My 9yo cousin asked me to make rainbow loom bracelets and I was surprised to see it was our colors she chose!
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Which sexual trope commonly used on media you dislike the most?
I really hate the "Harem" trope that is the main theme of a lot of anime.
I think the easier way to explain it is "the shows where literally every girl in the universe fall in love for the protagonist for absolutelly no reason".
This appeals to a specific kind of fantasy that disgust me to the core.
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I really hate the "Harem" trope that is the main theme of a lot of anime.
I think the easier way to explain it is "the shows where literally every girl in the universe fall in love for the protagonist for absolutelly no reason".
This appeals to a specific kind of fantasy that disgust me to the core.
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Which sexual trope commonly used on media you dislike the most?
I really hate the "Harem" trope that is the main theme of a lot of anime. I think the easier way to explain it is "the shows where literally...
Someone I know online said something really stupid about asexuality
I was in a group call with a few other people and I mentioned I'm asexual and this one guy goes "heh, asexuality doesn't exist! What do you do, divide in half when you have sex?"
Like HOW CAN PEOPLE BE THIS STUPID. I thought this was just some joke, not that people actually thought this!
And then when I explained what it really means to them they went "that's impossible, everyone feels attracted to other people, you're just lying to try to fit in." Then he said some stuff about how anything is considered LGBT these days and how people just want to be considered special.
The other people in the call (who are all either supportive of LGBT stuff or indifferent, and actually good people) changed the subject but I left shortly after.
This kind of stuff just really grinds my gears. I'm honestly just at a loss for words.
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I was in a group call with a few other people and I mentioned I'm asexual and this one guy goes "heh, asexuality doesn't exist! What do you do, divide in half when you have sex?"
Like HOW CAN PEOPLE BE THIS STUPID. I thought this was just some joke, not that people actually thought this!
And then when I explained what it really means to them they went "that's impossible, everyone feels attracted to other people, you're just lying to try to fit in." Then he said some stuff about how anything is considered LGBT these days and how people just want to be considered special.
The other people in the call (who are all either supportive of LGBT stuff or indifferent, and actually good people) changed the subject but I left shortly after.
This kind of stuff just really grinds my gears. I'm honestly just at a loss for words.
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Someone I know online said something really stupid about asexuality
I was in a group call with a few other people and I mentioned I'm asexual and this one guy goes "heh, asexuality doesn't exist! What do you do,...
Family pressure is so frustrating
Ever since I started university (a year ago) my family has been directly and indirectly pressuring me to get a girlfriend and some have even told me directly to just get laid. As an aro ace, that's something I just can't do since it makes me extremely uncomfortable and anxious. Most of you probably have the same problem, but it's just unbelivable to me that people can treat others - even their own children or siblings like the purpuse of our life is simply reproduction and bringing more children so they can then produce more children. Like, if you're not ready to embrace me as I am, then why bring me into this world? I just hope I can start living on my own so I can make my own rules and not have to listen to s*it like this when they know very well what I'm like.
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Ever since I started university (a year ago) my family has been directly and indirectly pressuring me to get a girlfriend and some have even told me directly to just get laid. As an aro ace, that's something I just can't do since it makes me extremely uncomfortable and anxious. Most of you probably have the same problem, but it's just unbelivable to me that people can treat others - even their own children or siblings like the purpuse of our life is simply reproduction and bringing more children so they can then produce more children. Like, if you're not ready to embrace me as I am, then why bring me into this world? I just hope I can start living on my own so I can make my own rules and not have to listen to s*it like this when they know very well what I'm like.
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Family pressure is so frustrating
Ever since I started university (a year ago) my family has been directly and indirectly pressuring me to get a girlfriend and some have even told...
Hypersexual vs Sex Positive
As I've been scrolling through this subreddit, I've noticed some comments along the lines of "why do we have to talk about sex at all?" or "allosexuals are disgusting." I notice that along with this, the word hypersexuality is used frequently. I wanted to take a moment and talk about the difference between a hypersexual society and a sex positive one because while both are experienced, knowing the difference can help us move to a sex positive space and ditch the hypersexuality.
Sex positive means that sex is approached with an open mind. It involves acceptance for everyone, from those who want to have sex to those who don't, from those who have same sex attractions to those who don't. It means that sex isn't a taboo subject that no one should ever talk about. Sex positivity means approaching your friend, telling them that you don't feel sexual attraction, and them saying "ok, let's talk more about this." It's knowing that you're a "real" asexual whether you're sex repulsed or enjoy having sex. It's being a safe space for your allosexual friend to talk about some of the problems they're having in their own relationship, which may relate back to sex. It's knowing that sex is a complicated topic that everyone has a different take on and no one should feel like they're not allowed to participate in the conversation. That being said, if the conversation isn't a positive one for you, then you should be allowed to voice that.
Hypersexualization, on the other hand, is incredibly harmful to everyone, whether they're allosexual or asexual or somewhere inbetween. Hypersexualization is not letting 12 year olds wear spaghetti straps to school because shoulders are distracting. Hypersexualization is objectification of someone's body. It's the strangers who feel the need to comment on how your shirt is cut. Hypersexualization is why people generally have poor body image and why porn is a terrible place to learn how to have sex and why abstinence only sex education doesn't do any better. It's degrading and negative.
But hypersexualization is not embracing one's sexuality and expressing it openly. Everyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, romantic attraction, or sexual preferences, is allowed to express themselves.
This post isn't meant to say that no one on this subreddit understands these concepts. The vast majority of you offer a welcoming space for everyone and make it so worthwhile to spend time here. I just want to have a discussion on these topics and remember that this is a positive, safe space for everyone.
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As I've been scrolling through this subreddit, I've noticed some comments along the lines of "why do we have to talk about sex at all?" or "allosexuals are disgusting." I notice that along with this, the word hypersexuality is used frequently. I wanted to take a moment and talk about the difference between a hypersexual society and a sex positive one because while both are experienced, knowing the difference can help us move to a sex positive space and ditch the hypersexuality.
Sex positive means that sex is approached with an open mind. It involves acceptance for everyone, from those who want to have sex to those who don't, from those who have same sex attractions to those who don't. It means that sex isn't a taboo subject that no one should ever talk about. Sex positivity means approaching your friend, telling them that you don't feel sexual attraction, and them saying "ok, let's talk more about this." It's knowing that you're a "real" asexual whether you're sex repulsed or enjoy having sex. It's being a safe space for your allosexual friend to talk about some of the problems they're having in their own relationship, which may relate back to sex. It's knowing that sex is a complicated topic that everyone has a different take on and no one should feel like they're not allowed to participate in the conversation. That being said, if the conversation isn't a positive one for you, then you should be allowed to voice that.
Hypersexualization, on the other hand, is incredibly harmful to everyone, whether they're allosexual or asexual or somewhere inbetween. Hypersexualization is not letting 12 year olds wear spaghetti straps to school because shoulders are distracting. Hypersexualization is objectification of someone's body. It's the strangers who feel the need to comment on how your shirt is cut. Hypersexualization is why people generally have poor body image and why porn is a terrible place to learn how to have sex and why abstinence only sex education doesn't do any better. It's degrading and negative.
But hypersexualization is not embracing one's sexuality and expressing it openly. Everyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, romantic attraction, or sexual preferences, is allowed to express themselves.
This post isn't meant to say that no one on this subreddit understands these concepts. The vast majority of you offer a welcoming space for everyone and make it so worthwhile to spend time here. I just want to have a discussion on these topics and remember that this is a positive, safe space for everyone.
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Hypersexual vs Sex Positive
As I've been scrolling through this subreddit, I've noticed some comments along the lines of "why do we have to talk about sex at all?" or...
I CAME OUT TO MY MOM!!!!
Okay, so I did…. Basically anyway!!
I didn’t actually use the word “Asexual” because I’m way too awkward to say that.
Yesterday, I was talking to my mom about my future and she said “Well, what would your wife think about that?”
And I was like “well, I actually don’t think I’m going to get married”
and she was like “Oh no, but you’ll be lonely and I don’t want that for you!”
And I said “I just don’t feel the urge or need to get married or be in a relationship”
She said okay and we carried on the conversation about my future.
And then I brought up having children again today and she said “Biological children or adoptive?”
I said “adopted because I don’t want to be in a relationship”
And she was like “Oh I know! But you could have them other ways…”
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Okay, so I did…. Basically anyway!!
I didn’t actually use the word “Asexual” because I’m way too awkward to say that.
Yesterday, I was talking to my mom about my future and she said “Well, what would your wife think about that?”
And I was like “well, I actually don’t think I’m going to get married”
and she was like “Oh no, but you’ll be lonely and I don’t want that for you!”
And I said “I just don’t feel the urge or need to get married or be in a relationship”
She said okay and we carried on the conversation about my future.
And then I brought up having children again today and she said “Biological children or adoptive?”
I said “adopted because I don’t want to be in a relationship”
And she was like “Oh I know! But you could have them other ways…”
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I CAME OUT TO MY MOM!!!!
Okay, so I did…. Basically anyway!! I didn’t actually use the word “Asexual” because I’m way too awkward to say that. Yesterday, I was talking...
Why are we so disliked?
I was on Instagram and saw a post perpetuating some really hetero-allo ideas and completely leaving out other people. Some people in the comments were talking about how the OP should take into consideration that gay/lesbian/bi people need to be included so I thought I’d comment about asexuality. It wasn’t anything crazy I just said that we should keep in mind that other sexualities exist and that being ace/aro or under that umbrella is just as normal.
Few days later, I went on Instagram and had some replies to my comment and I kid you not, all but one of the 15 replies I got were either ignorant or just completely brushing me off and even insulting me. They said I’m taking things too far(?) and that I need to stfu because I’m being an SJW(?) and that I’m “too woke” among other things. One person even quoted my bio (I have ace in my bio) and said “of course you’d say that 🤢” emoji and all. I just blocked everyone who replied that sort of thing but I didn’t see any of these kinds of replies under the comments about gay, lesbian, or bi people, it was just mine. I even saw a couple of the same accounts replying really encouraging things to those comments but for mine, they told me I’m too dramatic and how I’m making people take the LGBT+ community less seriously when I talk about asexuality.
It really hurt to say the least. My comment was literally just “I just wanted to say that being under the ace umbrella is normal too and we should nurture an environment where everyone can explore these parts of themselves with no judgement or pressure to adhere to certain things society often tries to force on us.” That was it. And I’m being dramatic and taking away from the original point and all that? But when the comment is about other sexualities, it’s fine?
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I was on Instagram and saw a post perpetuating some really hetero-allo ideas and completely leaving out other people. Some people in the comments were talking about how the OP should take into consideration that gay/lesbian/bi people need to be included so I thought I’d comment about asexuality. It wasn’t anything crazy I just said that we should keep in mind that other sexualities exist and that being ace/aro or under that umbrella is just as normal.
Few days later, I went on Instagram and had some replies to my comment and I kid you not, all but one of the 15 replies I got were either ignorant or just completely brushing me off and even insulting me. They said I’m taking things too far(?) and that I need to stfu because I’m being an SJW(?) and that I’m “too woke” among other things. One person even quoted my bio (I have ace in my bio) and said “of course you’d say that 🤢” emoji and all. I just blocked everyone who replied that sort of thing but I didn’t see any of these kinds of replies under the comments about gay, lesbian, or bi people, it was just mine. I even saw a couple of the same accounts replying really encouraging things to those comments but for mine, they told me I’m too dramatic and how I’m making people take the LGBT+ community less seriously when I talk about asexuality.
It really hurt to say the least. My comment was literally just “I just wanted to say that being under the ace umbrella is normal too and we should nurture an environment where everyone can explore these parts of themselves with no judgement or pressure to adhere to certain things society often tries to force on us.” That was it. And I’m being dramatic and taking away from the original point and all that? But when the comment is about other sexualities, it’s fine?
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Why are we so disliked?
I was on Instagram and saw a post perpetuating some really hetero-allo ideas and completely leaving out other people. Some people in the comments...
why is the community not ready for this talk?
tw// mention of aphobia, little bit of a vent
cis - identifying as the same gender you were born as.
het- hetero-romantic (in this case)
i feel like the lgbtqia+ community isn’t ready to accept that there are cishet straight people in the community. i feel safe posting this here because we are all fellow a-spec people no matter where you are on the spec.
i’ve seen some pretty nasty things towards cishet people in general on social media; about how we will never be apart of the community and we are just holding the community hand if you will. just completely disregarding cis, straight a-spec people. i don’t know; maybe i just take it to heart since i’ve never really felt fully accepted in the community as a whole and i’m a cishet ace.
i’d like to hear everyone opinions on it too! do you think i’m overthinking it or do you agree? :)
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tw// mention of aphobia, little bit of a vent
cis - identifying as the same gender you were born as.
het- hetero-romantic (in this case)
i feel like the lgbtqia+ community isn’t ready to accept that there are cishet straight people in the community. i feel safe posting this here because we are all fellow a-spec people no matter where you are on the spec.
i’ve seen some pretty nasty things towards cishet people in general on social media; about how we will never be apart of the community and we are just holding the community hand if you will. just completely disregarding cis, straight a-spec people. i don’t know; maybe i just take it to heart since i’ve never really felt fully accepted in the community as a whole and i’m a cishet ace.
i’d like to hear everyone opinions on it too! do you think i’m overthinking it or do you agree? :)
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why is the community not ready for this talk?
tw// mention of aphobia, little bit of a vent cis - identifying as the same gender you were born as. het- hetero-romantic (in this case) i...