Something I appreciate about my Ace partner even as a allo myself.

Whenever he does something sweet, there's never the sexual ulterior motive.

Today I messaged on my lunch, I was stressed at work. I came home to a kiss and a big cuddle, dinner, buenos, a hot bubble bath and he did the bedtime routine with our Son.



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Recently realized I am asexual and I am freaking out.

I have always noticed that I was different from the people around me. They would be talking about freaky things and when it came to my mind would just go blank and other similar experiences where I was simply just not interested in the topic.

I have only had a single gf so far and we weren’t together for that long so that conversation about sex never came about.

And I eventually came to the realization that I am just asexual. I felt relieved but then I realized that my dating life will be significantly altered now that I know for certain how I feel. How am I going to explain to potential partners that I am asexual? Do I just randomly go “Oh, and btw, we can’t fuck. Sorry!”?


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Can someone be straight and both asexual & aromantic?

I had asked someone who had this in their bio what they meant because by my understanding asexual is lil to no sexual attraction to someone and aromantic is lil to no romantic feelings for someone. When they explained how they said they didn't know much but that he could still be attracted to women and would prefer women? I asked if it would basically be them having a best friend but he said no because there would be feelings involved so now I'm more than confused

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The best kind of bdsm
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Am I really asexual? I also don’t know how to explain it to my bf!

I’ve thought that I was asexual my whole life, and I’ve been together with my bf for around 7 months. He’s not asexual, so recently we decided to try out sex since obviously he wanted to, and I was curious since I’ve never done it. Either way, it felt good, but it’s really like “take it or leave it” kinda thing for me. He enjoyed it so I would do it for him, but he knows that I don’t mind if I do it or not, so it makes him feel as if it’s not mutual? Like, I don’t know how to explain it. I don’t want him to feel that way since it made our bond stronger, and in a way I’m afraid it may die out if he thinks that I don’t enjoy it. I told him I do, but it’s just not something I would go out of my way to have, but I don’t know if he’s convinced.

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Talked with my boyfriend

My boyfriend saw me researching asexuality the other day on my phone, and he asked me about it today. And honestly… it didn’t go well. I didn’t know what to say, because I tried to bring him into a million little thoughts I’ve had for the past little bit—and he told me I kept contradicting myself, and I know I was—but I don’t really understand where I fall in this situation.

I love him, and I know I want to be with him. But now we’re struggling to figure out where we stand. Because he thinks I’ve lied to him about everything. And I don’t know what to do…

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How often do you wear an ace ring? (if you wear one)

Hiii! I only recently discovered what an ace ring was and immediately bought a silicone one. I personally wear it all the time, I adore it. It's cute and means alot to me, I ended up using silicone because a friend of a friend almost got degloved at work (⚠️ trigger warning if you look it up ⚠️) so yea, I'm curious about whether others wear it/wear it as often as I do, considering the 2 aces I've met irl don't even know that the ring was a thing lol.

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The Prefixes of the Split Attraction Model

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When you go to the bar, what is your drink of choice?

Mine is a double shot rum and coke or a mojito depending on how I’m feeling.

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Being accused and my words twisted

Out here they just made asexual extra hard for me lately. I have been through hell and banned from a sub over it. When I typed that I’m ace in a comment they said it violated the rules and completely banned me. Also accused me of things that are really freaky and disgusting. I am completely innocent of those things but yeah they aren’t trying to find real evidence of that.

Taking words out of context is insane and especially when I said I was asexual, I think they don’t know what that means at all. So this is my crucible moment I guess and I am being witch hunted and persecuted. The mods muted me from defending myself also and this seems to extend to other subs as well. The whole post I made was taken out of context backwards literally. I was trying to say this place is not safe and it is proving that it is not in more ways now.

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I believe in solidarity. We are brothers in arms, for we are joined under a common struggle.
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"I have sex with my partner to please them" ...and youre okay with that?

No, really? You're okay with that? You're just describing maintence sex. If a straight woman went and said this about her husband publicly, I can't even imagine the shitstorm that would happen, but for whatever reason it seems to be such a popular view here. Why does the ace person always have to accomidate? Can't the person experiencing the sexual attraction control themselves? There are medications that lower sex drive, but when you bring that up people start accusing you of sex negativity because you think that maybe both people in the relationship should do their part to make it work. I don't understand it.

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Asexuality's affect on gender?

So I've had a lot of curiosity about gender lately and I'm finding it hard to pin down exactly what a gender is supposed to mean or "feel" like. I'm aro/ace and I'd call myself cis-female, based solely on the fact that I feel comfortable with the genitals I was born with (but who grew up constantly dreaming of being a boy-- not feeling like I was, or was supposed to be-- but really wishing that I was because boys seemed to have it better in society).

But I understand that gender identity is beyond the physical, which is why trans people can know that their physicality is wrong, right?

But beyond those biological markers, I don't fully understand how I'd know my gender or how it even matters because any details I've ever seen about it is either relational, or about gender roles and social markers that are purely culture-based.

So I'm wondering if being asexual affects how anyone else views their own gender. To me, a gender label seems almost pointless. It's so heavily a social construct. How do you separate culture from that internal identity?

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Found this but no one are on it yet ;—;
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How would you feel about the possibility of never having sex (possibly again, possibly at all) for the rest of your life?

There’s no right or wrong answer. Where are you on the spectrum between “not a snowball’s chance in hell” and “that would be wonderful” and why? For me its “that would be wonderful”.

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Trump doesn't surprise me anymore

Trump is gradually silencing all voices in the LGBTQ community one step at a time. First he came for the Trans community and now the Bi community. The insane and unconstitutional legislations he is passing mostly regarding transgender rights are a violation of their rights. We need to be louder than ever and stick together, not become more divided. The transphobic and biphobic stances individuals from inside the LGBTQ community share are very disheartening as we not only receive hate from ourselves but people around us already. It always hurts and makes you feel betrayed when the people you think support you do the opposite. When people from the other side comment that Trump isn't taking away our rights, it's such an offensive and insensitive statement. How many LGBTQ youths have taken their lives or have their lives taken away when they had so much potential to do something extraordinary in their lives and make a difference? How many trans brothers and sisters who are victims of a hate crime while.our government turns a blind eye? How many lives must be lost or put in danger for the government to intervene? While so many of us are struggling right now, the rich only care about themselves and their net worth. Is this what America has become? We cannot give in to the powers above us and must fight for our rights as Americans. Is is our duty as the LGBTQ community to support each other instead of bringing each other down. Times like these call for voices of hope to bring us out of the darkness. Yall mean the world to me and I'm so proud of you being here today and making it all this way 💓 If you are struggling and feel alone, I've been there and it does get better. You are so strong, so loved, and so valid even if you don't feel like it. Don'tet those around you bring you down or tell you who you can or can't be. Sending love from your lesbian sister 🏳️‍🌈 https://inmagazine.ca/2025/07/first-it-was-trans-and-queer-now-bisexuals-are-being-erased-in-america/

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