it feels like to not be "normal"...

And yet, even with all that, you still decide to take it out on others.

Why?

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Labels are not permanent, you can change them!

Had an interesting conversation with my friend because they felt bad about discovering that the label that they were using was no longer accurate.

Little reminder to all my fellow cake lovers and allies who prefer using labels: The label you are using can be changed. You do not have to be stuck with the same label for the rest of your life. What you identify as can change. You are not faking if you find out that a certain label does not fit you.

Yes, there is a chance that you might identify with the same label that you discovered back in middle school for the rest of your life. But there is also a chance that you might find out something new about yourself. That the box you are using doesn’t work for you anymore. That is okay. That is perfectly fine.

And it can happen at anytime in your life too. You will never be too young or too old to discover new things about yourself. Be free.

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How many close asexual friends do you have?



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Apparently all of us that identify as ace but are sex indifferent or sex favorable or high libido with no repulsion are just repressed 🤷🏽‍♀️

“It's not gatekeeping to point out you can't identify as experiencing sexual attraction and identify as experiencing no sexual attraction at at he same time.

You don't feel broken because the word asexual doesn't apply to you. You feel broken because society demonizes and requires sexual activity at the same time. Society makes EVERYTHING you do and feel about sex a catch 22. Brokenness is ace specific.

And being repressed into thinking "I love and want to have sex with this person but this isn't ATTRACTION" is a response to that culture. But not a healthy or empowered one. It's avoidance.”

Because I tried explaining that I like having sex with my partner even though I’m not sexually attracted to him because I derive emotional fulfillment and connection as opposed to trying to fulfill a sexual need.

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This twitter post gives me Ace vibes
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New pins to go on my bag strap :)
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Hey.. I was just wondering if I might be asexual or Demi sexual.. I think some people are attractive but I don’t want to yk do sexual stuff with them.. I don’t want to do sexual stuff really at all.. I just idk I just find people attractive and want to cuddle and stuff with people.



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Would you...to all those ace but non aro peeps, would youO_o date another ace?



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Never understood what sexual attraction was growing up lmao

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What country (or if you're in the US which state) are y'all from?

I just wanna know where some of you, my online Ace family, are from? I imagine we have alot of folks here from all around the globe. I'm from South Africa :). And you guys?

Edit: I asked which state you are from in the US because whenever i see questions like this asked (What country are you... questions), I see Americans specify the state they're from. I imagine this is because US states might as well be countries within a country because of how well known and distinct they are.

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I didn't even notice until I commented on a post, oops
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Ever since I came out to my parents, my dad tells me he loves me more often.

My dad has never been one to express feelings or any sort of affection. He's a hardened individual on the outside and he chose to raise his only daughter like a son. Things were always "macho" and stoic between us. The last time he told me he loved me was when I got married several years ago. A few months ago I decided to talk to my parents about being asexual. I know my dad struggled to come to terms about it. He is very traditional in his ways and him learning I was also biromantic did not help my situation. Some days pass and I'm on speaker phone with my mom. The call eventually comes to an end and after she says her goodbyes I hear my dad in the background say "I love you _____". And ever since then every phone call ends with those words I longed to hear from him my whole life. I was terrified my dad would never speak to me again. Instead, I feel validated and more loved than I ever have before.

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I think thinking about my sexual identity is messing me up

I accepted myself as asexual maybe 2 months ago. Sexuality was never a forefront in my mind and I just never thought too much about it. I knew I never experienced sexual attraction hence I know and accept myself to be asexual.

Now, for the past months I was at home a lot. Recently restrictions have loosen and I had the chance to meet up with friends, go out and socialize etc etc. I realize that because I've been thinking so much about sexual orientation and the different types of attraction, it's popping up in my head more often now. Sometimes when I see someone that is aesthetically attractive / personality is attractive, the question of "hey, do I find them sexually attractive" is pops up. And I don't exactly like these thoughts it's so disturbing. I imagine sex with them and I recoil and while that affirms that I am asexual, I DON'T LIKE HAVING THESE THOUGHTS. How to stop?????

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What of these things counts as sexual or not and can asexuals still do them and still be ace?

1: Make out. Maybe with tongue. I hate it with tongue.

2: Give or take oral sex

3: Want to do the motorboat between a woman's boobs.

4: Lay naked or exposed beside someone.

5. Have low libido and can barely get aroused.

6: Like to watch naked women.

7: Kinks. Are kinks like dominatrix a kink an ace can have? Because I have this fantasy of dominating a partner (of course someone who enjoys it as well), naked, and there may or may not involve a knife in my hand playing along their body while I wear a thick choker. Only none of this involves genitals. Just boobs.

8: Is sexual actions about putting one genital into another one? Because that has always confused me. Is sex just the meaning of intercourse between people of all genders?

9: Are things like caressing sensually and kissing considered sex? Are touching someone else's genital considered sex? If you would want to do this, I'm not, I think, are you still ace?

10: What is really the defination of sex?

I can't figure out any more rn but happy for answers,

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This episode always bugged me
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Who knows?
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