I think testosterone is affecting my asexuality?

Ok I don't know if this is the right sub for this, but I'm a transmasc, and am doing HRT.

So I always considered myself a sex favorable assexual, I never really wanted to have sex before but I do enjoy the physical pleasure related to it, so when I started dating I kinda got curious about having sex, and part of me started to crave for it as a way to get even closer to my partner.

But now that I've started taking T, it's getting out of hand, my libido is full time high and I'm almost always thinking about it and about them and it is weird in a way, did I stop being ace because of it? Is this common for High libido ace people?? Is it possible for hormonal changes change a sexuallity like that?

Any input is highly appreciated (also I'm not entirely sure if I'm using the right flair for this sorry)

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Are there any non-obvious signs of asexuality?

I've been questioning being asexual for a while, but I still feel confused. Were there any subtle signs of asexuality that helped you guys figure that out, beside the tought "I wouldn't like to have sex"?

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Looking for some insight

I just want to get some input on this from people who are asexual potentially like me. At least I think I am to a degree anyway. I almost never fantasize about penetrative sex. When I I have tried watching that sort of p*** it almost always repulses and overwhelms me. I only ever had sex like that twice, both times felt really traumatic. However I'm not sure if it's because I'm not capable of enjoying that or if it's because I just wasn't attracted to the person I had that sort of sex with. The main thing I have enjoyed that can be defined as sex is receiving a handjob with lots of eye contact.

Aside from that I got really obsessed with a couple king stuff all under the umbrella of BDSM. Don't feel like it's relevant to share with those are. But suffice to say I'm way more interested in BDSM than any sort of sex.

The main point I'm curious about is if anyone can relate to my experiences with pantry of sex. Not being sure from capable of enjoying it very rarely I have fantasized about it with only very few women. But I'm not sure. Would it feel traumatic and overwhelming if I merely wasn't attracted to the women? Or would I only feel that way if I was a sexual and not capable of enjoying those sensations because I fundamentally find them overwhelming. Just hoping someone can relate to this and share some insight.

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Most of the characters that you fantasize about are human?

Let me write it better:

I'm curious if most of the characters that you fantasize about are:

a)Characters that a actor/actress are interpreting
b)Characters in a game, anime or other time of media (so they are a draw or similar)
c)Characters that you imagine like in a book or that you create in your mind
d)A celeb - like a singer, influencer etc

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US-based & 18+? Participate in research on sexual and romantic needs 🧠

Hey everyone — posting with mod approval :)

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How do I go about telling my girlfriend im Ace?

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (18F) just became official and I don't know how to bring up me being Ace. I know I should of talked to her about it when we were just dating but I could never figure out how to say it or the right time to. If anyone has advice it would be greatly appreciated.

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I about fell outa my chair when she described herself.
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Personal definition of difference between platonic & romantic

Hey y'all,

I was hoping to hear, with a degree of specificity, how you personally identify the difference between a platonic and romantic relationship AND the same question as regards to the difference between platonic and romantic attraction. I've been really contemplating this concept in the last twelve months or so and it feels like mainstream culture can't figure this one out as well as it like to think it can. Wondering if there's going to be any consistency here.

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Is there a word for like, 100% ace, 80% aro, 20% homoromantic?

I'm sex-repulsed, and I've never felt physical attraction. I do think I've experienced a small amount of romantic attraction, but it's different from how I see romance described - an ideal relationship for me would basically be a best friend and a really deep emotional connection, and then the only traditionally-romantic things I'm interested in are like, hugging, or the sorts of activities that could be called dates (like a walk on the beach or a trip to the zoo, things "just friends" could do but generally don't), or quiet moments like maybe watching a movie next to each other with a bowl of popcorn. Specifically with the same gender.

Is there a label for this? I mostly say I'm aroace because it'a 90% right in one word, but it's also not entirely correct

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What is the weirdest reaction you have gotten when you told some?

I got "but you are too attractive to be sexual" once and i still do not know what that was supposed to mean. what is the most confusing response you have received

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Starting a relationship w/ low attraction

I’m in my early 20s and have never been in a relationship. I do want to be in one some day, but i don’t know how to go about it when i feel pretty much neutral towards everyone on the romantic/sexual side of things.

I think i might be demi-sexual? If thats the right term. I think i need to actively choose a person in order to feel that attraction.

The thing is; someone told me they really like me. I don’t know what to do about it. I feel like I’m essentially choosing if I want to be this persons life partner, and it’s really intimidating.

Also; if I’m anything like I am with friendship, then I’ll be overly loyal? Idk I feel like there’s no turning back on my side xD I don’t have the attraction metric to know if it’s the right fit. He’s really nice and I like being his friend :)

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Is my partner’s behavior because he’s asexual?

My long term partner started identifying with being asexual from time to time for a few years now. I’m also part of the lgbtqia+ community and as much as I’d like to understand and respect his boundaries, I’ve recently realized I’m struggling with not taking it personally sometimes. So without me intending any kind of offend or disrespect, would you find these examples within the ace experience?

if a couple are cuddling and are kind of close with each other and he is physically turned on but doesn’t initiate or rejects the idea of having sex?

If it extends to other areas of physical touch and intimacy like say hugging or caressing? My partner tells me he doesn’t feel anything when we hug and that it doesn’t bring him any good feelings.

That he says he prefers masturbation because engaging with another person isn’t hassle-free and he has to consider the other person and it’s too much work?

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My aunt said I should get married

Hi, I'm 22 years old.

I'm half Mexican, half white.

All throughout my life, it felt like my whole identity was split.
I'm half race, I like both genders (like bisexual) but I have little to no attraction to actual people (asexual).

I'm confused about everything in general, but all of this causes nothing but troubles fitting in with "normal" people with their attraction radars working. I just felt...broken at birth. My radar never really worked.

My tía was talking to my mom the other day on the phone, and I said a quick,"Hi." I haven't seen her in years. And she told me I should get married before it's over.

I've never even been in a relationship, and I have little interest in one. But after this...I feel even more broken.

I never want to get pregnant and have to worry about feeling awkward to do normal "se" acctivies with my partner without feeling naked down to my soul and feel like throwing up while doing said acctivies.

...I already struggle with my mental health, and this is really weighing me down. I can't stop thinking about what she said.
It makes me feel more like an alien (abnormal) than usual.

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Is it still ace to want "sexual activities" but not actual sex?

Well as the title says, im ace,have been labeling myself as such for years now ,and i never had as much as a crush (even on fictional characters) until i was sixteen .
I've only ever had two crushes on two people so far .and after a couple of months of these crushes developing I started feeling attracted to these guys (no overlapping)
But even with the attraction the idea of sex still feels repulsive to me,and on some days tolerable.but I don't want it,I don't want anything taht can be considered "sex" it feels so disgusting to me.
But i want some things,like making out and what not that can lean over the "sexual activities" area
(I don't consider myself demiasexual cus I don't feel sexual attraction to people after i get to know them,just these two,I consider it as a "exeptions" of a sort)

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