Friend denies the fact that I'm ace and idk what to do about it.
So I have been out as ace for awhile (as in putting ace flag stickers on my stuff and wearing an ace pin) and like yesterday my friend(f bi) asked me for markers from my backpack. I didn't have any markers and she has this thought that I have a "straight guy backpack" and must be straight. When I tell her that I'm ace she just says "You haven't discovered the female gender yet" and like I tell her I take offense to this but she just repeats that and stuff. I don't like like thus cuz it makes me feel invalid but idk what to do can someone help?
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So I have been out as ace for awhile (as in putting ace flag stickers on my stuff and wearing an ace pin) and like yesterday my friend(f bi) asked me for markers from my backpack. I didn't have any markers and she has this thought that I have a "straight guy backpack" and must be straight. When I tell her that I'm ace she just says "You haven't discovered the female gender yet" and like I tell her I take offense to this but she just repeats that and stuff. I don't like like thus cuz it makes me feel invalid but idk what to do can someone help?
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Arophobia in this sub
Maybe I'm overreacting, but I'm once again shocked by how arophobic some people here are.
I feel like many don't realize arophobia isn't just hating on aromantic folks, but also stereotyping them or implying there was a "right" way to be aro.
Almost every time I mention being an allosensual/touch-favorable aromantic here I get bombarded with downvotes. I could do something as harmless as pointing out that touch-aversion isn't the same as aromanticism or that aromantic people can, in fact, like and desire "romantic" things like kissing, and for some reason people absolutely HATE that, while comments attacking those are applauded and upvoted.
There is no "right" or "wrong" way to be aromantic. Some are romance-favorable and like "romantic" (romance-coded) gestures, others are -repulsed or -averse and dislike them, and again others are -repulsed/-averse, yet do like them because they don't perceive them as romantic - I made that clear in my comments and still got attacked and downvoted, but I am the ahole for stating a fact?
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Maybe I'm overreacting, but I'm once again shocked by how arophobic some people here are.
I feel like many don't realize arophobia isn't just hating on aromantic folks, but also stereotyping them or implying there was a "right" way to be aro.
Almost every time I mention being an allosensual/touch-favorable aromantic here I get bombarded with downvotes. I could do something as harmless as pointing out that touch-aversion isn't the same as aromanticism or that aromantic people can, in fact, like and desire "romantic" things like kissing, and for some reason people absolutely HATE that, while comments attacking those are applauded and upvoted.
There is no "right" or "wrong" way to be aromantic. Some are romance-favorable and like "romantic" (romance-coded) gestures, others are -repulsed or -averse and dislike them, and again others are -repulsed/-averse, yet do like them because they don't perceive them as romantic - I made that clear in my comments and still got attacked and downvoted, but I am the ahole for stating a fact?
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Have you ever gotten "the event" whenever you question yourselves?
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Blind Demi/Ace woman having no success at dating
I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, both Ace, friendly and generic, but I have had zero luck at finding even someone to go on a simple date with. I am 39 years old, female, and I have been told that I am very attractive. Unfortunately, the only places where I have had even a tiny bit of success was on Tinder, where men would complement my appearance and we would chat about interests and things for a while, I would share with them that I am demisexual and they would say it’s OK. But, a couple days to a week later, I always receive a message asking me to have sex with them. I’m not sure if I am only finding people who really just don’t get it when I explain what I am or if I just have really bad luck with finding genuine, honest men. Or, maybe my expectations are too high. I started started this journey identifying as asexual, but have recently revised my label to demisexual to try and increase my chances of finding someone, plus I think I would be OK with physical intimacy once a firm and solid relationship was established. But, it seems like the men all of the men I’ve been talking to want to jump straight into bed with me. Please give me advice on what I should do and where I should be looking. By the way, I have also tried a couple of the asexual dating apps, but because of my blindness, I have difficulty using them because it seems that these apps have not been developed with accessibility in mind.
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I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, both Ace, friendly and generic, but I have had zero luck at finding even someone to go on a simple date with. I am 39 years old, female, and I have been told that I am very attractive. Unfortunately, the only places where I have had even a tiny bit of success was on Tinder, where men would complement my appearance and we would chat about interests and things for a while, I would share with them that I am demisexual and they would say it’s OK. But, a couple days to a week later, I always receive a message asking me to have sex with them. I’m not sure if I am only finding people who really just don’t get it when I explain what I am or if I just have really bad luck with finding genuine, honest men. Or, maybe my expectations are too high. I started started this journey identifying as asexual, but have recently revised my label to demisexual to try and increase my chances of finding someone, plus I think I would be OK with physical intimacy once a firm and solid relationship was established. But, it seems like the men all of the men I’ve been talking to want to jump straight into bed with me. Please give me advice on what I should do and where I should be looking. By the way, I have also tried a couple of the asexual dating apps, but because of my blindness, I have difficulty using them because it seems that these apps have not been developed with accessibility in mind.
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Questions regarding sex life
Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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What is with ppl always assuming paper rolls in bed are for something sexual?
I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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