Been doing some pride kitties lately, thought you all might appreciate some ace/aro felines
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Pets only, no grandkids
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Asexual porn.
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I can rock rainbows, too

Just because I'm ace doesn't mean I can't show pride. I can wear ace colors rainbows whatever. Don't you dare make me feel invalid for wanting to support our WHOLE community. I'm ace. I'm also an ally to others.

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Just discovered that I’m ace

I hope it’s okay to post here. I don’t really have safe family to talk to. <3

So I have always struggled and felt like I didn’t understand sex. I didn’t get sex jokes, I thought people expressing sexual attraction were exaggerating or making hyperboles for comedic effect, I thought I didn’t have desire to have sex as a teen because I was just so ‘level headed’ and practiced excellent self control. Then I got married and I thought I was “broken”. And that really scared me. I didn’t know what asexuality was.

Then I learned about asexuality… and thought that still wasn’t me because I had sex and wasn’t repulsed by it. Lol, you can laugh, I was ignorant.

But then my husband brought it up to me and I broke down in tears. I was scared that since he brought it up then I must certainly be “broken”. If even he could see what I try so hard to hide then what was wrong with me?

After I calmed down I started doing little snippets of research. And heard some funny analogies or explanations. And I’m confident that I’m asexual!

Two years later, here I am. I just brought it up to my husband and he laughed, not at me, but in a “I already knew it” kind of way and smiled. I asked if this hurt our relationship. He said he already knew and that nothing changed how he felt about me. In his words “no label could change you, you just acted like my wife who I love”. I’m still his wife, we still love each other more than anything in the world, and now I feel safe. I feel like the first time in my whole life I know who I am.

I’m ace and I’m a wife and I have an excellent, beautiful, amazing partner! I no longer feel “broken”. I’ve learned enough to know this is okay and valid and does not make a person less than or undesirable. I feel like I can finally start to exist in comfort. <3

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ace vibrations
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Someone just told me I'll never find anyone else because I'm asexual. Please give me some hope...

My ex and I recently broke up after 5 years together. We both discovered we were asexual together, that we just really lived eachother and sex was a little weird for us and unimportant. Sometimes we did, but mostly we didn't and we were okay with that! We broke up because we have very different visions for our futures that can't be comprised on either end without one of us sacrificing our happiness.

We have decided to stay best friends because we are. We laugh together, we play video games together, we cry together, and reference shows in combinations very few people would understand. We just get eachother, even if we can't have a romantic relationship.

I ask a relationship advice subreddit to see if being best friends with my ex would be off putting to potential partners. I was met with some advice, some "asexual guys don't exist" type stuff and then someone said "you're asexual and friends with your ex? Good luck." That wasn't the worst part, the worst was the fact that 2 people commented supporting them.

Why do people think relationships are all about sex? Do all people really want is sex? A deeper connection? Shared interests?? Making memories together???? None of those are more important than doing the dirty??????

I'm just really depressed in general and this just really made me Big Sad.

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Y’all helped me come out in my 30’s

Two weeks ago, I came out for the first time in my life as asexual. It’s not something I came to a realization to but rather something I continued to bury because I never felt in a position where I could explore it comfortably or freely. I’ve been in relationships, I’ve had sex, I have seen and felt attraction, I have mostly lived my life as a lesbian, partnered—but I never felt entirely comfortable with any of it—with the performance of what a partner expects you to do for pleasure—the expectations in which society tends to accept what trans visibility and acceptance looks & feels like.

I played the part but I never fully understood why any of this was necessary or needed or wanted. When the pandemic, hit I began to detransition because of circumstances and that brought challenges towards how I felt about myself and my body. I no longer engage in having sex but I wanted a kind of closeness that didn’t demand for anything physical. For the first time, I was able to sit with this and think about myself in a way I never done before the pandemic.

It all accumulated to me coming out to my wife and explaining to her why I felt this way—her response was “I always had a feeling you were.” She’s been the only person I’ve told and it’s not a matter of how I will tell other people but what’s more important is understanding this relationship, this word, this identity, this orientation before I can confidently tell others around me. I always knew and understood from a very young age that I was transgender. I can’t say the same as someone who just came out in her 30’s as asexual and truthfully, I’m not entirely sure I belong here but I at least want to try.

This Reddit in a way saved me; it’s the only real signal that I am not alone in this, that there are others like myself out there questioning and becoming the same as me. What I needed most wasn’t so much the understanding but visibility and in a society where asexual eraser and removal happens so frequently, this reddit has become my safe space.

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Felt like this belonged here <3
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This gives asexual vibes ngl
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The Two of Spades is here!!
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Ace Cat!
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I'm so in love with this!
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My mom came out to me!!

Ever since I came out to my family as trans and ace they have been asking questions to better educate themselves about the LGBTQ+ community. A few days ago I was explaining demisexuals to my mom and she was saying how she related to it. She just told me today that now she identifies as demisexual! 2 aces in the house now 😊

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Daily Memes Until I’m Out- Day 15
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Consent is COOL!

Okay, so quick backstory. I classified myself as hetero romantic asexual for the longest time, only to switch to demihetromantic and (possibly demisexual). I'm fairly new to relationships, and only started dating around 17.

So I'm still trying to figure out what I enjoy from a relationship with my current partner, and the way I express attraction is very round about way. My partner is allo, and he knows about me being somewhere on the ace spectrum.

So literally every time I try to say something remotely romantic there's a mental wall because my brain is not capable of flirting. Whenever I actually say something related to it, its like, "weird question, would you be against a hug right now?" Or like "I wouldn't be against holding hands if you aren't."

Idk, consent is super important to me I guess. Like those tv dramas where the guy kisses the girl without telling her can be good for drama but I don't want to make my partner uncomfortable. Communication is important, and even if I'm communicating in the most awkward way, at least I'm not giving mixed signals. This wasn't really a story, more of my rambling but thanks for reading!

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Why do allos have to immediately doubt you or start explaining intimacy to you when you express being asexual?

So I'm over in r/women and a question is posed about enjoying one-night stands or hoopkups and I answer by saying that all hookups and one-night stands I've been a part of have been miserable and unfulfilling experiences just like every time I have sex. I then go on to say that this plays a role in my asexuality. Cue the allos jumping into my mentions telling me I haven't met the right person yet to sleep with or explaining to me how intimacy works.

I don't need sex explained to me. I'm not missing out on things. I'm just asexual and I don't want to have to go into every little detail on why I identify under that label. Why do people need to immediately doubt me when I mention this? I'm currently in a relationship with another woman and she respects my desire not to have sex. It isn't an issue.

It feels so disrespectful... Just believe what other people say about themselves...

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I want a FWB relationship, but the only benefits are hugs and cuddling

That's it. No sex stuff. No romance stuff like kissing. But we hug and cuddle. Like during movies and wrapped in a blanket. And give each other head pats and snuggle.

And instead of sex toys, we use & gift normal toys. Like cute stuffed animals. And instead of booking some hotel room, we'd book a cabin and spent the weekend just reading and drawing and cuddling in front of the fireplace. And otherwise we're normal friends, like we go to cafes and have picnics.

Honestly, I even thought about paying a prostitute just for getting cuddled all night, but in the end I don't think I'd want that. It would be weird to pay a stranger for cuddling. Especially a strange man. No, no, I have to like that person as much as I want to be cuddled.

Seriously, I want to be hugged ; ^ ;

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We don’t want it!
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Happy to be here ^^
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