Ok sooooo, does anyone dislike it when a specific sentence or words that are used sexually?
Now first off, im not saying that ppl who uses sexually are bad ( which idk why it would be bad ) bc DUH. Its okay if you do it
But i am talking abt how a specific word or sentence is so overused as a sexual meaning to the point that it can’t be seen as something else yk.
For like example, how ppl describe sexual attraction. And yes sexual attraction is sexual. Its in the name. But im talking abt how ppl describe sexual attraction.
They always say that it means that you want to be close with someone and that is it.
No clear explanation. Just being close with someone ( i even heard someone online saying sexual attraction is wanting to be close with someone. Even if its just innocent cuddles and kisses. Its sexually intended….bro, i know my dating pool is gonna be non-existent. Which most of the Time i don’t mind being single. But cmon man, i can still want some romance without sex )
Which i never got it bc ppl can want to feel close to someone but its not sexually intended or used for that.
So i thought being close to someone could mean anything. Could be sexual, sensual, emotional, ETC.
Its ok wanting to be close to someone sexually. You can if you want to Idc.
But it always feels like most ppl only want to be close to others that way.
And being close to someone differently is just gonna be misunderstood as ‘’ wanting to lead into sexual acts ‘’
Idk. Maybe its just me ig.
There is also another word that has been used this way too which is ‘’ let me take care of you ‘’ now this word kind of cringes me. Idk why. Especially when its used seductively.
But i do think it could be used non-sexually.
Like saying ‘’ let me take care of you ‘’ emotionally or just caring for someone to not be alone.
Like, i think this could count. Not my personal fav but i still think it could be used in that way.
Its just that i noticed it being used in sexual acts most of the time ( mostly in books, movies or just anywhere tbh )
And AGAIIIINNNNN. Its okay if ppl want to use it that way. Which idk what would be not ok if you do soooo.
You can do whatever you want as long as you are consenting, safe and not hurting anyone
Its just something that i noticed.
And also bc im in an enviorment where if you say something in specific then it should only mean sexual.
Like, if you say you wanna be close to someone they would sometimes make me feel like i should only want it sexual if i say i want them close to me sensually or emotionally. So yeh
Thats the part where i mostly dont like it.
Im not talking abt ppl who uses words in a sexual manner in general but ppl who shoves in it your face and say how its should be used that way and ONLY that way. And shouldnt be thought differently.
So yep. Kind of a rant. Im sorry if my posts sounds bad ( i Hope i dont sound like a puritain…i dont like puritains/sex-negatives. But if i do. I will learn my lesson yk. Im trying to be more careful for what i say bc it would sometimes be misunderstood )
I hope the post is a bit understanding to read and all. Idk if some ppl relate to this. But if you do, would you like to talk abt it?
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Now first off, im not saying that ppl who uses sexually are bad ( which idk why it would be bad ) bc DUH. Its okay if you do it
But i am talking abt how a specific word or sentence is so overused as a sexual meaning to the point that it can’t be seen as something else yk.
For like example, how ppl describe sexual attraction. And yes sexual attraction is sexual. Its in the name. But im talking abt how ppl describe sexual attraction.
They always say that it means that you want to be close with someone and that is it.
No clear explanation. Just being close with someone ( i even heard someone online saying sexual attraction is wanting to be close with someone. Even if its just innocent cuddles and kisses. Its sexually intended….bro, i know my dating pool is gonna be non-existent. Which most of the Time i don’t mind being single. But cmon man, i can still want some romance without sex )
Which i never got it bc ppl can want to feel close to someone but its not sexually intended or used for that.
So i thought being close to someone could mean anything. Could be sexual, sensual, emotional, ETC.
Its ok wanting to be close to someone sexually. You can if you want to Idc.
But it always feels like most ppl only want to be close to others that way.
And being close to someone differently is just gonna be misunderstood as ‘’ wanting to lead into sexual acts ‘’
Idk. Maybe its just me ig.
There is also another word that has been used this way too which is ‘’ let me take care of you ‘’ now this word kind of cringes me. Idk why. Especially when its used seductively.
But i do think it could be used non-sexually.
Like saying ‘’ let me take care of you ‘’ emotionally or just caring for someone to not be alone.
Like, i think this could count. Not my personal fav but i still think it could be used in that way.
Its just that i noticed it being used in sexual acts most of the time ( mostly in books, movies or just anywhere tbh )
And AGAIIIINNNNN. Its okay if ppl want to use it that way. Which idk what would be not ok if you do soooo.
You can do whatever you want as long as you are consenting, safe and not hurting anyone
Its just something that i noticed.
And also bc im in an enviorment where if you say something in specific then it should only mean sexual.
Like, if you say you wanna be close to someone they would sometimes make me feel like i should only want it sexual if i say i want them close to me sensually or emotionally. So yeh
Thats the part where i mostly dont like it.
Im not talking abt ppl who uses words in a sexual manner in general but ppl who shoves in it your face and say how its should be used that way and ONLY that way. And shouldnt be thought differently.
So yep. Kind of a rant. Im sorry if my posts sounds bad ( i Hope i dont sound like a puritain…i dont like puritains/sex-negatives. But if i do. I will learn my lesson yk. Im trying to be more careful for what i say bc it would sometimes be misunderstood )
I hope the post is a bit understanding to read and all. Idk if some ppl relate to this. But if you do, would you like to talk abt it?
https://redd.it/1mur0nb
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Is there any another asexual women out there
I know there is but it seems so hard to find them frm my small town most women here are straight but then again I havent been activity look either but just out curiously is there asexual lesbsin out there like me
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I know there is but it seems so hard to find them frm my small town most women here are straight but then again I havent been activity look either but just out curiously is there asexual lesbsin out there like me
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Questioning
I’ve started questioning myself yesterday. Could i be asexual? This is how i feel: It’s like i dont get a signal sent to me that i’m “horny”. I never looked at people/partners and think “i want to have sex”, it was more like a random decision that was made, and what was expected of me in a relationship. Even with self pleasure, i just randomly decide to do it, which was the biggest indicator to me that i may be asexual. I don’t feel tingly for it or crave it or anything like that. I do enjoy the feel of self pleasure, but i could go the rest of my life without having actual sex with someone with no problem because i just don’t desire it. Self pleasure is like a chore as well for me, just to get it over with. I’ve kinda felt that way about sex in my past relationships too. Like, okay “let’s do this” but i’m ready for it to be over. Also, with self pleasure, i’ve mostly always focused on the outside, rather than any penetration. Lastly, I can admire the aesthetic/look of a human body, but at the same time human bodies are weird to me. Thoughts??
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I’ve started questioning myself yesterday. Could i be asexual? This is how i feel: It’s like i dont get a signal sent to me that i’m “horny”. I never looked at people/partners and think “i want to have sex”, it was more like a random decision that was made, and what was expected of me in a relationship. Even with self pleasure, i just randomly decide to do it, which was the biggest indicator to me that i may be asexual. I don’t feel tingly for it or crave it or anything like that. I do enjoy the feel of self pleasure, but i could go the rest of my life without having actual sex with someone with no problem because i just don’t desire it. Self pleasure is like a chore as well for me, just to get it over with. I’ve kinda felt that way about sex in my past relationships too. Like, okay “let’s do this” but i’m ready for it to be over. Also, with self pleasure, i’ve mostly always focused on the outside, rather than any penetration. Lastly, I can admire the aesthetic/look of a human body, but at the same time human bodies are weird to me. Thoughts??
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I have given up on dating. I'm tired
Last week, I went on a date with a guy. We went bowling, he brought me beautiful flowers, we had fun he respected me, and were really hitting it off.
At least, so I thought.
He just blocked me on all socials. With no reason. Even after saying he was looking forward to a second date.
This happens every time and I'm tired. I'm sick and tired of being taken for granted every time. It's exhausting. I quit dating.
I read all the romance books and watch these romantic movies and shows like "XO Kitty" or "The Summer I Turned Pretty" hoping and wishing and praying for my turn.
But I'm 21 and I have learned life ain't like the movies or books. Love isn't for everyone. And maybe romance just isn't in my cards. That's alright, I'll love myself even more now, more than any man ever could. I'm gonna be just fine. 💜
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Last week, I went on a date with a guy. We went bowling, he brought me beautiful flowers, we had fun he respected me, and were really hitting it off.
At least, so I thought.
He just blocked me on all socials. With no reason. Even after saying he was looking forward to a second date.
This happens every time and I'm tired. I'm sick and tired of being taken for granted every time. It's exhausting. I quit dating.
I read all the romance books and watch these romantic movies and shows like "XO Kitty" or "The Summer I Turned Pretty" hoping and wishing and praying for my turn.
But I'm 21 and I have learned life ain't like the movies or books. Love isn't for everyone. And maybe romance just isn't in my cards. That's alright, I'll love myself even more now, more than any man ever could. I'm gonna be just fine. 💜
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