Dating as a sex repulsed hopeless romantic… impossible
I F21, have tried dating but the fact that I’m ace and sex repulsed had always been the defining factor. I would get the response “I’ll just have to change that” or what I say is just completely undermined regardless of how many times I bring it up. I understand sex is essential to most relationships but then how can I actually find someone in the real world that feels a similar way or respects the way I feel? I tried an ace dating app but there was no one really on the site and no one was close to my age or close to my area. I gave up on normal dating apps as well bc the ace tag is honestly useless. Plus it can be so exhausting to explain every time that I am sex repulsed. Especially to people who don’t understand asexuality. Plus if I were in a relationship where it was open, I’d worry about how the person I am dating would fall out of love with me and move on. I know often times sex is also synonymous with love and I would never want to stop someone from having sex bc they’re in a relationship with me. I honestly really give up on dating, it just sucks feeling so alone and isolated bc of my orientation.
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I F21, have tried dating but the fact that I’m ace and sex repulsed had always been the defining factor. I would get the response “I’ll just have to change that” or what I say is just completely undermined regardless of how many times I bring it up. I understand sex is essential to most relationships but then how can I actually find someone in the real world that feels a similar way or respects the way I feel? I tried an ace dating app but there was no one really on the site and no one was close to my age or close to my area. I gave up on normal dating apps as well bc the ace tag is honestly useless. Plus it can be so exhausting to explain every time that I am sex repulsed. Especially to people who don’t understand asexuality. Plus if I were in a relationship where it was open, I’d worry about how the person I am dating would fall out of love with me and move on. I know often times sex is also synonymous with love and I would never want to stop someone from having sex bc they’re in a relationship with me. I honestly really give up on dating, it just sucks feeling so alone and isolated bc of my orientation.
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tim gunn, who started the todd fashion trend, is also asexual
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One of my psychiatrists said I am asexual because of my extreme arrogance
I once visited a psychiatrist maybe I was 20 at that time. I desire sex and have had sex with more than 50 men in my life, all hook-ups. I have had sexual encounters with women as well. But I do not feel physically attracted to anyone. I do feel pleasure during sex but I do not feel sexually attracted to any man or woman regardless of how attractive they are.
When I asked my psychiatrist about this, he said that I am extremely arrogant and put myself above the rest of humanity. He said I think being attracted to someone while they are not attracted to me feels like disrespect. He said I have filled my mind with so many ideas of superiority that I protect myself with maladaptive mechanisms. He even said I am narcissistic about my narcissism.
Does it make sense?
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I once visited a psychiatrist maybe I was 20 at that time. I desire sex and have had sex with more than 50 men in my life, all hook-ups. I have had sexual encounters with women as well. But I do not feel physically attracted to anyone. I do feel pleasure during sex but I do not feel sexually attracted to any man or woman regardless of how attractive they are.
When I asked my psychiatrist about this, he said that I am extremely arrogant and put myself above the rest of humanity. He said I think being attracted to someone while they are not attracted to me feels like disrespect. He said I have filled my mind with so many ideas of superiority that I protect myself with maladaptive mechanisms. He even said I am narcissistic about my narcissism.
Does it make sense?
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Sex-repulsed while being both romantic and sensual definitely causes some problems
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Better than Sex: Ace Edition
Living in the world where sex is seen as peak pleasure is odd. I have like a million of things that feel better than sex. Here is my incomplete list in no particular order:
That moment of pure presence
That first sip of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee or tea
Reading a book so good you forget time exists
Ice-cold water when you’re thirsty
Finding forgotten money in an old pocket
Falling down youtube music rabbit holes
Falling down rabbit holes of trailers so good you don’t even care about the movies anymore
A warm hug from someone you love
Laughing till your stomach hurts
All green lights on the way home
Getting into clean sheets after a hot shower
Someone you love remembering the little things
Writing or drawing and losing track of time
Feeling weightless floating on water
Sun on your face on a cold day
Flipping your pillow to the good side
What feels better than sex for you?
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Living in the world where sex is seen as peak pleasure is odd. I have like a million of things that feel better than sex. Here is my incomplete list in no particular order:
That moment of pure presence
That first sip of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee or tea
Reading a book so good you forget time exists
Ice-cold water when you’re thirsty
Finding forgotten money in an old pocket
Falling down youtube music rabbit holes
Falling down rabbit holes of trailers so good you don’t even care about the movies anymore
A warm hug from someone you love
Laughing till your stomach hurts
All green lights on the way home
Getting into clean sheets after a hot shower
Someone you love remembering the little things
Writing or drawing and losing track of time
Feeling weightless floating on water
Sun on your face on a cold day
Flipping your pillow to the good side
What feels better than sex for you?
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Sounds like the perfect vibe. No distracting nudity, just delicious food
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The majority thinks we will be wiped first, what are y'all's thoughts?
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hypersexuality?
hii im new here^^ i wish this post doesnt violate any rule (i already read them all) but is it possible that i've felt ace pretty much my whole life but at some point also developed hypersexuality due to trauma? let me know:3
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hii im new here^^ i wish this post doesnt violate any rule (i already read them all) but is it possible that i've felt ace pretty much my whole life but at some point also developed hypersexuality due to trauma? let me know:3
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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?
Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?
Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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