I fucking hate being ace
A story.
A few months ago I came out as ace to my best friend who I was also interested in for a relationship (I'm a 19 y.o male, she's a 19 y.o female). I told her I am ace as well that I am interested in her, and I asked if she would ever give up sex for a relationship. She said "only if it was someone I really really love".
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6-7 months later (present day) the connection between us became so strong. (I'm talking physical touch, kisses on the cheeks and forehead from time to time, she was the only person I talked with on a daily basis even though we live about 1.5 hours away).
I wanted to ask her on a date. But I didn't know if the whole ace situation is still a problem.
Eventually I asked and surprise surprise, she said no. Her exact words were: "sometimes I said 'just be with him (me), it's the most fun and the best option', but not having sex will be a problem for me".
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You know how Im calling asexuality? The bummer orientation.
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A story.
A few months ago I came out as ace to my best friend who I was also interested in for a relationship (I'm a 19 y.o male, she's a 19 y.o female). I told her I am ace as well that I am interested in her, and I asked if she would ever give up sex for a relationship. She said "only if it was someone I really really love".
.
6-7 months later (present day) the connection between us became so strong. (I'm talking physical touch, kisses on the cheeks and forehead from time to time, she was the only person I talked with on a daily basis even though we live about 1.5 hours away).
I wanted to ask her on a date. But I didn't know if the whole ace situation is still a problem.
Eventually I asked and surprise surprise, she said no. Her exact words were: "sometimes I said 'just be with him (me), it's the most fun and the best option', but not having sex will be a problem for me".
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You know how Im calling asexuality? The bummer orientation.
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Thank you for reading.
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friendly reminder that ace & aro are 2 totally different things!!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly...
Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
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I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
Thanks for reading.
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Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so...
nubank is selling a new collection of LGBTQIA themed cardholders, there is also an asexual theme 💕 (the money will be donated to an NGO apparently)
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A guy in my class stopped talking to me.
In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the conversations cuz of my anxiety. Well when the pride month started I changed my pfp to ace flag, next thing I know he stopped talking to me. Lmao fuck you.
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In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the conversations cuz of my anxiety. Well when the pride month started I changed my pfp to ace flag, next thing I know he stopped talking to me. Lmao fuck you.
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A guy in my class stopped talking to me.
In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the...
[OC] based on a real experience some time ago haha (swipe to read)
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Its a bit differently designed, But it still feels nice to have a ring 🖤
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Minimalistic design handmade bracelet
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Daily Memes Until I’m Out- Day 9 (I couldn’t think of any war memes)
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I have made a flag to symbolise the Union of the aces and the pans
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Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated...
Attention ace council! A bisexual ambassador and I are attempting to come to a compromise! Do we ally with them? (Didn't know which flair to put)
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