Do you date allos?
As an asexual (wherever you are on the spectrum, me personally being sex averse) do you ever take the chance of dating someone who’s allo thinking there’s a slim chance it could work out?
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As an asexual (wherever you are on the spectrum, me personally being sex averse) do you ever take the chance of dating someone who’s allo thinking there’s a slim chance it could work out?
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How did you found out you were ace ?
Hi beautiful people
I’m mostly asking demi/grey ace or sex positive and favorable ace but every testimony is welcomed. I’d like to know more about how you found you were ace, and how did it changed the way you perceived yourself and your past experiences.
I ask because I’m having a hard time processing it. It’s like my whole world and identity is shifting (in a good way cause I finally have answers) but still, it’s a lot !
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Hi beautiful people
I’m mostly asking demi/grey ace or sex positive and favorable ace but every testimony is welcomed. I’d like to know more about how you found you were ace, and how did it changed the way you perceived yourself and your past experiences.
I ask because I’m having a hard time processing it. It’s like my whole world and identity is shifting (in a good way cause I finally have answers) but still, it’s a lot !
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How do I refuse to have sex? Please help
My girlfriend (25) and I (28) broke up about 7–8 months ago. It was a huge emotional trauma for me, and I fell into depression. I tried many things to cope with it. At one point, I considered dating men because I’ve always identified as bisexual — I find some feminine-looking men sexually attractive.
So, I installed Grindr and started chatting with a guy (23). I found him cute, and he had a nice personality. A strong bond quickly developed between us, and we shared everything about our lives. We also agreed to have sex when the right situation arose.
I shared my breakup story with him, and he did everything he could to help me recover from my depression and grief. For months, he was the only person I regularly spoke to, apart from my family. Eventually, my mind became more stable, and I returned to a sense of normalcy.
During that time, he invited me many times to have sex, but I kept postponing it with various reasons. Lately, I’ve decided to embrace a fully asexual lifestyle, as romantic or sexual pleasures no longer appeal to me. I’ve overcome my libido through extreme, disciplined practice.
Now, the problem is that he still calls me every day asking to have sex and wants to start a long-term romantic and sexual relationship with me. But I can’t do that — I no longer feel that way, not toward him or anyone else. However, I’m afraid to tell him the full truth because I don’t want to hurt or humiliate him. I know he’s strongly attracted to me, and he was the only person who stood by me when I was at my lowest point. I don't want him to feel like I used him as some kind of experiment to explore my sexuality.
How can I refuse his invitations for sex without making him sad or disappointed? I still want him in my life — as a friend.
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My girlfriend (25) and I (28) broke up about 7–8 months ago. It was a huge emotional trauma for me, and I fell into depression. I tried many things to cope with it. At one point, I considered dating men because I’ve always identified as bisexual — I find some feminine-looking men sexually attractive.
So, I installed Grindr and started chatting with a guy (23). I found him cute, and he had a nice personality. A strong bond quickly developed between us, and we shared everything about our lives. We also agreed to have sex when the right situation arose.
I shared my breakup story with him, and he did everything he could to help me recover from my depression and grief. For months, he was the only person I regularly spoke to, apart from my family. Eventually, my mind became more stable, and I returned to a sense of normalcy.
During that time, he invited me many times to have sex, but I kept postponing it with various reasons. Lately, I’ve decided to embrace a fully asexual lifestyle, as romantic or sexual pleasures no longer appeal to me. I’ve overcome my libido through extreme, disciplined practice.
Now, the problem is that he still calls me every day asking to have sex and wants to start a long-term romantic and sexual relationship with me. But I can’t do that — I no longer feel that way, not toward him or anyone else. However, I’m afraid to tell him the full truth because I don’t want to hurt or humiliate him. I know he’s strongly attracted to me, and he was the only person who stood by me when I was at my lowest point. I don't want him to feel like I used him as some kind of experiment to explore my sexuality.
How can I refuse his invitations for sex without making him sad or disappointed? I still want him in my life — as a friend.
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Garlic bread recipes needed
If someone has a garlic bread recipe for me I need it. Make sure you include bread and garlic
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If someone has a garlic bread recipe for me I need it. Make sure you include bread and garlic
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people who came out to their parents, how did they react?
im curious to see how other parents have reacted. i came out to my parents a while ago and my mom still refuses to believe im ace. she knows ace people exist but for some reason she completely denies my asexuality. i hope y'all have better experiences or if not maybe we can give each other support?
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im curious to see how other parents have reacted. i came out to my parents a while ago and my mom still refuses to believe im ace. she knows ace people exist but for some reason she completely denies my asexuality. i hope y'all have better experiences or if not maybe we can give each other support?
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"Icks" and allosexuals/romantics
So I (21 nb) have been seeing all those "These are my dating icks, list of normal healthy things." Do allo's even like eachother? And why do people (in this argument men) feel they are deserving of sex and/or romance. Why are romance and sex used this way? (Aside from sex sells.)
Again it could be my aro/Ace butt talking, I don't understand being so creepy and super picky. (Especially when incel speak starts to come through.)
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So I (21 nb) have been seeing all those "These are my dating icks, list of normal healthy things." Do allo's even like eachother? And why do people (in this argument men) feel they are deserving of sex and/or romance. Why are romance and sex used this way? (Aside from sex sells.)
Again it could be my aro/Ace butt talking, I don't understand being so creepy and super picky. (Especially when incel speak starts to come through.)
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Are we not worthy to be loved truly?
I’m 24 y/o and asexual. I always questioning if someone like me isn’t worthy of love. Why can I not be happy with someone. Why does everyone rejects me. Am I not enough. Do other asexual people feel the same way. I overthink it so many times and even when I think I accepted it, I just find myself wondering why can I not be in love once with someone truly and get loved and accepted fully. I feel like only toxic or abusing ppl tolerate me because they just put you in the way they want you to be or make you do things, don’t need to go deeper into it. But as far they feel more safe and nice they definitely not gonna be with you. Yes, they accept it and don’t want you to do things that you don’t want but you always will be alone in the end. Because they always leave you as far they know. For no one is less sex enough. Even if you would have everything which seems a dream for them they reject you because you don’t want sex everyday.. but than saying “sex isn’t everything in a relationship” but showing exactly the opposite. Sometimes I hate being asexual but only because I seek to be loved once for who I am but no one wants someone like me. I feel so alone and unloved. Like no one can or wants to love me or even try, to see if this could work. I just don’t know anymore what to do, should I still have hope that someone would love me truly for the way I am?
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I’m 24 y/o and asexual. I always questioning if someone like me isn’t worthy of love. Why can I not be happy with someone. Why does everyone rejects me. Am I not enough. Do other asexual people feel the same way. I overthink it so many times and even when I think I accepted it, I just find myself wondering why can I not be in love once with someone truly and get loved and accepted fully. I feel like only toxic or abusing ppl tolerate me because they just put you in the way they want you to be or make you do things, don’t need to go deeper into it. But as far they feel more safe and nice they definitely not gonna be with you. Yes, they accept it and don’t want you to do things that you don’t want but you always will be alone in the end. Because they always leave you as far they know. For no one is less sex enough. Even if you would have everything which seems a dream for them they reject you because you don’t want sex everyday.. but than saying “sex isn’t everything in a relationship” but showing exactly the opposite. Sometimes I hate being asexual but only because I seek to be loved once for who I am but no one wants someone like me. I feel so alone and unloved. Like no one can or wants to love me or even try, to see if this could work. I just don’t know anymore what to do, should I still have hope that someone would love me truly for the way I am?
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Asexuals in long term sexual relationships, what aspects about your partner keep you with them?
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Am I still valid if...
I ONLY wanna....you know to ONLY have kids. I don't wanna do it RIGHT now though
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I ONLY wanna....you know to ONLY have kids. I don't wanna do it RIGHT now though
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