A metaphor I just used to my allo friend

I'm a gray-ace virgin. My allo friend and I were talking about sex positivity, and how she thinks it's something everyone should enjoy. I came up with this metaphor for my feelings about sex:

"I want to have sex like you want to visit New York or see Mt. Rushmore or the Golden Gate Bridge. Sure, someday sounds cool, hopefully you get a chance, could be fun, but it's not really an immediate priority. I wouldn't go out of my way."

She hasn't responded yet, but does this match anybody else's feelings?

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Rule
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I just told my mom i'm asexual

I always wanted to come out to my mom, but I was afraid to at first because I live in a catholic family. But today before my mom had to take a shower I told her "Would you be mad If I told you my sexuality?" and she said "No, tell me." then I said "asexual" then she said "Ok." with a big smile on her face. Then I told her why i'm asexual, and she told me "You don't have to have sex in your life." After I was born, her and my dad probably agreed to never have sex again.

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Is Kissing Sexual And Or Romantic?

Ok I'm doing a redo on this poll because I was made aware I should of added a both option.

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We do it better
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Told my coworker I wanted garlic bread, so she brought me garlic bread. It's the ace things they don't understand
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my sister bought me flag for my brithday

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We need our own bars

I wish there were ace bars! Everyone else seems to have their own bars, so where are the bars for people that don’t want to flirt with people? What do all of you want in a ace bar

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I think "you haven't had good sex yet." Is just as annoying as "you haven't met the right person."

I have gotten both things said to me but the haven't had good sex yet is more annoying in my opinion. I have opened up to people, not alot but when I have explained I don't get physical pleasure from partnered sex I'm met with the good sex comment.

I also hate how alot of women I talk to they seem to believe that the men I had sex with have to go down on me. My step sister told me that one guy I messed around with was a guy who cares about female pleasure because he gave me oral but for me deep down I feel it's not right to say that about a person, that they care about my pleasure all because he wanted to go down on me. Men who don't like to give oral also care about their partners pleasure, it's just that they don't like a popular sex act. They are valid. Yes they are selfish lovers in the world but it's like people forget that not everyone likes to give certain sex acts along with receiving certain sex acts. If someone is honest about that and if the other person wants a certain thing to be done and not being sexually fullfilled then they can leave. No one is wrong on either side. I get that lots of women can't reach orgasms with just intercourse.


I never felt physical pleasure from partnered sex which THAT is what led me walking down the path of discovering asexuality and the different types. I know aces can enjoy the feeling of sex so I get craving sexual release. I'm a bit aegosexual myself as well so I love porn and I have only had a romantic/sexual attraction to a actor, never anyone in real life. So I've been thinking I'm a gray aro ace with a little bit of aegosexual.

I seem to have a love/hate feelings toward sex. I crave sexual release but partnered sex is not fullfilling for me. Sex terrifies me in a way too because of the pregnancy risk. It just seems to un appealing. The whole ejaculating inside absolutely freaks me out, in the past being sexual with guys I was always worried about that and I think for that reason alone I can't be as close to men sexually but I don't have sex anymore and it's freeing. I just hope I can find another aro ace and we can be life partners and bestfriends.

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Being Double A:
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just came out to my parents, didn't go well

so i was talking to my mother about moving out of the house with a female friend of mine (im agender but she doesn't know that) and she insisted that we must be dating despite me repeatedly saying we weren't, and that we didn't plan to be. it got to the point that i decided to be upfront about it and just tell her i was aro/ace and explain what it meant, to which she replied "what if you meet The Right Person(TM)" i tried explaining that that's not how it works, but eventually my father got involved and he basically told me that i was being stupid and that i'd find someone eventually who i "couldn't live without" despite the fact that i already have that person, and they're the one im moving in with, but we're not romantic

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just wanted to share this funny "accidentally allo" moment i had when i was little

so i was a pretty innocent and naive 9 year old. i didn't know any swear words, slang, or any of this sexual vocab that my classmates seemed to all know.

in thai class i sat next to a boy and a girl who were sort of "popular" because they knew "grown up terms" (aka the sexual vocabs i was talking about earlier). i'm not sure how exactly they got onto this topic but somehow they started talking about "banging" and being the naive little kid i was back then, i thought it just meant to crash into, or to hit, etc. i was a lot less shy back then so i kicked the boy lightly under the table and said confidentially "i banged sam". they laughed and i was a bit confused but i laughed with them. a few days later when we had the class again i did it again because baby me never learns. after about 2 weeks of this, i think they realised that i didnt know what the word meant so they explained to me and i was so embarrassed. thinking back now, its pretty hilarious.

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my heart empty save for garlic bread and cute birds.
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Idk if this has been posted here before but here ya go.
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My stepdad changed his mind on asexuality! :D

TW Past aphobia

So a few years ago i tried coming out to my stepdad, but decided to test the waters by asking him what he thought. Back then, he said that its impossible, that everyone falls in love and has sex eventually, and that its just a way of fooling yourself because youre lonely. It obviously made me really sad, and i decided not to come out to him.

A few years after that, i came out to my mom, who was pretty accepting after the initial confusion. I dont know if she told him or not, however.

Well yesterday, me and my stepdad were talking about the show Sex Education. I mentioned that while im not interested in the show at all, that it has asexual representation and that that makes me really happy. He smiled and agreed with me, saying he hasnt seen it in media before and that he thinks its awesome to see. I felt really happy and came out as asexual, and he said its cool and we carried on.

Im really happy about this, and kind of proud of him too, for keeping his mind open!

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Join the Void
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What does being asexual add to your life?

Time for a thread of positivity folks. What does being asexual add to your life? I’m assuming most things written here will be things that allosexuals can experience too, but what do you feel your asexuality gives you?

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i think Leonardo da vencí was in the ace expectrum

a lot of people say that he was gay, and that he never fell atraction for women, and that he has varius male lovers, but somenting that he says in his notebooks is that "The act of procreation and everything related to it is so unpleasant that human beings would soon die if there were no pretty faces and sensual dispositions" and olso some historians agree that he was "celibe"

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This one's for my fellow ace wlw
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“As I’m Swallowed”, by tri.
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