Something that i want to say.

I've made some posts here and i want to say something,

I think Asexuals, to my experience, are generally very open minded and welcoming which has been a great thing so far.

I've had some bad encounters that i think many of them comes down to misunderstandings, but except those few examples, Asexuals are generally very tolerant people and it's a pleasure to be in this sub and see you guys and gals.

Keep up with the tolerance which is very valuable nowadays.

Again thank you all the open minded and tolerant users of this sub.

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Dan Savage admits to being wrong about Asexuality. Taken from the NPR interview about his new book.
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Favorite asexual character in media

Who is your favorite asexual character in movies, tv shows, books or other forms of media

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Sex favorable aces are real and valid.

This sub is starting to feel sex negative, not in a "it's just not for me" thing but in a "sex is DIRTY and EVIL!" way. I'm not into sex, I don't like it, but even I'm starting to get that feeling from here, I'm seeing more posts from people asking if they're "still ace" if they like fetishes or porn and all that, and I'm worried that maybe the sex favorable/positive aces are going to start feeling less valid or even excluded in their own community when we already face discrimination from straight people and a few corners of the LGBT community at large.

I think it's easy to forget that not all aces are sex repulsed, and that it might be a good time to check up on the favorable ace friends and how they're doing.

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what’s an allo? (wrong answers only)



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To all my ace trans folks (myself included)
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Seriously, can you not wait for five more minutes?
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P A N D A
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paper mario 64 was a big eye opener too.
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I redesigned the abiitsexual and abiitromanic flags

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hmmmm
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In the uk asexuality isn’t a protected characteristic under the uk ‘equality’ act this petition is trying to change that link in comments
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Is it uncommon for males to be asexual?

Browsing this subreddit it seems most people on here are female. Is it uncommon for males to be asexual? Or is it harder for them to open up about it? I'm a male in my twenties and I recently figured out I'm asexual. The signs have always been there, in fact the first time I had sex I could not get aroused at all so I don't even know if it counted. I found the girl aesthetically attractive but when it came down to having sex I just could not get turned on. I thought at the time it was because I was drunk and that's how I've always understood it but as it turns out I was asexual, I just didn't realize it back then.

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This new type of acephobia in Finland makes me so angry

This new argument claims that asexuals are transphobic and homophobic because we asexuals are not sexually interested in transgender people or homosexuals. And the worst thing about this is that presumably most of these shouters don't themselves belong to the minorities that they represent but recognize themselves as "defenders" and "advocates."

This really makes me angry. I have nothing against other minorities and the lack of sexual interest is not a phobia even though these activists want to make it like that and see asexuality as such. And I believe that the majority of asexuals also have nothing against them. So I tried to explain that how I'm biromantic asexual, and even though I lack sexual interest I'm still able to be romantically interested like many other asexuals.

But then like the meteor strike the damn erashing by Finnish moderators arrived to "protects minorities" and "prevent hate speech." But it only prevents asexuals from writing about asexuality or defending themselves in Finland. This is so wrong and because of this censorship, no matter how "inappropriate content" our asexuality is here, this issue now remains unresolved and growing.

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guess who has a therapist appointment? that's right, ME

About a year ago I had a watershed moment where I realized that I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum. But when I approached my current therapist saying "I FIGURED IT OUT I figured out THE THING" he basically blew me off, blaming toxic masculinity and a tendency on my end to reach for labels. It wasn't like his points had zero merit, but it was also very clear to me that I wasn't being taken seriously and that I'd have to figure this out on my own.

I've made decent progress on this soul searching journey without backup - thanks, Reddit - but it's been really tough taking on the entire Discourse and all of my heavy-ass baggage solo. But I finally got off my butt and got ahold of a proper LGBTQIA+-friendly sex therapist and we have an appointment!! I'm stoked, and hopeful - and, I'll admit, a little proud of myself for adulting.

I just wanted to share with some people who might understand why I'm excited. Thanks for listening.

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Pardon me asexuals, but I have to ask…

Full disclosure, I’m a middle-aged heterosexual male. I’m quite the opposite of asexual.

Frankly, I’m a bit jealous of asexuals. In my estimation, being highly sexual hasn’t made my life any easier. When it comes to women, I’ve made embarrassingly bad decisions. When I’m in the presence of an attractive woman my otherwise sound judgment turns to mush, particularly when she finds me attractive. It’s my Achilles’ heel!! Compared to my predicament, I cannot help but believe asexuality is a mild superpower.

I have so many questions for asexuals that I don’t know where to start….. let’s see….

1. Have you ever experienced sexual attraction? In other words, you’re asexual now, but has it always been this way?

2. If you’re not attracted to any particular person or gender, do you still feel the need for sexual release? In other words, I presume you don’t masturbate now….Have you ever masturbated?

3. Are you happy, or is there a sense that you’re missing a vital component in your life?

4. Some research suggests that people who experience regular orgasm are generally healthier and have less chronic illness. Some scientists believe that loneliness might be a component here. For example, people who experience less orgasms on average, may also (on average) feel a deeper sense of loneliness and or disconnectedness from other people…. Which is why I have to ask, do you feel like this has adversely affected your health and quality of life?

5. Has your asexuality negatively affected your relationships with your parents? (Parents always want grandkids 😂)

please understand my questions come from a sincere desire to learn. I’m endlessly fascinated by the broad spectrum of humanity and psychology. I literally know almost nothing about the asexual experience.

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I’m kinda confused 😭

cis-fem (also a minor), in a relationship

It just kind of occurred to me that I don’t feel sexual attraction towards my boyfriend- but I do to other men (or women idk I’m questioning that as well but let’s not take that into account)- it’s kind of like aceflux but it doesn’t fluctuate day-to-day more so with different people. Im romantically attracted to my current boyfriend and the relationship was built very emotion-heavy; but I dont feel sexual attraction towards him. In retrospect, I feel sexual (and maybe romantic) attraction towards others. I only realised when I started noticing how uncomfortable I would get when he makes sex jokes directed at me specifically when I do the same (not to him)[not a matter of it being creepy or anything I just don’t like him like that\].

I’ve heard of being fraysexual (i.e. sexual attraction fading when an emotional bond is formed) which is probably the closest label that fits me- but it’s been so long since I liked anyone else I've forgotten if that’s true😅

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TL;DR- I exclusively like some people romantically and not sexually but still experience sexual attraction, is there a term or is it a norm I’m not aware of?

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