Sex and Self Esteem

I've only realized fairly recently that allos tend to tie sex to their own self esteem. If their partner (or indeed a stranger) doesn't want to have sex with them for ANY reason, they take it personally. If it happens a lot, they begin to doubt themselves. Being considered sexually attractive and desirable is really important to them and can result in real feelings of anger, insecurity and despair if it doesn't happen.

Self esteem issues are also a major driver behind hook ups and affairs.

So I'm wondering, where do us asexuals fit in this? There are people here (including myself) who actively resent being considered sexually attractive. But is this universal? If someone finds you sexually attractive (regardless of your attitude to sex itself) does that boost your self esteem? Or do you resent it or are you just neutral?

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Intrusive thoughts

I’ve been getting intrusive sexual thoughts lately and it’s making me feel disgusting- and it’s making me question myself and my sexuality- it sucks and I just want these gross thoughts to stop. Any advice-?

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What would you tell them?

Hey guys! Next year, I will take part in a pageant and my platform is asexuality visibility and hypersexualisation awareness. For me, they go hand in hand. I consider myself as a simply asexual person.

To help me raise awareness I am slowly writing a « diary » that will be available online for people to read for free, just so people know we exist, but also our reality.

I am curious. If you could say anything to allosexual people, to people that say that sex sells and that’s why there is so much sexuality everywhere, or whatever, what would you tell them? I would love to give a voice to our community, but I know my reality isn’t the same as others.

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Was banned from r/truths for being Asexual

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Made a post, was removed, I debated it via DM, they banned me for the DM. Please report this subreddit for Anti LGBTQ!!!

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Intrusive thoughts

I’ve been getting intrusive sexual thoughts lately and it’s making me feel disgusting- and it’s making me question myself and my sexuality- it sucks and I just want these gross thoughts to stop. Any advice-?

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Being ACE = Being Me 🌈
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Which of these do you relate with
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Looking for asexual partner

Hi. I'm a 21 year old girl from pakistan. I'm looking for an asexual partner preferably a male. I want a bond, a connection rather than anything sexual. I feel like when in relationships, sexual talk is a turn off for me. Meaningful, intelligent conversations are what matter to me. Romance is good too. Getting close to people takes a really long time and a lot of effort for me. I want a partner who respects that. Since i don't know where to look for that, i came here. Yall please guide me for that i did smth wrong, I'm sorry idk how reddit works. I'm new. Take care. Bye.


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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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