I don’t think he knows that I am Ace but look at what my Grandpa wore at my birthday.
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Choose wisely
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I had Anton, an ace MC from one of my books commissioned for pride month.
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Seriously guys, we aren't at war. You can chill out.
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Pornhub itself has better standards for what ads they show
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I Just did my ACE bass
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I have never felt sexually aroused by a person in real life, yet I do get sexually aroused from fantasies and porn. Am I asexual or just broken/weird?

I (36 M) have never felt sexual attraction to or arousal around a woman (or man) in my entire life. I have felt attracted to women, but I wouldn't describe it as sexual, especially not in the way others describe it. I never feel sexually aroused by a person i am with or have feelings for. My feelings are strictly emotional/romantic and makes me want to establish and maintain a connection with them. But I have never felt the urge to for example kiss someone.

What causes me confusion though is the fact that I can feel sexual arousal from fantasies. I have had sexual fantasies about real and fictional people since I was a teenager, yet I have never actually felt sexual feelings for anyone I privately fantasize about when I am with them for real.

Same with porn, at least porn about scenarios I find arousing.

So basically I find fictional sex arousing, but not the prospect of real actual sex.

I have been conflicted and felt obligated to do things I have seen people do in movies and series with people I like, because I feel like that I what is expected in that situation. But it is never really something I naturally want to do or feel drawn to in anyway. I keep thinking "oh is this the point where I should put my arms around her? Should I kiss her now?" but I don't actually feel an urge to do it. I might feel like hugging and hold people.

That combined with feeling aroused by fantasies and porn makes me feel like I am not asexual, yet when it comes to real people and situations I am uninterested.

Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me? Am I self-repressing? Can I be asexual irl, but sexual in my head? Does that make sense? Am I still asexual?

Does anyone else who is asexual feel aroused by sexual fantasies? Sometimes I wonder if me fantasizing a lot during my teens instead of being with real women, caused me to only be able to get sexually aroused by fantasies, since that was the only thing I experienced and my brain simply cannot associate real people, situations and intimacy with sex. Like, I only really get aroused by situations and scenarios, not people. Yet I cannot remember ever getting aroused by girls even as a teenager. Never. I never had boners in public or around girls or anything. Even before I discovered porn and begun fantasizing more.

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Friend insists I should identify as apothisexual instead of asexual

Title. Look -- personally, I don't care about microlabels. If they work for you, that's cool, I don't need to understand it to repect it, they're just not for me. This isn't an attack on apothisexuals either.

The other day I was having a conversation with a moot (it was a local aspec meet and greet) and the topic turned towards discussing our attitudes towards sex. Pretty typical stuff.

At some point I mentioned I was sex-positive, but firmly sex-repulsed. My friend then threw, "Oh, so you're apothisexual!" and I squirmed for a bit before correcting her that I don't really identify as such. They asked me why, and I was getting confused. Like, idk, I just don't? I'm asexual. Why do I need another label to indicate I'm sex-repulsed? It's enough for most allos with surface-level knowledge of the community, in my experience at least.

I tell them this and they shot back with "well, aces can still have sex, you know" and BOY when I heard that it's like I aged a hundred years o<-< (EDIT: and yes before anyone says anything, I do know that being ace does not mean not having/unable to have sex.)

Again, I told them that I personally don't see the need to claim apothisexual as a label. Isn't it enough to say I'm asexual? Not for them apparently, because they proceeded to go on a mini-lecture of how we should be more clearer to others so as to be more inclusive and avoid confusion (???) At this point I was too irritated to listen properly. They're a nice person, really, but suffice to say I left that meet and greet tired and unwilling to go to another one anytime soon lol

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If only my 14 year old self knew
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Do I have to come out??

I've known I'm ace since ever and recently I've 'discover' that I'm also aro.
The point is, I never told my parents or anyone in my family that I am, actually only my two best friends know, but I have never feel like it is a necessity to told them, is not like I was a lesbian or something that they would have to 'deal' (I mean that they had to make themselves the Idea to see me with a girlfriend and all that shit) or accept, is (basically) that I'm not interested at all in dating nor everything that it entails.
And is not like I hide it, I just feel super uncomfortable talking about sexuality with my family, sometimes is a little bit tiring the "Where's the boyfriend?" Or "When is the boyfriend coming?" Or similar cuestión, tho I just answer "Why the hell would I want a boyfriend?" Then they ask exactly the same but with girlfriend, and I answer exactly the same but with girlfriend, And they look quite happy with that answer.

But the point is, sorry I went off on a tangent, Even if it would stop some uncomfortable questions I don't feel like it be such a matter to have to come out, you know what I mean? But sometimes I feel that maybe I should, and I don't know what to do anymore.

So, do I have to come out?? It would really be coming out?? My head's a mess.

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Ace doodle 🖤🤍💜
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Just showing my mothman asexual and my inugami wolf spirit with asexual colors enameled pins on my grave digger hat

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Ace doodle 🖤🤍💜
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i hated sex and myself



i hated that my life was revolving around a thing that is done in an hour max.. I didn't ever like sex but I had unusaul high sex drive at times .. lucky me I can now focus without having that issues again..


i couldn't focus at anything.. I couldn't deal with girls which I hated myself for .. now I'm finally able to see them as human beings and not chase them for looks but for actual feminine traits

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Ace bracelets
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is there anyone who literally cant masturbate?

Like, you don't feel anything. Never have. I know I'm ace, but I feel like this is something separate from being ace, maybe? I have (rarely) experienced arousal before to an extent but I'm in my mid twenties and never figured out how to stimulate myself. It just doesn't work. I don't feel anything when I touch down there than the expected sensitivity of touching a spot with a lot of nerve endings. No pleasure, no feel goods. I've experimented a lot, so I've always wondered if I'm just physically damaged. female genitalia, if that matters

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This is what bi-aroace muslim (26F) look like. Not ready for my conservative society to bother me about marriage and babies in few years, but Imma have fun while I can.
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I thought the aegos would enjoy this
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