I love being asexual!
I just really love it, and I will elaborate on this single idea for the next few paragraphs.
I realized I am asexual like 11 months ago, right when I was suffering a bad depressive episode, My academic career was in hold, I was just recovering from COVID, my best friend wasn't talking to me, another important friend got mad at me for no reason, I was unemployed and didn't really had any inspiration to fix anything because everything was at least "not awful".
Well, like many of you, Bojack Horseman helped a lot, then this subreddit satisfied all my curiosity about the topic. Oh man, that episode when Todd goes to the Ace meet up, with all the colorful people and that sign "All Aces Welcome." I don't know, it sticked with me.
Reading experiences and reading about attractions just made things more confusing, I was in denial "This sounds pretty much like me, but how about that time I...", the next day "Oh so that's not how all people feel? well but the it doesn't make sense because I enjoy this and that. Nah, I can't be asexual" and 5 minutes later "oh! so sexual attraction and sexual desire isn't the same? So what was the one that make me asexual again?".
Then I remember the snap moment, nothing but my thoughts trigger it. I was just sitting in my desk having a coffee while playing some Cookie Clicker (do not google it if you value your next week) and listening Black Sabbath. I was just sitting for minutes thinking and I just shacked my head and said with a low voice "Soy asexual" (I am asexual) and it felt so....good, so much guilt and anger and confusion and self-hate just instantly forgiven by a mere phrase, no, an idea. "I am asexual".
That was just the beginning. I met people, I learned a lot, I became a better more understanding person, I started appreciating my family more, I slowly felt way less depressed, I met so many great people, I co-founded a small community of aces from all over Latin America, I got a job, I got new friends, I started seeing a therapist and now I am just so good, I have a new life, that is at the same time my old life, but it looks better just because I don't feel awful living it.
The world is legitimately a better place since I realized I am ace, I love you guys and I really feel like we all have an invisible connection that nobody can ever break because we know how it feels to be told that you are broken, inadequate, fake and non existent. Well you are not, you, the one reading this, you are something amazing and this world will never find a way to show how special and incredible you are.
To quote Captain Holt from B99 "every time someone steps up and says who they are the world becomes a better more interesting place".
Thus here I am, and I am proud to say I am asexual!
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I just really love it, and I will elaborate on this single idea for the next few paragraphs.
I realized I am asexual like 11 months ago, right when I was suffering a bad depressive episode, My academic career was in hold, I was just recovering from COVID, my best friend wasn't talking to me, another important friend got mad at me for no reason, I was unemployed and didn't really had any inspiration to fix anything because everything was at least "not awful".
Well, like many of you, Bojack Horseman helped a lot, then this subreddit satisfied all my curiosity about the topic. Oh man, that episode when Todd goes to the Ace meet up, with all the colorful people and that sign "All Aces Welcome." I don't know, it sticked with me.
Reading experiences and reading about attractions just made things more confusing, I was in denial "This sounds pretty much like me, but how about that time I...", the next day "Oh so that's not how all people feel? well but the it doesn't make sense because I enjoy this and that. Nah, I can't be asexual" and 5 minutes later "oh! so sexual attraction and sexual desire isn't the same? So what was the one that make me asexual again?".
Then I remember the snap moment, nothing but my thoughts trigger it. I was just sitting in my desk having a coffee while playing some Cookie Clicker (do not google it if you value your next week) and listening Black Sabbath. I was just sitting for minutes thinking and I just shacked my head and said with a low voice "Soy asexual" (I am asexual) and it felt so....good, so much guilt and anger and confusion and self-hate just instantly forgiven by a mere phrase, no, an idea. "I am asexual".
That was just the beginning. I met people, I learned a lot, I became a better more understanding person, I started appreciating my family more, I slowly felt way less depressed, I met so many great people, I co-founded a small community of aces from all over Latin America, I got a job, I got new friends, I started seeing a therapist and now I am just so good, I have a new life, that is at the same time my old life, but it looks better just because I don't feel awful living it.
The world is legitimately a better place since I realized I am ace, I love you guys and I really feel like we all have an invisible connection that nobody can ever break because we know how it feels to be told that you are broken, inadequate, fake and non existent. Well you are not, you, the one reading this, you are something amazing and this world will never find a way to show how special and incredible you are.
To quote Captain Holt from B99 "every time someone steps up and says who they are the world becomes a better more interesting place".
Thus here I am, and I am proud to say I am asexual!
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I love being asexual!
I just really love it, and I will elaborate on this single idea for the next few paragraphs. I realized I am asexual like 11 months ago, right...
How did you guys realize you were asexual?
I haven't interacted with very many ace people, so I'd like to hear how you all realized you were ace or on the asexual spectrum :)
I'll go first, I think my story is very boring, but it's a little funny to me:
I was looking through my recommended Instagram feed a few years back. I saw a post that was something like "what is asexuality?" I saw the flag and thought, "Oh, those are my favorite colors!" I read about it and said to myself, "Hmm, that sounds a lot like me. I guess I'm asexual," and moved on with my day. Nothing super exciting, just an "ok, cool, anyway" (unlike the gender crisis during quarantine but that's an ongoing saga).
Honestly, I'm a little surprised I didn't know sooner. Dragons, cake, space, etc have always been a huge part of my personality. I have a conservative family so I was never taught about the LGBTQ+ community by anyone; I find it funny that I have been the stereotypical ace by default.
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I haven't interacted with very many ace people, so I'd like to hear how you all realized you were ace or on the asexual spectrum :)
I'll go first, I think my story is very boring, but it's a little funny to me:
I was looking through my recommended Instagram feed a few years back. I saw a post that was something like "what is asexuality?" I saw the flag and thought, "Oh, those are my favorite colors!" I read about it and said to myself, "Hmm, that sounds a lot like me. I guess I'm asexual," and moved on with my day. Nothing super exciting, just an "ok, cool, anyway" (unlike the gender crisis during quarantine but that's an ongoing saga).
Honestly, I'm a little surprised I didn't know sooner. Dragons, cake, space, etc have always been a huge part of my personality. I have a conservative family so I was never taught about the LGBTQ+ community by anyone; I find it funny that I have been the stereotypical ace by default.
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How did you guys realize you were asexual?
I haven't interacted with very many ace people, so I'd like to hear how you all realized you were ace or on the asexual spectrum :) I'll go...
Tell me your ace without telling me your ace haha
So basically my friend was talking to me about a boy. And like I was looking at the situation in such an innocent way. Like she was like I really like this boy, but I don’t know if I should tell him. And I was about to be like: just give him that look and those eyes and initiate a kiss… but I didn’t get to say that because she started to say like we hookup, but that’s it… I just laughed in my head because I totally was like wow what an ace moment for me.
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So basically my friend was talking to me about a boy. And like I was looking at the situation in such an innocent way. Like she was like I really like this boy, but I don’t know if I should tell him. And I was about to be like: just give him that look and those eyes and initiate a kiss… but I didn’t get to say that because she started to say like we hookup, but that’s it… I just laughed in my head because I totally was like wow what an ace moment for me.
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Tell me your ace without telling me your ace haha
So basically my friend was talking to me about a boy. And like I was looking at the situation in such an innocent way. Like she was like I really...
Ace Online Dating Kinda Sucks
I recently tried online dating and put "Asexual" in my bio for the first time. Not only could I not find any other ace people but the people who messaged me were really rude about it. I got asked how serious I was about being and if they could "change my mind." I'm not even opposed to dating a non ace person, but I really didn't expect it to be this rough.
One guy just straight up sent a dick pic and asked if I was into it.
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I recently tried online dating and put "Asexual" in my bio for the first time. Not only could I not find any other ace people but the people who messaged me were really rude about it. I got asked how serious I was about being and if they could "change my mind." I'm not even opposed to dating a non ace person, but I really didn't expect it to be this rough.
One guy just straight up sent a dick pic and asked if I was into it.
https://redd.it/pr4sik
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Ace Online Dating Kinda Sucks
I recently tried online dating and put "Asexual" in my bio for the first time. Not only could I not find any other ace people but the people who...
For the Aces. Where are you on the Asexual Spectrum?
(P.S. If you're going to vote, you might as well upvote. It helps a lot! )Hi there, this is part of a series of polls I'm conducting across a few Queer subreddits. I'm curious to see the results. Now, Reddit only allows 6 options in a poll, so I had to clump some stuff together. Please be respectful in the comments.
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(P.S. If you're going to vote, you might as well upvote. It helps a lot! )Hi there, this is part of a series of polls I'm conducting across a few Queer subreddits. I'm curious to see the results. Now, Reddit only allows 6 options in a poll, so I had to clump some stuff together. Please be respectful in the comments.
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Seriously had someone try to explain to me, an asexual, how asexuality works….
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Seriously had someone try to explain to me, an asexual, how...
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"How do you think a full or queen bed would look in my room?"
Yes. I'm sure most of us at one point have done it - trying to upgrade from a twin or a twin xl to a full or queen size bed. (It's comfier!) Also, it has probably happened when you still live/lived with your parents.
I want one this coming Christmas, and I'm saving up for it beginning now. I'm getting one with drawers underneath and everything, so I will not need my dresser anymore. (Trying to go minimalist, lol!) I am a teenager, and quite an old one for that matter, so of course, most parents will think of something different than comfort when their kid asks them if they can have a bigger bed.
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Me: "Hey, how do you think a full or queen bed would look/be placed in my room?"
Mom: "Oh my god, you've just started school! And you're way too young!"
Me, looking confused: "Uh...I got a twin bed like 10 years ago...it feels pretty small now, even though I'm not the biggest person."
Mom, looking worried: "You don't need a full bed! That'll take up way too much room!"
Me: "Not really, it will have drawers so I can get rid of my dresser and mount my TV to the wall instead. Remember you even said it would be a good idea to close off the under-bed area because of dust?"
Mom: "I guess you're right -but remember, it's just for you!"
Me, grinning in happiness (with mom looking confused): "Thanks! Perfect!"
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Yes. I'm sure most of us at one point have done it - trying to upgrade from a twin or a twin xl to a full or queen size bed. (It's comfier!) Also, it has probably happened when you still live/lived with your parents.
I want one this coming Christmas, and I'm saving up for it beginning now. I'm getting one with drawers underneath and everything, so I will not need my dresser anymore. (Trying to go minimalist, lol!) I am a teenager, and quite an old one for that matter, so of course, most parents will think of something different than comfort when their kid asks them if they can have a bigger bed.
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Me: "Hey, how do you think a full or queen bed would look/be placed in my room?"
Mom: "Oh my god, you've just started school! And you're way too young!"
Me, looking confused: "Uh...I got a twin bed like 10 years ago...it feels pretty small now, even though I'm not the biggest person."
Mom, looking worried: "You don't need a full bed! That'll take up way too much room!"
Me: "Not really, it will have drawers so I can get rid of my dresser and mount my TV to the wall instead. Remember you even said it would be a good idea to close off the under-bed area because of dust?"
Mom: "I guess you're right -but remember, it's just for you!"
Me, grinning in happiness (with mom looking confused): "Thanks! Perfect!"
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"How do you think a full or queen bed would look in my room?"
Yes. I'm sure most of us at one point have done it - trying to upgrade from a twin or a twin xl to a full or queen size bed. (It's comfier!) Also,...