Am I ace if i “enjoy” sex but feel no sexual attraction towards anyone?

The title is pretty self explanatory but I thought I’d elaborate a bit more to really get my point across

I’ve been questioning if I’m ace for about a year now. That started about 7-8 months after I lost my virginity. I had what could be considered pretty good sex but I don’t know if I really enjoyed it (it was always consensual!!!).

Now the way I would describe my feelings towards it would be saying I did not not enjoy it because I did experience the sexual/bodily pleasure but I’ve never felt attracted to anyone sexually.

I also recently realised that I just thought I had to want sex because everyone else did but if I think about it I never sincerely thought something like “Damn, I’m really in the mood to screw” or something like that.

So this is my situation and thought process. Can I still identify as asexual? I really want to but I’m scared to invalidate (other) aces.

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Pretty good haul from the flea market today!
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Comrades I've found the queer signal we shall use in wild
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What do you like better



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Just came out to my mom tonight!!!

She gave me a big hug afterward and all is good! 😊🖤🤍💜

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so much better
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I came out to my parents and it didn't go so good.

So I've known that I am asexual since I was 13, I'm now 19 but I've never told anyone except for a close friend.
I've been wanting to tell my parents for a while and so I planned it and I told them this morning. It went awful, my dad said something about how "Asexuality, sounds made up to me." and my mom agreed and added "are you sure you're just not queer? we thought you were."

When I said no, this is what I am they said "Well that sounds nice, but I'm sure you'll grow out of it when you meet the right person." I said I won't and they said "whatever" and gave an eyeroll.

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Bruh that was like a punch to the gut.

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So...

Is normal for asexuals not understanding kinks or am I just stupid (btw my freinds are alright If I ask them about their kinks)

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Something that i want to say.

I've made some posts here and i want to say something,

I think Asexuals, to my experience, are generally very open minded and welcoming which has been a great thing so far.

I've had some bad encounters that i think many of them comes down to misunderstandings, but except those few examples, Asexuals are generally very tolerant people and it's a pleasure to be in this sub and see you guys and gals.

Keep up with the tolerance which is very valuable nowadays.

Again thank you all the open minded and tolerant users of this sub.

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Dan Savage admits to being wrong about Asexuality. Taken from the NPR interview about his new book.
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Favorite asexual character in media

Who is your favorite asexual character in movies, tv shows, books or other forms of media

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Sex favorable aces are real and valid.

This sub is starting to feel sex negative, not in a "it's just not for me" thing but in a "sex is DIRTY and EVIL!" way. I'm not into sex, I don't like it, but even I'm starting to get that feeling from here, I'm seeing more posts from people asking if they're "still ace" if they like fetishes or porn and all that, and I'm worried that maybe the sex favorable/positive aces are going to start feeling less valid or even excluded in their own community when we already face discrimination from straight people and a few corners of the LGBT community at large.

I think it's easy to forget that not all aces are sex repulsed, and that it might be a good time to check up on the favorable ace friends and how they're doing.

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what’s an allo? (wrong answers only)



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To all my ace trans folks (myself included)
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Seriously, can you not wait for five more minutes?
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P A N D A
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paper mario 64 was a big eye opener too.
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I redesigned the abiitsexual and abiitromanic flags

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