Asexsual, do you tell people this?

Hi, After years of feeling bad I finally realized that I am not alone in this ❤️‍🩹
But I don't dare say it and I don't know if it's something like coming out of the closet when I'm asexual...

I'm so scared to get into a relationship because of this because I really don't want to be forced into things I don't want again. but I don't want to end up alone, I just want someone who loves who I am.

What have you done? and do you tell people or not? I've been keeping it to myself for so long.

If there is anyone around 18-25 years old who is going through the same thing and wants to talk? I have tried through different sites but I can't get in touch with someone... it would really help me to be able to talk to someone about it :( Thanks for reading and have a nice day ❤️


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Ace star bucket hat I made!

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So is it normal to want a sincere relationship without sex?

I was just a part of another subreddit and was disgusted to read that “sex” makes up the whole world but is that really true? Can’t people simply love without being physical or am I delusional? Like being ace has taught me that love doesn’t have to be that way in the slightest but still.

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Seriously I feel super out of place when my friends start talking about sex, because like... I've literally never kissed anyone and I'm still asexual



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Tell me your biggest non sexual celebrity crush

Jensen Ackles. JENSEN ACKLES.

Raaghhh I could go ON about how perfect this man is. And so friggin beautiful I love him sm. The dude can sing, has impeccable music taste, he’s literally one of the best actors I’ve ever seen, (and without much real classical training btw). He has proven many times to be good at basically anything he tries. He learned an entire tap dance routine within only fifteen minutes with barely any experience in dance. Can’t forget the fact that he also did a perfect J turn, after being offered a stunt double to do it for him, and he was just like “nah I’ll try it myself” and that mf only practiced it a couple of times over LUNCH. There’s many stories like this about him btw, but I’m not gonna overload this post lol. He’s also an amazing parent to his kids. A loving and amazing green flag of a husband to his wife. I swear this man cannot be real. Such a man simply does not exist like that.

Yes this was just so I can have an excuse to rant about Jensen Ackles. Glad you noticed lol.

(Seriously tho please share)

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Yes. Yes I'm good.
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I don't understand allos

A lot of them will end a relationship if the sex is bad, let alone if there is none.

And while I get that I don't understand them because I am not one of them - still - that whole realization has shattered my view of love.

I used to fantasize about relationships like the ones I see in shows/cartoon/books - like Marinette and Adrien from mlb, Percy and Annabeth from pjo, Hiccup and Astrid from httyd... and you mean to tell me that even couples like that, the ones who fall in love with each other because they spent time together and grew to love each other's personality, would and will break up if they don't match sexually.

And yes I know they are not real - but the point stands...

Allos could meet their equal on every level and because sex is not how they want it, that person is no longer good enough for them...

Part of me understands, they want their sexual equal too... And I couldn't be with someone who is allo, so I guess we are technically the same, it's just the realization that my favorite couple from a show could break up because of that was heart-breaking.

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Not asexual but I thought you guys might appreciate this
https://i.imgur.com/0rYnVDb.png

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I think I might be asexual. (Kind of vent)

I mean, I will have sex but it's never about getting off for me, it's more about me being close to that person. But for the most part I just don't like sex at all, not a fan. I have a lot of sexual trauma and i really just feel uncomfortable with the the whole ordeal. Me and my finacé only have sex maybe once a month, and she's been so amazing and understanding of this and she doesn't demand me for sex like previous relationships I've had. I guess me being hypersexual in the past was a result of trauma and being pushed to have sex with people I was in relationships with, none of them respected my boundaries until my finacé came along.

Probably why I'm going to marry her honestly, she communicates with me, respects my boundaries, makes sure our sexual experiences feel safe and gentle. She also just... Lets me be who I am. She doesn't try to get me to change something about myself for her.

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Made myself an aroace pfp for this June! Need some advice (hopefully this isn't against the rules)
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My demi sexual artwork
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ONE OF US ONE OF US
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I hate being asexual

I found out I was ace when I was 16, it took me so long because I was in huge denial. Since then, I absolutely hate this side of me.
I wish so damn bad I was allo, not only because of me and the need to feel anything. But also because it's always a problem in every relationship I have.
I'm currently dating an amazing dude, he doesn't mind and always respected my asexuality, I love him so much for it. But I can see that deep down, he does mind. All his attempts to make me feel something fails, he tries to hide but I know he does feel bad about it.
I also feel like him missing out on the teenager experience (I'm 18) because of my asexuality. Everyone is doing the deed or talking about it, and I just feel so left out because I don't relate at all...
Anyways, just venting

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An artist I like posted on IG some cute pride doodles and included asexuality (among many other orientations). It made me so happy!

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People using our flag and invalidating demisexuals... Ignoring the gray strip and pretending It doesn't exist... I'm tired
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Aromantic drink
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