made an ace flag of energy drinks cans
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Inspired by a recent thread about words allos use for dirty stuff
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How to turn off dating ads
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I was typing Fiancé and autocorrect kept correcting it to Finances

Does it suspect I am ace.

Disclaimer: I know there are aces in relationships and who have Fiancé. Don’t come at me just for fun.

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what it's like to watch a movie as an asexual person and an 18+ scene comes on
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“Recognizing Beauty Is Human. Being Gay Is Me.
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I quilted an asexual flag colored korean-ish wrapping cloth (bojagi) for my half-korean, fully asexual friend.

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She's a different kind of asexual. Damnit...

So I met my primary partner about 3 months ago and it's been great. When we first hooked up we realized we were both sex favorable aces which was great. Not always in the mood and when our "ace cycles" don't align were understanding. I'm cold at first but I become very affectionate when I get close to someone. Kissing hand holding etc, sans PDA, as it still gets to me.

For awhile I've felt like the physical affection has been one sided, though there's plenty of other types that I have in spades. Today was different. I learned the other day that kissing can easily overstimulated her and I've been trying to be conscious of it. We kissed and when we stopped I tried to peck her cheek, like i normally do, and that was a mistake. She (understandably) freaked out thinking I was trying to kiss her lips and pushed me off and got very upset. I took full responsibility, apologized and did everything i could think of to right my wrong. She forgave me immediately.

She got out of my car and we've been talking over the past few hours. She finally admitted to being afraid of physical affection and said it was part of her asexuality. I don't understand how it works but I don't need to know either, I can respect it. But now I'm worried we're not compatible. I agreed I'd let her initiate all physical things but I don't know if i can handle that in the long term. I feel like I'm falling into some bad patterns again (yay trauma) and that scares me. I don't know what to do. I love her, but I have my own needs to feel like I'm in a healthy relationship that probably won't be met.

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I wish someone would
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I’m lesbian and asexual

So, I’m lesbian but I’ve had some trauma in the past so I don’t want to have sex. I love my girlfriend a lot, but I just don’t want to have sex with her but I still want to kiss her (probably), do any other asexuals kiss and not have sex?

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Having any libido is just hell

I wish I could go back to my previous antidepressants, but they had other unfortunate side effects, and medical practitioners seem to think anything that would reduce it must be a horrible thing.

I hate it, it's not even like a need so much as it's like intrusive thoughts. I don't want myself involved in any way in anything sexual for various reasons but I still get stupid compulsions where I get stuck on it like I frequently do on passing thoughts. I hate masturbation, it's so unproductive and bothersome but it's the only way to get rid of this shit in the moment, even if I'll be actively disgusted by it.

Like, why, it's not like it serves any evolutionary purpose in my case, I have no intention of ever reproducing. And there's absolutely nothing to be done about it. One more reason I fucking hate so much as having a body at all.

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Advice requested. I believe my girlfriend is asexual.

We've been dating 3-4 months and love each other. I'm 26 M she's 23 F, i've dated many women and never had this level of emotional intimacy ever.


We both find each other very physically attractive. But she is not a physically affectionate person. She is often uncomfortable with hugs. She has never liked making out. And she was a virgin prior to meeting me. I'm the first person she ever wanted to try having sex with. She previously had a deep fear of intimacy.


She thinks she might be bisexual. She is diagnosed with bipolar disorder and is on medication which may suppress her libido. She has been sexually aroused during masturbation but never with another person. We waited 3 months before trying anything sexually and we've now explored several PIV positions, oral stimulation, fingering, vibrators, combinations of these, and unfortunately nothing has made her feel anything beyond a little ticklish. We laugh and have fun while doing it, crack up every time one of us tries to dirty talk lol. And she really wants to explore this stuff for herself and try to make it work for me because she's told me she feels the same way I do about our relationship. I communicated to her that I am in no rush for anything sexually but she has initiated sex several times now and she tries so hard to make it enjoyable for me.


I just worry that going forward a sex life with her might not be sustainable if I'm the only one who's getting any sexual arousal from it. And honestly it's actually difficult for me to really get into it when I'm constantly thinking about her difficulties with sex in the moment.

Any suggestions for how we should navigate this? She is my number 1 priority I've never cared this much for a person in my whole life so I would never forgive myself if this was hurting her in any way physically or mentally. But it would be so meaningful if we could find a way to have a healthy sex life together, she wants it so badly for us. She's told me she's felt safe and had fun every time we've done it but I worry if it might not be as fun for her after it's not new to her anymore if she's still not getting close to climaxing.

EDIT: The thing she said that made me think she might have some form of asexual nature is that she has difficulty being sexually aroused when she's with another person. It's almost like it distracts her because it takes the focus off of her own pleasure.

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Sex is everywhere and it sucks.

This is more like a rant, but I coudn't find a "rant" flair so I just used the vent one. Anyway. I've been trying to find a show to watch for days now. One that makes me stay up late just to see the next episode. Problem? Sex, sex, sex. Everywhere. All I can find is stuff like, "The year I started masturbating." Come again?

I clicked on a show earlier, the description said it was about teenagers having to survive by themselves. First few seconds of the show? Some guy kissing a girl's neck while she moans. (Yes, this isn't sex, but it's sexual, and I dislike anything sexual). I'm not surprised sex is everywhere, I'm just saying it's annoying and I can't stop seeing it in every show I click on. It's not even a romance show that I clicked on and yet it still has sexual content.

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finally realizing I am most likely asexual because of having a partner... not sure what to do because I don't like being lonely either.

I've always mildly suspected I was ace but I never felt 100% sure because i haven't really dated anyone forever...And for the longest time I felt really bad about being alone all the time and stuff.

well now some things happened and there's a person who is into me and we did stuff and I'm not sure what to feel about it. she's very nice but she wants to constantly be touching me, lots of PDA's (which i find embarassing tbh).

I don't like kissing at all, at best I find it boring at worst I find it gross (like please don't put your tongue there!). She'll like want to grab me and make out for what feels like hours and usually I'm just thinking about how I'd rather be doing literally anything else, and waiting for it to be over, when it is I will feel very fatigued. or she'll be squeezing me or be on top of me, and it's just physically painful. had sex once and at first I didn't feel anything and disassociated and then it got very overstimulating and i didn't like it and i cried.



I am not sure how to tell her this because I feel like I don't really want to disappoint anyone, and she seems nice. I mostly go along with it because she seems to enjoy it and also I feel like I don't want to be alone forever. But it's so overwhelming and I feel like I don't know what to do.

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Everything going as planned
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lizard snacks > lizard boobs
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Anyone else feel not apart of the queer community?

For the record I am sex repulsed and this feeling is based around that a LOT so.

The LGBT community has always been intertwined with sex and I do believe that’s a good thing. But a lot of the time it feels like (not that it’s necessarily true) there’s no space for people like me. Not really anyways.
Like it’s either kid-friendly or “Puritan”(puriteen. I hate that word) or uwu-core(and mocked) and there’s NOTHING else. There’s nothing adult without sex and that’s true for the majority of everything ever but like. Idk.

I just can’t think of somewhere I can go without getting that Pit of Dread in my stomach from mentions of sex. I’ve been feeling very disconnected from the community lately at this revelation. In the future I think I’m. Just gonna try to find asexual spaces EXPLICITLY. there’s nowhere For me here.

Maybe this makes sense or maybe I’m 100% delusional. Let me know. heart emoji
I might edit this later if a better way to word it comes to mind.

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