Questions regarding sex life
Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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What is with ppl always assuming paper rolls in bed are for something sexual?
I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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What does it mean to be "queer" in terms of sexuality? It was never clear to me.
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