Have you ever been in love?

Although I’ve been in a couple of relationships, and had all consuming crushes on people (not the people I’ve had relationships with) I’ve never knowingly been in love. I can obsess about people, sure, and I can love people, but I don’t know the feeling of being in love. Does that have any bearing on being aromantic? Or can aro people still fall in love?

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So Tired Of The “My Parter Is Ace And I’m Not” Posts.

Asexual people can’t have our own subreddit without allos invading it. Do you not understand how triggering it is for us asexuals to go to our safe space just to see posts about how you guys are so unfulfilled in your relationships just because of sex?

All the posts are the same. “My partner is repulsed by sex, but I need it! What can I do?" What do you expect us asexuals to say? You want us, ASEXUAL people, to tell you that we think your asexual partner isn't enough because of sex, something we don’t even like? What do you expect from us? Asexuality is also a spectrum, and everyone who is ace is different. This literally boils down to just TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER. We can’t answer for them because we aren’t them. Why come on here and ask us instead of the person you’re with??

Have you ever stopped to think how many of us aces lost partners we cared about and bent over backwards for, leave us simply because we didn’t want to fuck them, even though many of us tell our partners we’re ace before we even get together and they say they’re okay with that only to break our trust like everyone else has later on? You’re rubbing our trauma in our faces.

I get it if they came out as ace after you get together, that is a little different. And yes breaking up is hard for everyone. But still, you can literally find someone else. You have BILLIONS of people to choose from - meanwhile us aces have less than 1% of the population. So it’s incredibly upsetting for us aces to have see posts of you guys complaining about this when we have less than 1% of the population to choose from. We’d rather not be reminded of how 99% of the population see us as unlovable no matter what we do simply because we’re asexual.

This subreddit isn’t for your posts like this. It’s for us. It’s our safe space. There’s a whole other subreddit for these posts that you can go to. So why post it on here? Why do you guys love reminding us that we aren’t enough for you?

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I manage with 10 just fine.
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How can I make it obvious that I’m just being nice?

As a man I don’t want anyone thinking I’m flirting. I just want to be nice to people. Is there anyways I can make it obvious without outing myself?

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Ace Community Here Me Out

Ace people of the world!
I come before you not as one of your own, but as a friend and ally and a humble messenger of goodwill. For I have seen that you do not have an animal mascot, the lesbians have the penguin and cats, the trans folks have the shark and the gay men have the grizzly bear and unicorn. Yet I have looked upon your ranks, and found no creature crowned as your emblem.

So today, I bring forth a candidate most fitting:
the GREAT PANDA!

https://preview.redd.it/fg5oihked11g1.png?width=609&format=png&auto=webp&s=3c92edee2a6ad502d8c7b3a3461aade58822b1c5

Let the world know: the panda does not seek the frenzied courtship of the wild but is concerned with happy times and snacks!

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Intrusive thoughts question

I've recently had intrusive thoughts of someone else rubbing one off at the thought of me. Is this normal? For an intrusive thought

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Yeah like why are you mad bro?
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So...I'm new. Why garlic bread?

Don't get me wrong, I love the heck out of some garlic bread. Just curious how it's associated with the ace community?

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Firefox's new mascot is ace

I can't help but notice that the colors firefox has decided to have as shirt colors for the release of their new mascot, Kit, are eerily familiar

https://preview.redd.it/4mh1h46ht31g1.png?width=418&format=png&auto=webp&s=9d1955c279f9137895fc535324f7629f24db74cf



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I hate how sex is seen as the most important thing in the world

No shame to people that have/enjoy sex at all, it's their life and they deserve to live it the way they want to as long as it's safe and consensual.

But I hate how sex is seen as the most important thing ever. Like, men are supposed to want it and crave it all the time, women are there to fulfill those needs. It hurts both sides!

People literally break up relationships over sex, which, you know, it is important for people in terms of intimacy, but I still find it baffling. It's hard to remember that that is okay to do that, but honestly people should really find someone with an equal libido so that isn't a problem. And then they should communicate if they feel like something is wrong. (I do get that it's also because one partner is being abusive and not making it good for the other -- THAT I completely understand and encourage wanting to leave over because someone can seem great at first and then show their true colors later, and that is awful)

I also feel like it's just constantly in the media. Women are both shamed and encouraged due to having lots of sex, men are shamed for not having enough. Again, it hurts everyone. There isn't any real education either, it's just SEX SEX SEX!

It sucks that it's so ingrained in our society that not wanting sex is seen as the most horrible thing ever and there is something wrong with you. It's stupid.

Also, I read somewhere that in relationships, most of everything couples do together is literally just gearing up for sex by the end of the day. So all the cooking together, dancing together, going on dates, the end result is solely just to have sex apparently. That irks me. This obviously isn't true for many couples, but still.

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