“Visions Do Fall”, by tri.
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If you're a man, or attractive, you can't be asexual.

It just makes sense, right?

Well no, but my mother seems to believe men who are asexual are either rapists or have erectile dysfunction. No possibility of asexuality being a thing.

And an old man told me (idc if you see this), and I quote, "But I'm attracted to you, and I'm not attracted to asexuals."

KABOO, my asexuality just disappeared. Yours should too if someone is attracted to you. Just try it guys, it'll cure your years of suffering😃👍

Then both tell me they're not aphobes. Mhm, sure.

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Just broke up with my girlfriend and don’t know what to do, can someone help. I really need it



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I'm confused

So I confessed to my crush and they said yes. Then we started dating. The thing is I think I might be lithromantic and I don't know what to do now. Someone please tell me otherwise I'll combust

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Are greysexuals accepted here?

So I read a wiki forum on greysexuals. Reading the definition of one I relate a lot to it so I was wondering if this sub Reddit is accepting of greysexual and hoping there’s more information shared about it and there’s other people who relate the same thing that I have.

https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Greysexual

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There's this gay friend of mine...

I have a gay friend and I always considered myself an ally to the LGBTQIA+ community. We spoke a lot about stuff like homophobia and community-related issues. At the time I was questioning my sexuality, but nothing felt right.

Eventually I startet reading about asexuality and stuff, but I merely considered the possibility I could be ace. One day I wanted to talk about it with my friend. I thaught that he would somehow understand what I'm talking about and I, at that time, always considered aces to be part of LGBT+. So I started a conversation about it, but he just said, that that was a totally different thing and that asexuality is not really a sexuality and so on. I kinda felt invalidated by what he said. Then I asked him if he considered Asexuality as part of the LGBT+ community and he said no. He talked about how the community was just for people that are oppressed or invalidated by society and that Aces are not...like...hated enough? I was shocked, because in my head the LGBT+ community was a safe place for all people that didn't fit the norm.

I came out a few weeks later but never talked with him about it. But what he said is stuck in my head and I often feel that there is just no place for us. It really doesn't matter if we are in a special community or something, but it hurts the most to get invalidated by people who should know how it feels.

Nowadays, when somebody asks, I say that I'm bi, because it's easier and I never got hate for it. But when I say that I'm ace there is always some acephobic comment, whether the person wants to hurt me or not. I think it's kinda ironic, considering that we are "not oppressed enough" to get support.

Edit: grammatical error

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Ace riiiing!!
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I wanted to share some pictures of my cat too :) meet Lily

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Like?????
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Ace vibes

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"I wish you would have been a lesbian instead!"

I'll keep this pretty short, but I wanted to vent a bit to others who understand.

I was having a conversation with my mom, and after I told her I don't feel sexually attracted to anyone, I don't really enjoy sexual interaction, and would rather not engage in it often, she goes "Oh god, I wish you would have been a lesbian instead!" (Some background to that, because I knew I was Ace in highschool, I didn't date anyone which led to a rumor I was a lesbian.) Then later in the conversation, she said, "Maybe you could see a therapist or try hormones" and "Maybe you should try being on top instead", and previously she suggested I get drunk or high to feel sexual attraction to my past partners. She only stopped and then said it was a joke, after I teared up.

She knows I identify as Ace, and I know that she enjoys sex, but I don't understand how she could have such an adverse reaction at the thought of having a child that doesn't want to have sex. It makes me feel like I'm inherently broken just by not feeling sexual attraction to others. I love my mom very much, her and I are very close (which is why I know about her drive for sexual pleasure), I just hope that after this she realizes there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex.

Thanks for listening, y'all.

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Trying to come out to my allo boyfriend - this did not go well...

I guess I could really need some relationship advice...
So, I realized I was asexual while being in a relationship.
That's not necessarily a problem but I noticed I would be much happier in a relationship without any (or less) sexual interaction, beginning with kissing.
I also would like to tell my boyfriend that I'm asexual, so he can understand me better and it's just a part of me.
I was asking him about how he experiences sexual attraction and told him that I don't really experience sexual attraction, but I think he didn't really get what I meant with that.

The other day we were discussing if you can be in a relationship with a person when you are not sexually attracted to them. He said that wouldn't make sense because you have to want to have sex with that person/want to see them naked (in order to have sex).
I told him that you could just not have sex in a relationship.
He was confused, that would be unnatural and what would be the difference to a friendship?
I told him you could still love a person and explained him the difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction.
But he just kept saying that not feeling sexual attraction to someone/not wanting to have sex with them is unnatural and "mechanic/like a machine"?!?
I should stop talking about that stuff because it was making him insecure.
I felt really hurt by all of that and I also didn't feel comfortable to come out to him.
I really like him but now I feel like this won't work because he said such aphobic things.

When it comes to sex, at first I just put pressure on myself, because I didn't understand how I could like someone and not wanting to have sex with them, kiss them etc... I do feel repulsed by genitals, naked bodies, fluids and often sex in general but try to push that aside to make this work (also the physical stimulation can feel good sometimes).
Now I feel more often comfortable to say no or just take his hands off of me to show him I'm not okay with having sex at the moment. Even though he says "Yeah okay" and stops for a bit he keeps pushing until I "give in".

He recently just said that when "I turn around in bed saying no, he feels like it's a challenge". This really shocked me and is so wrong because I was just complaining how guys often don't understand a No and try to "keep fighting for a girl" which is just stupid.
I do get that we are in a relationship but that doesn't really excuse ignoring what I'm not okay with.

Do you have any ideas how I could still make this relationship work or what I could do in this situation? It would probably be best breaking up but it just seems so impossible to break up with someone you love and I don't want to hurt him😔

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