I feel dumb for not wanting sex as a guy

I'm 23M and throughout my life I've only had a few crushes. I enjoy intimacy like cuddles and kisses more so than sex. I don't find anyone attractive and feel a bit broken and lost. It feels weird because I see a lot of beautiful faces everyday but I don't have any need to go out and do anything intimate with anyone.

I have no attraction to people in general but very occasionally does my sexual desires go up and I feel like wanting a partner. I on the rare chance get attached to someone, feel like it will never happen again. This is because I rarely feel comfortable even touching someone, hugging or cuddles as I consider it really intimate.

I've been told I'm quite attractive from both sexes on different occasions but I don't really see it or have the desire to be promiscuous. My friends have the approach of "get another" whereas I have trouble feeling comfortable with just "one". I might be interested in 1 woman a year if I'm lucky.

I want a relationship but I don't really care for sex. And I feel like I'm quite a rarity in a world that's so sexual. I don't watch porn or masturbate anymore, I just don't care for it.

I just want someone I can go home and vent to, maybe cuddle with and goof off with. I don't want sex and it honestly feels like when sex is involved it's not a genuine connection. Sex to me, even as a male, feels traumatic.

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What.....?
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All hail!
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We ride at dawn brothers
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okay, funny story. includes sexual topics, just letting y'all sex repulsed fellers know

so, me and my (also ace) SO were "having fun" with each other, rather early in our relationship mind you. it eventually congregated into me asking her if she liked what was happening.

this is what was said next:

me: "you like this?"

her: "yeah, if you do"

me: "wait, I was only doing it because I thought you liked it"

her: "wait what? that's what I was doing!"

*cue pointing spiderman meme and giggles*

her: "this is fun though, let's keep going"

me: "alright bet"

and that's where it ends, sorry it's not much, but I thought you guys would get a kick out of it.

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Let's do it!
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I know it’s just a loser with nothing better to do... but could someone please cheer me up?
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Daily Memes Until I’m Out- Day 5
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I know it's supposed to be funny, but it's just not
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For All my fellow Trans Aces who also got their share of the hate campaign (It is moving the Ace subs aswell, infos in the comments)
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I'm extremely happy.
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Why anything?
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Kinda feel alone being a sex repulsed ace

I apologize for this vent but I need to get it off my chest. I’ve felt this for actually a long time now. From when I used to be in asexual groups on Facebook all the way to being in this group on reddit.

I always see SO many posts, affirmations, support, stories, etc about/for sex positive aces and a hefty handful with sex neutral aces. Almost all content and discussions I tend to run across is affirming sex positive aces that they’re still ace and such like that. And see a good deal for neutral aces too. But then I see so little actual affirmations or support for sex repulsed aces, at best we might get barely more then a footnote tagged on. In fact sex repulsion seems to be used more as a joke then something legitimate. Just because allo people think asexual only means don’t like sex doesn’t mean we don’t need inclusion and support. If anything, in a world so obsessed with sex (with or without attraction involved) to barely feel included in the community of my own sexuality is lonely.

Tbh I barely feel like I’m ace at all because it feels like asexuality means being sexual without feeling attraction more then anything else. I feel so excluded from actually being ace.

This isn’t to say sex positive and neutral aces should be silenced or anything, of course not. Just that it would sure be nice if sex repulsed weren’t just pushed to the corner and the community as a whole just assume we’re fine without support.

I dunno. I’m probably over reacting and probably just run across the stuff that upsets me more then includes me by chance, but that’s just how I’ve felt for years.

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Mmmmmm, smoothie
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After a lifelong struggle, trauma, discomfort, tears and feeling seriously broken, I admitted to myself that I was asexual. For the first time in my life I feel like I can breathe. I am FREE. I can begin a new chapter of my life in which I am true to myself. I'm so happy.

I was always strongly sex repulsed (I'd rather be washing dirty dishes or going through trash to find a lost ring, you guys), I rarely ever feel arousal and my libido is nonexistent.

I came out to a few of my closest friends at work and my flatmates. It was difficult, but now, I feel so amazing. I no longer have to pretend I am someone I am not. I no longer have to worry about eventually having to force myself into doing things that repulse me and are foreign to me. I no longer have to feign interest in lewd topics just to fit in.

This is who I am, this is me. I am not broken. I tell myself every day now, Annie, you aren't broken. Different yes, but that doesn't make you broken.

I'm just so happy you guys. That's all. I guess I just needed a place to share my feelings. I'm almost 26, but I believe better figure this out late, than never.

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“How can you be asexual if you have sex everyday?” Well how can you eat if you’re not hungry?

Especially when your mom prepares a plate and puts it under your nose and expects you to eat. You know it will make her happy too since she hasn’t seen you eat in a while. Sure you don’t crave it but you can eat. That’s right, I don’t want to, but I’ll fuck your mom

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"Don't worry, we won't find any nudes in here."

A few weeks ago I was at a small gathering with friends that I'm out to and we were quite a few drinks in. I, being my usual self, was showing some cute pics of my cats and one of my friends took my phone and started swiping through my pictures with some others, looking at my cats, bad memes and dice pictures. I didn't protest, i have a lot of cute cat pics on there to share.
We were all laughing along but one of my other friends started to protest to not look through stuff that may be private.
So the friend that took my phone said what is in the title, and yes, she was right of course. It was a really good feeling to hear her say it so casually, like it was the most normal thing in the world.

A few swipes later she quickly put my phone on lock screen and tossed it back and went: "Nope I found something worse than nudes: D&D spoilers."

It feels good to have such a supportive friend group, it took me a long time to get to this point but now that I'm here it is the best feeling ever.

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Enemies to lovers
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Felt like drawing today so i drew this 💜(i swear it looks better in real life)
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I'm creating a membership community for Muslim aces. Please give it a try even if you aren't Muslim



Salaam,

I wanted to get some feedback on a new Muslim membership community I am building. In my search for a companion after realizing I'm asexual, I found that even though there might be more of us out there, no one will be able to find anyone reliably with the current communities. Every Ace community I found was non-Muslim, and no Muslim community I found had any Aces in my age range, let alone location. So I wanted to create a community where we can find others like us, while also staying close to our Iman (faith).

The site is currently in the Beta testing phase, and will stay free for all members until the final launch. Here is what I am currently working on and I would love your feedback to help make this a community that protects the safety of its members, helps educate members and their families and friends about the Asexual umbrella, and to help our ummah navigate the world of being “queer” while staying true to our faith.

* A membership site that includes a website and app for both ios and android
* Free content that is heavily researched before publication on topics such as mental health, culture clash, topics in Islam, advice on finding a partner, and different sexual orientations
* Paid groups/ memberships at affordable prices that will allow access to private spaces that include the following
* Female only groups to discuss topics and chat with other females without visibility to males
* Male only groups to discuss topics and ask questions that females cannot see
* Companion groups where both genders are able to post and interact with each other in order to find a partner.
* Secure ID verification to help prevent fraudulent accounts, catfishing, scamming and predatory behavior. With Strict ID verification, we can help minimise threats to individual safety.

Please use this link [https://www.muslimace.com/share/fxPH1VWC1Ko8dvqb?utm\_source=manual](https://www.muslimace.com/share/fxPH1VWC1Ko8dvqb?utm_source=manual), or go to muslimace.com to navigate through the site and give feedback.

Thank you for your help

Arafyn Anon

MACE- For Muslim Aces

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