Saw one about "reverse cowgirl" and had to make this now
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<3
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Anyone else doesn't like being perceived as sexy?

Recently I was talking to a lesbian friend of mine and she mentioned she likes dressing butch to repulse men and attract sapphic ppl. And I realized that as an asexual, I kinda do the same thing.

But in my case, I don't wanna attract anyone, men or women or in-between, because being an seen as an 'object of desire' deeply bothers/upsets me. I like when people compliment my outfit, or tell me I'm pretty, but the moment the 'pretty' turns into 'sexy' or 'hot', the moment people look at me in a sexual way I hate it, I feel so bad. It crawls in my skin.

And I realized also that I found my style in history bounding and it super has to do with this. No one will find me sexy in a huge petticoat and boots and high-buttoned shirts. And I love it! It makes me feel good about myself and I don't get that kind of attention.

I guess what took me so long to realize all of this was because I do like feeling sexy, for myself and myself only, but the moment there's someone looking at me that way I feel terrible. And it's not a self esteem issue as well, I just don't like being seen as a sexual being.

I was wondering if anyone felt like this as well?

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My coming out to my mom be like
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I’ve never seen something so accurate. I didn’t know I wasn’t alone 😅

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I'm making garlic bread does anyone want one
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Not a problem, my friend!
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Against my will usually
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Someone posted the thing about Splatoon 2, and I immediately thought of this and made it + added "Some people have a partner" (Link to the original in the comments!)
https://redd.it/ouxtqe
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Saw this meme making its rounds through the LBGT+ communities again. Thought I would update it to reflect what aphobia and actually looks like.
https://redd.it/ouyixp
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[OC] What I’d say to any future partner
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Schools NEED to teach the difference between types of attraction

My high school Health classes failed in many ways. But one that has stuck out to me the most has got to be the failure to teach types of attraction.

Sometimes I think about how different my life would’ve turned out if my freshman year Health class had a unit on the differences between sexual attraction, romantic attraction, libido, physical attraction, etc. I may have been saved many years of trauma and confusion.

Seriously, I feel like this information should be part of basic sex ed curriculum. It feels so NECESSARY. Not just for questioning aces, but for everyone.

I’ve thought so much about how I can petition to add a unit on different attraction types to district curriculum, but of course that sorta thing is next to impossible.

Oh well... fun to fantasize...

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Vent: Even the local pride didn’t acknowledge my existence

My city had their pride event today. Was so excited to get a few things. I can’t order stuff in the mail incase my family open it so I really wanted to get a badge/pin and a flag of the asexual flag, as well as a rainbow flag (I’m an asexual lesbian).

There were two stalls selling pride merch. Neither had anything asexual related and I had to explain what the flag looked like for each stall. They had tons of different flags, like 20+

It hurts that a day all about being proud of who you are and being included is still excluding some groups ☹️

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Ace vibes

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My friends keep calling me a robot or a prude or having no emotions...

I'm kind of coming to terms with the label of asexuality (and maybe aromaticism too) and I've always felt locked out from everyone within my group when it comes to talking about relationships and finding people sexually attractive because I don't know any a-spectra people.

Since I've realised this I look back on the things my friends have called me in the past and I don't know if I'm overreacting but in hindsight it seems kind of hurtful and it's certainly worn me down - there was a point where I thought maybe I was experiencing anhedonia or some sort of severe anxiety and low self-esteem that was preventing me from being interested in relationships. I definitely still wondering if the latter is the case. I mean, I'm more stoic than all of them as well but I'm getting annoyed that I'm supposedly just a malfunctioning robot or emotionally stunted child who doesn't understand what love is.

I suppose this is just a small vent really, I have no idea where this is going but I'm just feeling down about it is all, and I don't know if I'm allowed to be angry in hindsight. I don't even know how I'd go about confronting them because I don't know if I'm overreacting.

Sorry if this does come under aphobia I genuinely don't know if it is :/

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How were you able to comprehend or label your sexuality before you learned there was such a thing as “ace”?

I’m probably not as young as most people here, so the actual concept “asexual” still feels pretty new. Still, for most of my life, I knew I was “different.” For example, while in college, when everyone was hooking up, I prioritized learning over dating. I just really loved school and the learning environment. When I did date or even wanted to be with anyone, it was because someone had made a series insightful comments in class and I felt drawn to their big beautiful brain. Sexual intimacy was somewhere at the tail end of any dating priorities. For a while, I just referred to myself as a “meh-sexual”, in that I had a pretty “meh” attitude toward sex.

I’d be interested in hearing about other people’s “pre-asexual” identities.

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My mother thinks pride is bull

Im Aromantic, been identifying as this since...18 maybe. My mother found one of my pride pins with the ace flag on it and asked why I own one. That pride is stupid and I don't need a pin to show I'm like a sheep.


I personally think it's hilarious. Since I don't get pins saying asexual on them, just the colours. To me, it means she saw my pin before, liked it, googled it and found out if was the LGBT and swiftly despised it.

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I met another ace irl.

Where I work, we can paint or draw designs on our uniforms. I have been wearing an ace pin for a few days now. I got a comment of "nice pin" from another employee. She had a dragon painted on her uniform. I'd seen it before, but it was the first time I've noticed that the dragon was gray, white, black, and purple.

They are out there. Representation matters.

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Hell ya, I aced it
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