Just got my first ace ring! I‘m so excited and happy to be able to represent myself a bit :D
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The first asexual character in the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
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Reading this image makes me think I might be asexual I've done all the stuff on the bottom, but in reflection I've never felt the top one. I'm also completely ok with never having any sexual intimacy in a relationship.
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Ummmm, excuse me what? Was taking an ace quiz for fun and the results said this
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Realized I was asexual at the same time I realized I lived a better life for it.
Hello people! Fellow male here. :) Long time listener first time caller as they say!
Just wanted to share my personal collection of instances how at the wonderful age of 27 I finally grasped the full concept of who I am.
After not feeling the sexual attraction my whole life and answering to the question "butts or tits?" with "Shoulders" I finally delved into the depth of internet, found this sub and started introspecting who I am. And thanks for all of you wonderful people for being very inclusive to confused people like me I started telling people that I am actually asexual.
Although, after that I still felt a bit weird, like why I have to be different than others, so I collected in my mind some instances that actually made me realize that I can do things allos sometimes can only dream of.
How about my brother telling me that I dress like a "woman repellent" all the time and never going to have sex because of it. Well, lucky me, I can dress however I want and not try to get into some woman pants with amazing clothes.
How about enjoying a night at karaoke with my horrible singing and not being bothered by never leaving with a random woman for the night, which my allo friends would never understand.
Or dancing in the club like nobody is watching because I really do not care that I scare off potential one night stands with my horrible dance moves.
All these and more, made me realize that I do have a lot more freedom thanks to me not having this "need".
So I guess if someone says "You haven't found the right one, yet!" or "It is just a phase!" , think about some moments like this in your life and say "I hope not, I feel better that way!". At least that's what I am going to do. :)
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Hello people! Fellow male here. :) Long time listener first time caller as they say!
Just wanted to share my personal collection of instances how at the wonderful age of 27 I finally grasped the full concept of who I am.
After not feeling the sexual attraction my whole life and answering to the question "butts or tits?" with "Shoulders" I finally delved into the depth of internet, found this sub and started introspecting who I am. And thanks for all of you wonderful people for being very inclusive to confused people like me I started telling people that I am actually asexual.
Although, after that I still felt a bit weird, like why I have to be different than others, so I collected in my mind some instances that actually made me realize that I can do things allos sometimes can only dream of.
How about my brother telling me that I dress like a "woman repellent" all the time and never going to have sex because of it. Well, lucky me, I can dress however I want and not try to get into some woman pants with amazing clothes.
How about enjoying a night at karaoke with my horrible singing and not being bothered by never leaving with a random woman for the night, which my allo friends would never understand.
Or dancing in the club like nobody is watching because I really do not care that I scare off potential one night stands with my horrible dance moves.
All these and more, made me realize that I do have a lot more freedom thanks to me not having this "need".
So I guess if someone says "You haven't found the right one, yet!" or "It is just a phase!" , think about some moments like this in your life and say "I hope not, I feel better that way!". At least that's what I am going to do. :)
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Hello people! Fellow male here. :) Long time listener first time caller as they say! Just wanted to share my personal collection of instances...
Just thought this fit (if you end the sentence before the parents bit)
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Been doing some pride kitties lately, thought you all might appreciate some ace/aro felines
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I can rock rainbows, too
Just because I'm ace doesn't mean I can't show pride. I can wear ace colors rainbows whatever. Don't you dare make me feel invalid for wanting to support our WHOLE community. I'm ace. I'm also an ally to others.
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Just because I'm ace doesn't mean I can't show pride. I can wear ace colors rainbows whatever. Don't you dare make me feel invalid for wanting to support our WHOLE community. I'm ace. I'm also an ally to others.
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Just because I'm ace doesn't mean I can't show pride. I can wear ace colors rainbows whatever. Don't you dare make me feel invalid for wanting...
Just discovered that I’m ace
I hope it’s okay to post here. I don’t really have safe family to talk to. <3
So I have always struggled and felt like I didn’t understand sex. I didn’t get sex jokes, I thought people expressing sexual attraction were exaggerating or making hyperboles for comedic effect, I thought I didn’t have desire to have sex as a teen because I was just so ‘level headed’ and practiced excellent self control. Then I got married and I thought I was “broken”. And that really scared me. I didn’t know what asexuality was.
Then I learned about asexuality… and thought that still wasn’t me because I had sex and wasn’t repulsed by it. Lol, you can laugh, I was ignorant.
But then my husband brought it up to me and I broke down in tears. I was scared that since he brought it up then I must certainly be “broken”. If even he could see what I try so hard to hide then what was wrong with me?
After I calmed down I started doing little snippets of research. And heard some funny analogies or explanations. And I’m confident that I’m asexual!
Two years later, here I am. I just brought it up to my husband and he laughed, not at me, but in a “I already knew it” kind of way and smiled. I asked if this hurt our relationship. He said he already knew and that nothing changed how he felt about me. In his words “no label could change you, you just acted like my wife who I love”. I’m still his wife, we still love each other more than anything in the world, and now I feel safe. I feel like the first time in my whole life I know who I am.
I’m ace and I’m a wife and I have an excellent, beautiful, amazing partner! I no longer feel “broken”. I’ve learned enough to know this is okay and valid and does not make a person less than or undesirable. I feel like I can finally start to exist in comfort. <3
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I hope it’s okay to post here. I don’t really have safe family to talk to. <3
So I have always struggled and felt like I didn’t understand sex. I didn’t get sex jokes, I thought people expressing sexual attraction were exaggerating or making hyperboles for comedic effect, I thought I didn’t have desire to have sex as a teen because I was just so ‘level headed’ and practiced excellent self control. Then I got married and I thought I was “broken”. And that really scared me. I didn’t know what asexuality was.
Then I learned about asexuality… and thought that still wasn’t me because I had sex and wasn’t repulsed by it. Lol, you can laugh, I was ignorant.
But then my husband brought it up to me and I broke down in tears. I was scared that since he brought it up then I must certainly be “broken”. If even he could see what I try so hard to hide then what was wrong with me?
After I calmed down I started doing little snippets of research. And heard some funny analogies or explanations. And I’m confident that I’m asexual!
Two years later, here I am. I just brought it up to my husband and he laughed, not at me, but in a “I already knew it” kind of way and smiled. I asked if this hurt our relationship. He said he already knew and that nothing changed how he felt about me. In his words “no label could change you, you just acted like my wife who I love”. I’m still his wife, we still love each other more than anything in the world, and now I feel safe. I feel like the first time in my whole life I know who I am.
I’m ace and I’m a wife and I have an excellent, beautiful, amazing partner! I no longer feel “broken”. I’ve learned enough to know this is okay and valid and does not make a person less than or undesirable. I feel like I can finally start to exist in comfort. <3
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Just discovered that I’m ace
I hope it’s okay to post here. I don’t really have safe family to talk to. <3 So I have always struggled and felt like I didn’t understand sex. I...
Someone just told me I'll never find anyone else because I'm asexual. Please give me some hope...
My ex and I recently broke up after 5 years together. We both discovered we were asexual together, that we just really lived eachother and sex was a little weird for us and unimportant. Sometimes we did, but mostly we didn't and we were okay with that! We broke up because we have very different visions for our futures that can't be comprised on either end without one of us sacrificing our happiness.
We have decided to stay best friends because we are. We laugh together, we play video games together, we cry together, and reference shows in combinations very few people would understand. We just get eachother, even if we can't have a romantic relationship.
I ask a relationship advice subreddit to see if being best friends with my ex would be off putting to potential partners. I was met with some advice, some "asexual guys don't exist" type stuff and then someone said "you're asexual and friends with your ex? Good luck." That wasn't the worst part, the worst was the fact that 2 people commented supporting them.
Why do people think relationships are all about sex? Do all people really want is sex? A deeper connection? Shared interests?? Making memories together???? None of those are more important than doing the dirty??????
I'm just really depressed in general and this just really made me Big Sad.
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My ex and I recently broke up after 5 years together. We both discovered we were asexual together, that we just really lived eachother and sex was a little weird for us and unimportant. Sometimes we did, but mostly we didn't and we were okay with that! We broke up because we have very different visions for our futures that can't be comprised on either end without one of us sacrificing our happiness.
We have decided to stay best friends because we are. We laugh together, we play video games together, we cry together, and reference shows in combinations very few people would understand. We just get eachother, even if we can't have a romantic relationship.
I ask a relationship advice subreddit to see if being best friends with my ex would be off putting to potential partners. I was met with some advice, some "asexual guys don't exist" type stuff and then someone said "you're asexual and friends with your ex? Good luck." That wasn't the worst part, the worst was the fact that 2 people commented supporting them.
Why do people think relationships are all about sex? Do all people really want is sex? A deeper connection? Shared interests?? Making memories together???? None of those are more important than doing the dirty??????
I'm just really depressed in general and this just really made me Big Sad.
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Someone just told me I'll never find anyone else because I'm...
My ex and I recently broke up after 5 years together. We both discovered we were asexual together, that we just really lived eachother and sex was...
Y’all helped me come out in my 30’s
Two weeks ago, I came out for the first time in my life as asexual. It’s not something I came to a realization to but rather something I continued to bury because I never felt in a position where I could explore it comfortably or freely. I’ve been in relationships, I’ve had sex, I have seen and felt attraction, I have mostly lived my life as a lesbian, partnered—but I never felt entirely comfortable with any of it—with the performance of what a partner expects you to do for pleasure—the expectations in which society tends to accept what trans visibility and acceptance looks & feels like.
I played the part but I never fully understood why any of this was necessary or needed or wanted. When the pandemic, hit I began to detransition because of circumstances and that brought challenges towards how I felt about myself and my body. I no longer engage in having sex but I wanted a kind of closeness that didn’t demand for anything physical. For the first time, I was able to sit with this and think about myself in a way I never done before the pandemic.
It all accumulated to me coming out to my wife and explaining to her why I felt this way—her response was “I always had a feeling you were.” She’s been the only person I’ve told and it’s not a matter of how I will tell other people but what’s more important is understanding this relationship, this word, this identity, this orientation before I can confidently tell others around me. I always knew and understood from a very young age that I was transgender. I can’t say the same as someone who just came out in her 30’s as asexual and truthfully, I’m not entirely sure I belong here but I at least want to try.
This Reddit in a way saved me; it’s the only real signal that I am not alone in this, that there are others like myself out there questioning and becoming the same as me. What I needed most wasn’t so much the understanding but visibility and in a society where asexual eraser and removal happens so frequently, this reddit has become my safe space.
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Two weeks ago, I came out for the first time in my life as asexual. It’s not something I came to a realization to but rather something I continued to bury because I never felt in a position where I could explore it comfortably or freely. I’ve been in relationships, I’ve had sex, I have seen and felt attraction, I have mostly lived my life as a lesbian, partnered—but I never felt entirely comfortable with any of it—with the performance of what a partner expects you to do for pleasure—the expectations in which society tends to accept what trans visibility and acceptance looks & feels like.
I played the part but I never fully understood why any of this was necessary or needed or wanted. When the pandemic, hit I began to detransition because of circumstances and that brought challenges towards how I felt about myself and my body. I no longer engage in having sex but I wanted a kind of closeness that didn’t demand for anything physical. For the first time, I was able to sit with this and think about myself in a way I never done before the pandemic.
It all accumulated to me coming out to my wife and explaining to her why I felt this way—her response was “I always had a feeling you were.” She’s been the only person I’ve told and it’s not a matter of how I will tell other people but what’s more important is understanding this relationship, this word, this identity, this orientation before I can confidently tell others around me. I always knew and understood from a very young age that I was transgender. I can’t say the same as someone who just came out in her 30’s as asexual and truthfully, I’m not entirely sure I belong here but I at least want to try.
This Reddit in a way saved me; it’s the only real signal that I am not alone in this, that there are others like myself out there questioning and becoming the same as me. What I needed most wasn’t so much the understanding but visibility and in a society where asexual eraser and removal happens so frequently, this reddit has become my safe space.
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Y’all helped me come out in my 30’s
Two weeks ago, I came out for the first time in my life as asexual. It’s not something I came to a realization to but rather something I continued...