Why do allos have to immediately doubt you or start explaining intimacy to you when you express being asexual?
So I'm over in r/women and a question is posed about enjoying one-night stands or hoopkups and I answer by saying that all hookups and one-night stands I've been a part of have been miserable and unfulfilling experiences just like every time I have sex. I then go on to say that this plays a role in my asexuality. Cue the allos jumping into my mentions telling me I haven't met the right person yet to sleep with or explaining to me how intimacy works.
I don't need sex explained to me. I'm not missing out on things. I'm just asexual and I don't want to have to go into every little detail on why I identify under that label. Why do people need to immediately doubt me when I mention this? I'm currently in a relationship with another woman and she respects my desire not to have sex. It isn't an issue.
It feels so disrespectful... Just believe what other people say about themselves...
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So I'm over in r/women and a question is posed about enjoying one-night stands or hoopkups and I answer by saying that all hookups and one-night stands I've been a part of have been miserable and unfulfilling experiences just like every time I have sex. I then go on to say that this plays a role in my asexuality. Cue the allos jumping into my mentions telling me I haven't met the right person yet to sleep with or explaining to me how intimacy works.
I don't need sex explained to me. I'm not missing out on things. I'm just asexual and I don't want to have to go into every little detail on why I identify under that label. Why do people need to immediately doubt me when I mention this? I'm currently in a relationship with another woman and she respects my desire not to have sex. It isn't an issue.
It feels so disrespectful... Just believe what other people say about themselves...
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Why do allos have to immediately doubt you or start explaining...
So I'm over in r/women and a question is posed about enjoying one-night stands or hoopkups and I answer by saying that all hookups and one-night...
I want a FWB relationship, but the only benefits are hugs and cuddling
That's it. No sex stuff. No romance stuff like kissing. But we hug and cuddle. Like during movies and wrapped in a blanket. And give each other head pats and snuggle.
And instead of sex toys, we use & gift normal toys. Like cute stuffed animals. And instead of booking some hotel room, we'd book a cabin and spent the weekend just reading and drawing and cuddling in front of the fireplace. And otherwise we're normal friends, like we go to cafes and have picnics.
Honestly, I even thought about paying a prostitute just for getting cuddled all night, but in the end I don't think I'd want that. It would be weird to pay a stranger for cuddling. Especially a strange man. No, no, I have to like that person as much as I want to be cuddled.
Seriously, I want to be hugged ; ^ ;
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That's it. No sex stuff. No romance stuff like kissing. But we hug and cuddle. Like during movies and wrapped in a blanket. And give each other head pats and snuggle.
And instead of sex toys, we use & gift normal toys. Like cute stuffed animals. And instead of booking some hotel room, we'd book a cabin and spent the weekend just reading and drawing and cuddling in front of the fireplace. And otherwise we're normal friends, like we go to cafes and have picnics.
Honestly, I even thought about paying a prostitute just for getting cuddled all night, but in the end I don't think I'd want that. It would be weird to pay a stranger for cuddling. Especially a strange man. No, no, I have to like that person as much as I want to be cuddled.
Seriously, I want to be hugged ; ^ ;
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I want a FWB relationship, but the only benefits are hugs and cuddling
That's it. No sex stuff. No romance stuff like kissing. But we hug and cuddle. Like during movies and wrapped in a blanket. And give each other...
No idea what yahoo answers is up to but I'm mad I can't eat chicken nuggets
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I understand that it happens, but everything beyond genital preferences is a mystery to me
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Brain say no I say no body say yes [OC]
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These popped up on my Instagram feed and they give off so much Ace energy (credits to the artist @neilkohney on Instagram)
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“You will change your mind”
I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just confused”. I already heard all that stuff when I came out as queer, but I noticed that, especially with asexuality, people are always saying that “I will change my mind”. And I find it extremely disturbing that grown ass adults would want a kid to be sexually active. Like, isn’t that the dream of every single parent, a child who has a)no risk of getting pregnant, or at least willingly b)no risk of catching STI’s ? I don’t know it’s just weird to expect literal kids to have sex so they can conform to whatever norm.
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I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just confused”. I already heard all that stuff when I came out as queer, but I noticed that, especially with asexuality, people are always saying that “I will change my mind”. And I find it extremely disturbing that grown ass adults would want a kid to be sexually active. Like, isn’t that the dream of every single parent, a child who has a)no risk of getting pregnant, or at least willingly b)no risk of catching STI’s ? I don’t know it’s just weird to expect literal kids to have sex so they can conform to whatever norm.
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“You will change your mind”
I’m still a teenager, so every time I mention asexuality, adults tend to say the usual stuff such as “you’re too young to know” or “you’re just...
I'm not saying he wasn't rude. I'm just saying he was clearly not interested.
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