asexual or dont like myself ?

i dont like sexual activities being performed on me, but i enjoy doing sexual things to other people. i dont understand why, i just dont feel comfortable with it. if anyone knows why that could be or if theres a label for that let me know. thanks!

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how important is the correct identifier to you personally, and why?

maybe it’s because i’m an old-ass person, and late-realized asexual. i’m super comfortable just being asexual, broad as that term may be.

i recognize relationships complicate the matter, to find compatible partners. i also acknowledge self-awareness and answering inner identity belonging. i feel like leaving it fluid allows ME the space to just be, and to accept anyone as they show up.

i dunno, genuinely curious to hear people’s thoughts and learn something on this beautiful saturday.


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Has anyone tried this app yet?
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Hmmmm (I’m too tired to think of a good title)
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I’m honestly glad I’m asexual as well as Butch. There are a lot of things I can’t do despite knowing how to and I wish nothing more I could. At this point I’m just glad for what I can do and people need to get over it. 🖤🙄

I’m honestly glad I’m asexual as well as Butch. There are a lot of things I can’t do despite knowing how to and I wish nothing more I could. At this point I’m just glad for what I can do and people need to get over it. 🖤🙄

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Hey I'm new here but I have questions

So, ive been digging into my sexuality, and i noticed that ive always been repulsed by sex or any of that not-so-good stuff. HOWEVER. I have fetishes and "wiggle my piggle" to certain things, even though I hate sex and the idea of it. Does that mean im not asexual? Im so confused rn, and im hoping the internet actually does something good for once and helps me.

EDIT: I was kinda in a rush making this, so let me add that i am not sexually attracted to anyone. Yeah, I can tell if someone is attractive, but I've never been sexually attracted to anyone. Hope this helps

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Common misconception

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Question about Ace representation

I am blind, and I want to get a keychain to represent and support the asexual community. Could an ace of spades keychain represent asexual? If not ace of spades, what about ace of hearts, clubs or diamonds?

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This subreddit is insane

I went to r/hearmeoutbro (for funnies) and most of it is just them being attracted to something for having a hole (like a cave) and literal body horror. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if the allos are OK like wtf

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A rant on how rotten I think the world is... or I am...

I hate it so much when I'm reading book and it's going all good, plot is plotting. And then weird sentences start to come, hinting on something physical. And it gets worse with every passing letter. I tell myself “It might not happen. The author might skip it. I may be imagining things.” But no, it is what it is. An unsettling s*x scene. And I am disgusted.

I don't know if it's a valid experience but after these scenes I am so much in disbelief that I just roam through the following 2 pages, still unable to process people actually engage in things like that. And more: people read these things without a flicker of an eye, even enjoy it. And then there I am: disgusted and embarrassed.

My most recent read is the The Song of Achilles. I understand it is a coming-of-age story with boys discovering each other and stuff. But I just cannot help but feel so out of place when it comes to those parts (the admiration of each other's bodies and the thing itself).

Sometimes I feel I might be just too prudish or that I just self sabotage myself into thinking I don't like it when I actually do. And that what if my experience is not fitting into the spectrum. I know this is silly but the people telling me “You are not an asexual for sure, look at your writings!” gets into my head. Yes, sometimes I write more intimate scenes but what I noticed is that people read it with a totally different view than I do. They see sexual things into details I would never even think of.

It's like it works for me in imagination when nothing too explicit and real mixes with it. When I think of it as just a blurry memory with no outlines. A vague idea of what it is.

I guess TSOA put me off in a very different way, it did to others...

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Felt this belonged here
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Apparent I am not ace because I think ace people should be allowed to have sex if they want to

Got told today that ace people literally cannot consent and it is always rape and that I am not ace because I believe ace people *can* consent and should be allowed to do what they want.

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My partner is ace and identifies as sex neutral to sex repulsive. This is my first time dating an ace person, how can I be the most mindful of them?

They are also a CSA survivor. Which makes sex even more complicated. They said they do sex as an act of service. How can I be the most mindful of them? Can you please suggest me any resources? I want to know more about the ways ace people get invalidated so I don’t do that

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Does the Kinsey Scale include Asexuality?

I got bored so I felt like taking a Kinsey Scale test, but not a single one that I come across seems to include Asexuality? It’s always talking about who I’m attracted to, slept with, fantasise about etc. but there’s never an answer for just no one???

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Having a period sucks as someone who is ace

Yall I never want children biologically and having a period every month sucks. I don't have side effects when I'm on my period (cramps, stomach aches, etc.) and i empathize with all of you who do. You guys are so strong and I have mad respect for you. I heard menopause sucks even more with hot flashes so womanhood is so lovely in that aspect. Overall I love being a woman WHO LOVES WOMEN (GAYY)

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Pick a number and I’ll give you a song

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just for funsies!

Tell me what you think of my rec!

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Anyone else is sometimes sex repulsed sometimes hypersexual?

I really don't understand why I'm like that, but I can be a completely sex repulsed aegosexual for like two months and then, all of a sudden I'm a super horny hypersexual for a week or two.

I don't understand why I keep switching from aego to Ultra Lesbian.

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Alternative "Hear Me Out List"

So my friends are throwing a party this weekend, and they're all preparing a "hear me out" list. Basically making a list of the most unhinged things or characters that you are attracted to, and trying to justify it to the group.

They don't want me being left out, so have challenged me to come up with my own category to make a list of, since there's literally nothing I'm attracted to. And I plan to rise to this challenge and join in a Hear Me Out game for the first time!

The best we have come up with is "Top five things I want to eat but biology says no" or "Things I think should replace military uniforms".

So looking for some other suggestions on making my own list! What would you make your list based on, if you had to make an Ace Hear Me Out List? All light hearted and goofy topics, please.

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So hot
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