The girl i like is asexual

Hi everyone, I really like this girl shes asexual and I'd say I'm more demisexual BUT I do not care about sex like i can enjoy a relationship without it. We recently both told eachother that we have feelings but I would like to know what would trigger an asexual so I can avoid ever making her feel uncomfortable, obviously I know not to say anything sexual or do anything sexual, but I'm wondering if like kisses would make them uncomfortable? What physical contact would make an asexual uncomfortable? I really like her and I want her to feel as safe as possible with me so she doesnt have to worry about thinking I want anything more than to take care of her emotionally

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Am I Aromantic or just dumb?

Hello I'm 23M and for a while I've wondered if I fall somewhere on the Aromantic spectrum. I've sometimes thought of myself as an incel (purely by definition, don't fall into the extreme stuff), but the thing is, it doesn't really make much sense for me describe myself that way. I have had multiple opportunities to get a girlfriend, women have either approached me directly or have given strong hints, all of whom I rejected or ignored.

For the longest time I just brushed it off as me simply not being interested, which is kind of true. More recently I tried reflecting on specifically why I rejected these women, am I just shy? Am I stupid? Do I have too high standards? Or am I just a prick who only cares about looks (probably)?

Then I realized something... I've never really had a crush on anyone. Sure there are women I've been interested in, but only for their looks. There hasn't been a single person I've ever had any interest in dating. Traditional dating itself just sounds boring to me. While there have been a handful of situations where I thought I had some mild romantic attraction, I'm pretty sure those were just squishes.

At the same time I'm not sure if I'm Aromantic, and these are the reasons why:

I don't socialize much, maybe I just haven't met the right person and I need to put myself out there more?
I've long had a porn addiction and I wonder if that's a factor. I've heard it can kill a mans interest in pursuing relationships. At the same time I know there are plenty of people who watch porn and still experience romantic attraction.
While traditional dating doesn't appeal to me, relationship-py things like cuddling do, though I don't know if that counts as a sign that I'm not Aro.
Maybe I have some kind of avoidant attachment problem?

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I don't know if I'm asexual or faking it

I don't know if I'm confused or not but for the past 5+ years the thought of me being asexual until I told an old partner about this whole thing and they said that I fall into asexuality. Since then there is a little thought in the back of my mind telling me that I'm faking it. I've never really found the interest of having sex with anyone even when I did do it I felt guilty and disgusted by my actions. Even when I tell my friends about my fictional crushes and how I can take them like those I don't mind cause I know I'm not ACTUALLY doing it, this also goes for art that commission Im not disgusted by it is just me actually doing it makes me feel that way.The other thing that throws me off is that there are some things that make me feel something but like I don't do anything with it cause I guess I will feel awful about it

idk if I am faking it or it's something else any advice would help

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i really can’t tell what makes something romantic vs sexual

i like the idea of being close to someone, kissing, cuddling, etc. but i hate the idea of having sex with someone. i have heard people categorize kissing and even cuddling as sexual, but that doesn’t make sense to me. Is there some arbitrary distinction or is it really all up to context and personal interpretation?

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i don’t understand my sexuality

sorry for the bad english in advance. i’m new to this world and i’m sure yall get hundreds of these every day but i kinda need some advice. i think i’m straight but every relationship i’ve been in i haven’t fully connected with the girls, even after sexual intercourse with them. i got in relationships with them cause i felt good being around them, but i didn’t fully feel a huge romantic interest. looking back at my past relationships i feel like an asshole for being maybe too cold. rn i’m single and i don’t feel the urge to get in a relationship nor i feel particularly attracted to anyone. i probably worded it bad idk if y’all will understand me but i could use some advice on how to better figure out my sexuality. i haven’t had any relationship with guys nor i feel attracted to them, and i might just be a weird straight guy, but thank you all in advance

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Sex and Self Esteem

I've only realized fairly recently that allos tend to tie sex to their own self esteem. If their partner (or indeed a stranger) doesn't want to have sex with them for ANY reason, they take it personally. If it happens a lot, they begin to doubt themselves. Being considered sexually attractive and desirable is really important to them and can result in real feelings of anger, insecurity and despair if it doesn't happen.

Self esteem issues are also a major driver behind hook ups and affairs.

So I'm wondering, where do us asexuals fit in this? There are people here (including myself) who actively resent being considered sexually attractive. But is this universal? If someone finds you sexually attractive (regardless of your attitude to sex itself) does that boost your self esteem? Or do you resent it or are you just neutral?

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Hey brain, what the hell? (Cool character designs from Pinterest as compensation)

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Intrusive thoughts

I’ve been getting intrusive sexual thoughts lately and it’s making me feel disgusting- and it’s making me question myself and my sexuality- it sucks and I just want these gross thoughts to stop. Any advice-?

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What would you tell them?

Hey guys! Next year, I will take part in a pageant and my platform is asexuality visibility and hypersexualisation awareness. For me, they go hand in hand. I consider myself as a simply asexual person.

To help me raise awareness I am slowly writing a « diary » that will be available online for people to read for free, just so people know we exist, but also our reality.

I am curious. If you could say anything to allosexual people, to people that say that sex sells and that’s why there is so much sexuality everywhere, or whatever, what would you tell them? I would love to give a voice to our community, but I know my reality isn’t the same as others.

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Was banned from r/truths for being Asexual

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Made a post, was removed, I debated it via DM, they banned me for the DM. Please report this subreddit for Anti LGBTQ!!!

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Intrusive thoughts

I’ve been getting intrusive sexual thoughts lately and it’s making me feel disgusting- and it’s making me question myself and my sexuality- it sucks and I just want these gross thoughts to stop. Any advice-?

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