These popped up on my Instagram feed and they give off so much Ace energy (credits to the artist @neilkohney on Instagram)
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“You will change your mind”
I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just confused”. I already heard all that stuff when I came out as queer, but I noticed that, especially with asexuality, people are always saying that “I will change my mind”. And I find it extremely disturbing that grown ass adults would want a kid to be sexually active. Like, isn’t that the dream of every single parent, a child who has a)no risk of getting pregnant, or at least willingly b)no risk of catching STI’s ? I don’t know it’s just weird to expect literal kids to have sex so they can conform to whatever norm.
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I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just confused”. I already heard all that stuff when I came out as queer, but I noticed that, especially with asexuality, people are always saying that “I will change my mind”. And I find it extremely disturbing that grown ass adults would want a kid to be sexually active. Like, isn’t that the dream of every single parent, a child who has a)no risk of getting pregnant, or at least willingly b)no risk of catching STI’s ? I don’t know it’s just weird to expect literal kids to have sex so they can conform to whatever norm.
https://redd.it/otswzi
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“You will change your mind”
I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just...
I'm not saying he wasn't rude. I'm just saying he was clearly not interested.
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Came out to a friend, instantly regretted it
I (18F) came out to one of my best friends of almost 4 years and instantly regretted it. He was one of the first people I came out to and I expected him to react fairly indifferent to the news but turns out he tried to continuously convince me that maybe I’m not ace.
He started by asking if I was sure and it wasn’t just the fact that maybe I “hadn’t found the right guy yet”. When I explained that I didn’t feel that way and was fairly certain about my sexuality he then shifted gears and said that I would feel differently once I had sex and that I would “get used it”.
I thought maybe he was just confused about what asexuality was so I tried to explain why I thought I was asexual but felt uncomfortable with trying to explain every aspect of my asexuality especially since he was already fairly ignorant and insensitive when I first told him. I gave up on trying to explain and asked him what he was trying to do when he kept offering these alternative arguments. He replied saying that he was just trying to help me make sure that I thought about things and was actually asexual before I tell other people because it was a “bold claim” to make.
I want to make him understand me and explain why I was upset by his comments but I fear that he simply won’t understand and that I may lose him as a friend. What should I do?
https://redd.it/otwmxk
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I (18F) came out to one of my best friends of almost 4 years and instantly regretted it. He was one of the first people I came out to and I expected him to react fairly indifferent to the news but turns out he tried to continuously convince me that maybe I’m not ace.
He started by asking if I was sure and it wasn’t just the fact that maybe I “hadn’t found the right guy yet”. When I explained that I didn’t feel that way and was fairly certain about my sexuality he then shifted gears and said that I would feel differently once I had sex and that I would “get used it”.
I thought maybe he was just confused about what asexuality was so I tried to explain why I thought I was asexual but felt uncomfortable with trying to explain every aspect of my asexuality especially since he was already fairly ignorant and insensitive when I first told him. I gave up on trying to explain and asked him what he was trying to do when he kept offering these alternative arguments. He replied saying that he was just trying to help me make sure that I thought about things and was actually asexual before I tell other people because it was a “bold claim” to make.
I want to make him understand me and explain why I was upset by his comments but I fear that he simply won’t understand and that I may lose him as a friend. What should I do?
https://redd.it/otwmxk
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Came out to a friend, instantly regretted it
I (18F) came out to one of my best friends of almost 4 years and instantly regretted it. He was one of the first people I came out to and I...
Shared this with my therapist, maybe it could help someone!
Hey everyone! I was listening to the Invisible Orientation and they were talking about what sexual urges feel like in a way. They were saying it's like someone is pulled to the act as something they want to do. This is super watered down, do not come for me lol
I told my therapist, I feel like there are things I’ve always come back to. For example, I’ve always played music. I've played (poorly lol) trumpet, guitar, violin. I take breaks but I always have something pulling me back towards it.
Also art, I take breaks but I always come back to do it. This also goes for reading, working out, cooking, and other hobbies. I always come back to it, but sex was never one of those things that pulled me back. Finding a relationship, yes, but it was never because I’ve wanted sex.
Anywho, hope this helps people. I think the toughest part about asexuality for me is finding the words to explain It to other people. This is especially true because I'm extremely sex-positive. I think a way to describe that is "Id go to the world's biggest nastiest orgy lol... I'd just be there serving hors d'oeuvrs! And doing temperature checks at the door. Hell I'd even watch lol".
Also, I was thinking about cirque du soleil; Like we all want to watch it, but I don't think many want to like get up there and do the backflip haha. They're having fun over there and I support them.
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Hey everyone! I was listening to the Invisible Orientation and they were talking about what sexual urges feel like in a way. They were saying it's like someone is pulled to the act as something they want to do. This is super watered down, do not come for me lol
I told my therapist, I feel like there are things I’ve always come back to. For example, I’ve always played music. I've played (poorly lol) trumpet, guitar, violin. I take breaks but I always have something pulling me back towards it.
Also art, I take breaks but I always come back to do it. This also goes for reading, working out, cooking, and other hobbies. I always come back to it, but sex was never one of those things that pulled me back. Finding a relationship, yes, but it was never because I’ve wanted sex.
Anywho, hope this helps people. I think the toughest part about asexuality for me is finding the words to explain It to other people. This is especially true because I'm extremely sex-positive. I think a way to describe that is "Id go to the world's biggest nastiest orgy lol... I'd just be there serving hors d'oeuvrs! And doing temperature checks at the door. Hell I'd even watch lol".
Also, I was thinking about cirque du soleil; Like we all want to watch it, but I don't think many want to like get up there and do the backflip haha. They're having fun over there and I support them.
https://redd.it/otzs8l
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Shared this with my therapist, maybe it could help someone!
Hey everyone! I was listening to the Invisible Orientation and they were talking about what sexual urges feel like in a way. They were saying it's...
I hate the romance trope even in child animations
I'm not aromantic, I even like some dramas where the main plot is romance. But sometimes I just want to watch a fun animation without all the forced romance.
Why an animation where the characters are like 10 years old needs romance at all? I doubt kids even care. I don't understand the necessity to always have romance.
I remember watching Avatar and thinking Katara and Aang suited better as a family relationship than romance. All the romance there felt really cringe.
I just want to find something to watch that doesn't involve romance and it's so hard. Even Peppa Pig have romance. I find it so entertaining when people complain about LGBT romance in kids animations because they are already showing so much unnecessary heterosexual romance anyway, what's the difference.
If you know some cool animations without any romance, I need to find it.
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I'm not aromantic, I even like some dramas where the main plot is romance. But sometimes I just want to watch a fun animation without all the forced romance.
Why an animation where the characters are like 10 years old needs romance at all? I doubt kids even care. I don't understand the necessity to always have romance.
I remember watching Avatar and thinking Katara and Aang suited better as a family relationship than romance. All the romance there felt really cringe.
I just want to find something to watch that doesn't involve romance and it's so hard. Even Peppa Pig have romance. I find it so entertaining when people complain about LGBT romance in kids animations because they are already showing so much unnecessary heterosexual romance anyway, what's the difference.
If you know some cool animations without any romance, I need to find it.
https://redd.it/ou41n4
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I hate the romance trope even in child animations
I'm not aromantic, I even like some dramas where the main plot is romance. But sometimes I just want to watch a fun animation without all the...
PSA
You can be sex favorable kinky and have all these other traits surrounding that and still be asexual
You can be sex repulsed and not want anything to do with sex and still be asexual
You can be anything and everything under the asexual umbrella and the aromantic umbrella and still be valid
Because being asexual and being aromantic we all have one thing in common We don't experience something for asexuals it's sexual attraction to another individual for a romantic it's romantic attraction to another individual and some people are both It does not make you any less valid
Also I'm kind of writing this to also validate myself
Because as a possibly sex favorable and potentially sexual person A lot of people invalidate asexuality just because of that but that's not what it is in its complexity
Asexuality has to do with the attraction and there are just different branches that are a part of asexuality that link to those extra details unique for every person
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You can be sex favorable kinky and have all these other traits surrounding that and still be asexual
You can be sex repulsed and not want anything to do with sex and still be asexual
You can be anything and everything under the asexual umbrella and the aromantic umbrella and still be valid
Because being asexual and being aromantic we all have one thing in common We don't experience something for asexuals it's sexual attraction to another individual for a romantic it's romantic attraction to another individual and some people are both It does not make you any less valid
Also I'm kind of writing this to also validate myself
Because as a possibly sex favorable and potentially sexual person A lot of people invalidate asexuality just because of that but that's not what it is in its complexity
Asexuality has to do with the attraction and there are just different branches that are a part of asexuality that link to those extra details unique for every person
https://redd.it/otyfk1
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PSA
You can be sex favorable kinky and have all these other traits surrounding that and still be asexual You can be sex repulsed and not want anything...
Phytochemicals? Pancakes? Potatoes? What is it? Girls, share your secrets!
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