Basically sums up my personal community theater experience
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My personal experiences in community theater
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I’m dating an Asexual person I need advice

I (29M) started dating this person (29F). To me, she’s the most beautiful, smartest woman, the one I see in my future. From the moment I saw her, I knew I was in love with her. When we started dating, she told me she was asexual. My understanding of asexuality wasn’t very clear (and still isn’t), and I kind of panicked. After she told me that, on our second date I didn’t hold her hand or kiss her because I didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. But then she told me she actually likes kisses, cuddling, and holding hands.

My dilemma now is that I don’t fully understand what asexuality is. For me, sex isn’t that important because I feel intimacy goes beyond sex, and in many cases sex can even damage relationships. But I don’t know how to behave with her. I don’t understand the asexual spectrum, and I’d love advice on how to navigate this. Could someone explain what being asexual means and what it’s like being in a relationship with someone who is asexual? What should I ask her, and what should we be talking about?

Also, after doing some research, I think I might be demisexual. But all of this has become kind of confusing, and I really want clarity so I can love this person in the best way possible


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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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Do you ever feel bad about having genitals?

Hi!

I actually identify as demisexual, but I think this is more on the asexual side of the spectrum.

For additional context, I am a 26 years old cis male. I don’t identify strongly with my gender nor do I really care about acting masculine or being perceived as such, but I do consider myself a man.

When I was growing up, I would occasionally resent having genitalia. I found myself wishing I just didn’t have it. I don’t think I wanted to transition to another gender, I think I just wished my body itself was asexual.

Two years ago, I got to feel sexual attraction for the first (and so far, only) time in my life. While I had someone to be attracted to, I felt a lot better about my body and my sexuality. That person eventually ghosted me and those feelings faded.

Today, I’m having some kind of crisis. I feel like my body itself is kinda gross for having genitals, if that makes sense? I think there is some sort of male guilt mixed into it, as I often have conflicting or negative thoughts about male sexuality.

Sorry, this is kind of a rambling post, but if anyone has similar feelings or thoughts to share, I would be happy to read them.

Thank you for reading.

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I posted a snippet of a book I'm reading another day, here's allege passage
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Am I asexual?

Am I asexual?
Hi so I’m new here and not sure how much sense this will make but this is the first time even writing anything like this.

I’m so confused! I’m in a long term relationship and have only just now thought about my sexuality after having a breakdown. I’ve never been that bothered about having sex in regard to the “sexual attraction” side of it. Before my current relationship I’ve only ever had sex once out of choice and it just didn’t feel right. Like I couldn’t enjoy it if I tried. IF I do have sex with my partner it’s for the pleasure of them and to feel connected more than anything. I’m more for cuddling and words of affirmation and could easily go without sex no doubt about it. We’ve spoken about it and my partner explained that sex isn’t a deal breaker for them and it never will be because they love me. But I still have the fear of him leaving… I’m so confused! Any help / advice will be very much appreciated!

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So apparently looking nice means you have a crush on someone now?

So, at school a teacher asked me if I had a crush on someone because I've been styling my hair. Luckily she believed me when I said no. The other one I heard said I probably have a crush on a friend who's taken. Ong I hate it when people make assumptions about shit like this. It just feels rude and in their business. It's like asking a random woman if she's pregnant or not.

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no one can know.
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How do y’all feel about sex in general?

Hey y’all! I’m aromantic, pansexual and very much hypersexual. I very much love sex, but my best friend, who is asexual, is the opposite where they said that they feel repulsed by being involved in sex. It just leads me to wonder how people on the aro or ace spectrum feel about sex. Is it complicated or just pretty simple? I like learning about people feelings about it cuz I just like hearing about people different from me

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Can YOU do better???
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i keep having sexual dreams even though im repulsed by it😕

hi, im only 16 but im asexual, and have been ever since i knew what sex was, but i keep having dreams about sex and i hate it so much!! just last night i had a dream where i was having sex multiple times and i woke up feeling disgusted with myself, angry with myself and i just dont know why it keeps happening!! even in my dreams im not enjoying it but it happens anyway?? its so uncomfortable especially because when i wake up i feel like a pervert😖 why does this keep happening even though i hate it?! its like my dreams like making me suffer😭

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I appreciate you all but like 80% of my friends are ace and I'd like a bit more diversity in there so could you please ease up on it a bit

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How long until you can identify as Ace?

Had to block someone on this sub right now because they said that people who are newly Ace don't really count as Ace because they don't understand Ace suffering.

So is there a waiting period after identifying as Ace before you can call yourself Ace, or is there a requisite amount of suffering before you're properly Ace as they seemed to believe?

(They also said you become Ace and seem to believe it's not something you're born as. I know some people can become Ace from trauma, but that's different.)

Edit: if you down voted this, person I'm talking about, stop gatekeeping. The other Ace sub is right there and waiting.

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Problems with my project to put up 100 asexual flags in Denmark
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I'm a little frustrated

As the title suggests I'm a little frustrated with the asexual community. I've seen quite a few posts of people asking if SA trauma can cause asexuality and a lot of comments saying "no it can't that's not asexuality that's just trauma" and completely invalidating the persons feelings. On the other hand I've seen some comments saying "yes I believe it can be caused by trauma but some people are just asexual because that's simply how they feel." which I really appreciated cause I feel they didn't try to invalidate anyone. The reason this frustrates me so much is because, whatever your opinion is I'm not judging you, it can be caused by that type of trauma especially CSA(Which I am a victim of) it's called caedsexual(it is a subdivision of asexual) and it literally means that you are asexual as a result of some type of trauma usually SA related. I'm not saying you have to be traumatized in order to be asexual but that doesn't mean that someone can't be asexual as a result of it. Idk I guess I'm just frustrated I know not everyone in the asexual community is likethat but still it's frustrating to see this in a community that is so diverse and usually pretty understanding of peoples situation.

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My average TikTok experience now
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1mwefhc

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Ace pride dragon shield art by me! (:

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My average TikTok experience now

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